Community Guidelines

by Staff

Community GuidelinesUnlike other online communities, we don't want to bombard our members with a bunch of unreasonable rules. All that does is leave you feeling stifled that you wonder if you are back in kindergarten (and you're not)!

Our guidelines are simple and based on common sense, respect for others, and the basic grounds of civility. We aren't serving as "police" or "big brother". We prefer to spend our time continually improving the site and your experience here at

We've outlined the basic principles to govern our community. We expect that these guidelines will enable the community to remain focused on its original intent -- a place for support, enrichment, camaraderie, and of course fun! Do understand that these apply to all areas of our site and all content posted (both public and private).

1) The Golden Rule

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This statement, (and those similar), have been offered for thousands of years. It is oft mentioned in the tenants of various religions, by philosophers and common men alike.

Considering its proven record we felt it should apply here. Let's be adults that can communicate without the personal attacks, bashing, mocking, and/or demeaning of one another, or harassment. You aren't required to agree 100% of the time, but if you disagree please do so in a civil manner. We can guarantee if you don't that others will certainly call you on it.

Private messages are meant to be just that. Please do not re-post, share, reference, or quote either in whole or in part. Doing so will risk the loss of this privilege and may, at minimum, a temporary ban from the site. Due to privacy concerns and our inability to prove authenticity of off site messages, we also must prohibit re-posting of emails, instant message conversations, and any other private communication on site.

Please practice common sense. Within our community we cover a wide range of topics ranging from fertility methods, birthing/pregnancy matters, feeding, parenting, education, discipline, spirituality, political, lifestyle options, and more. If you visit a forum that is in opposition to your own point of view, you can expect to be offended.

Our advice is to recognize this in advance and elect not to visit those areas. At all times, our support boards should be respected for the topic they represent. Those wishing to debate, may do so in our Debate Arenas.

If it turns out that you are indeed hurting another person on a board, comment area or in chat, then you must be prepared to also accept the consequences of your actions. Again, it is not our desire to baby-sit adults. Act responsibly, show respect for others, and treat others as you wish to be treated. In doing so, we all can enjoy our time here!

2) Trolling, Advertising, and Spam

It happens everywhere on the web and it is hard to avoid. We'd like to mention here that if you plan on using this site to further an MLM scheme, shamelessly advertise a product, site, or service (without permission) or just want to cause havoc and chaos that we will get rid of those postings or comments and disable your account. We won't tolerate rude behavior. Read our terms of use as well and be familiar with it.

"Trolling" our community will not be tolerated in any circumstance. Trolling is defined as purposefully attempting to deceive members regarding your identity or submissions. This includes but is not limited to, posting false or misleading information; provoking drama; passing yourself off as a "legitimate" member; stealing another person's identity, photos, etc; misusing another member's account.

Due to the disruptive nature that trolling causes our groups and community at large, the consequences of this action are severe -- a permanent ban of any current and future accounts within our community.

As for posting web addresses to other sites, we don't mind if you do it but only if it helps someone with information or advice we don't have here. Do it once or twice where appropriate (not multiple times all over the boards), use common sense and netiquette.

We request that our members refrain from posting on the boards specific events that are alternatives to the normal routine at

Some inappropriate examples would include telling members to go elsewhere to meet off-site or purposefully using our site to promote another community/group without permission such as a public or private Facebook group.

Because our community is so open, this behavior affects the site as a whole and can be extremely disruptive. We ask that you respect your community and the other members using it. If we find that a member is purposely attempting to move our members off-site, (whether publicly or privately), it will be dealt with accordingly, including disablement of the account.

3) Copyright infringement

Please don't plagiarize. If you have permission to reprint something - great! If not, please don't quote or post it without the proper consent. If you found research on the web, simply include a link to the article. We can get into trouble, not to mention it isn't a nice thing to do to the original author.

4) Vulgar/Offensive Language & Restrictions on Post Content, Chat Messages, Tags, User Names

We don't want to restrict your right to display personal views, ideology, etc. but request that you continue to remain respectful of others. Please refrain from including profanity, violence, obscenity, lewd, or sexually explicit content within your posts in deference to (or as a courtesy to) your fellow members and their families. Do understand that these restrictions apply to all areas of our site and all content posted (including user names, comments, reviews, etc.)

Also, while we agree that the human body is beautiful, images containing full nudity are prohibited. We do not have time to moderate and discern cases of "artistic nudity" vs. images that would be deemed inappropriate for this type of setting - particularly when that judgment is often determined by the eye of the beholder.

Likewise, this does also extend to our "tagging" feature as well. Note: This applies to images, videos, and other content from off site. Content posted within our public forums and within chat must adhere to our guidelines and terms of use. While we are not a site for children, as a parenting community there is a "reasonable expectation" that the site is family friendly. If you feel you simply must express yourself using these means we actually have private forums and chats just for you to do so within your post instead.

It is NEVER okay to use racial or other discriminatory remarks. While you are welcome to express your belief/point of view, understand that you're expected to be able to do so without mocking, bashing, or demeaning someone's views or beliefs. It's an issue of respect for all your fellow members and non-members alike that are subjected to reading.

5) Donation drives, solicitations, and research studies

All donation/charity drives and solicitations posted on site must be approved by management prior to posting. Unfortunately, we are not able to consider requests for personal reasons (financial hardships, new computers for members, or to gain funding for continuing education, etc.). Requests considered must be for serious cause, proven via a verifiable source (such as a news agency or public service) or for a national foundation such as the March of Dimes, American Cancer Society, with all monies directly donated to the charity.

All research studies and surveys must be reviewed by us prior to posting. In order to insure that all posted studies on-site are ones that we do believe will benefit our members we have developed some basic criteria in order to meet approval. All others will be deleted and the account deactivated. If you would like more information on any of the above, simply email us with your request.

6)Buddy/Ignore Lists

We are pleased to offer this feature to our members, both accessible via your profile ("User CP section" on the current forums). Buddy lists are fun ways to keep track of your friends on-site. We recognize that with a community of this size, there may be those that no matter what, annoy us! Rather than allow this to negatively affect your experience here at, please use this feature. We ask our members to not share or display either their buddy or ignore list. This can cause hurt feelings which is not the purpose of this feature. If you do this, you will find your account, at minimum, temporarily deactivated.

7) Signature and Avatar Guidelines.

Please notice we have specific guidelines for these privileges. Please see the section below.

  1. Image dimensions and File Size Limitations:
    • Avatars - You may include a small graphic image below your details in posts. Only one image can be displayed at a time, its width can be no greater than 110 pixels, the height no greater than 110 pixels, and the file size no more than 391 kb.
    • Signatures - These shall be limited to 500 x 500 pixels maximum with a file size limit of 250kb maximum.
  2. Slideshows: Must adhere to the dimension and file size listed for Signatures (Dimensions: 500 x 500 pixels max File Size: 250kb max). Also, please limit to no more than 5 rotating images for the benefit of other users. At this time we are not allowing slideshows with music/audio affects that auto-start.
  3. Content: Be aware that all avatars and signatures should adhere to the same rules as listed within the Community Guidelines. Please refrain from including profanity, violence, obscenity, lewd, or sexually explicit content or that intended to purposefully mock/bash/demean within either area in deference to (or as a courtesy to) your fellow members and their families.
  4. Use of multiple (stacked) images: We ask that you contain all of your signature within the limits provided above. This includes blinkies, tickers, and other graphics. One suggestion is to create a couple of signatures and alternate them.
  5. Courtesy in use: Be courteous to one another and recognize that you do not have to include your signature with each and every post you make. This particularly applies to those within the same thread. Once is enough.

Please understand those choosing to ignore these guidelines will risk the loss of theses privilege(s) and a possible disablement of account for repeated offenses.

Why are these limitations necessary?

  • Our users, including each of you, benefit! Faster load times, less hang ups, and less space taken up on your personal (cache) computer files not to mention that we are able to enjoy what you've chosen to share!

When does this policy become effective?

  • It is in effect and on-going.

How can I re-size photographs?

  • You can either use a photo image program on your home computer (the one that you designed with).

A signature? How and where do I get one?

  • To install your avatar or signature, simply click on profile and insert the codes for each! Still have questions or need additional help? E-mail MissyJ anytime.

Dirol Dealing with Violators

At their discretion, maintains the right to temporarily or permanently remove any member that they deem is in violation of our community guidelines or terms of use from the membership list.

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