Focus on love and kindness -- It sounds like a cliché, but it's actually profound: Love is largely a matter of the will: we can choose to be loving. And that both puts us in a calmer, clearer, less irritable place and tends to elicit more cooperation from our children. Win-win!
Rick Hanson is a clinical psychologist, Jan Hanson is an acupuncturist/nutritionist, and they are raising a daughter and son, ages 13 and 16. With Ricki Pollycove, M.D., they are the authors of Mother Nurture: A Mother's Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, published by Penguin.
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