I wanted to go places and do things but was so nervous that someone might get a glimpse of my bra as I opened it or, god forbid, a flash of skin,she recalls. Her attitude changed after a few weeks and she became resentful and angry.
I never intended to fully disrobe in the mall but I hated the fact that I couldn't focus on my daughter's needs -- I had to focus on whether somebody might be seeing more than they should.Stephanie became increasingly defiant and after a few months would actually seek out places
that might ruffle a few feathers.
I love nursing in public and I don't put a ton of effort into hiding it,she admits.
I'm not saying breastfeeding should be about shock value, but I feel strongly about nursing and am proud of it. I don't look down, I don't feel embarrassed, and I look people right in the eye.
Remember, be discreet, but not invisible, confident but not aggressive. Use a blanket as a cover up, if you like, but if your baby won't tolerate warm flannel over his head, who can blame him? Remember that nursing in public not only meets your baby's needs, but does a public service.
Barbara L. Behrmann, Ph.D. is a writer, researcher, and author of The Breastfeeding Café: Mothers Share the Joys, Secrets & Challenges of Nursing, University of Michigan Press, 2005. She is a frequent speaker around the country and is available for talks, readings, and conducting birthing and breastfeeding writing circles. The mother of two formerly breastfed children, Barbara lives in upstate New York. Visit her website at www.breastfeedingcafe.com.
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