by Carol E Jordan (LilMrsJ)
It was reported in 1992 that 63% of children between the ages of 11 and 20 who were in prison, were there because they killed their mother's batterer.
Do statistics like this startle you? Do they make you think about the kind of situation the child must have been in to even think of murder as a solution? Sadly more children than you might think live in homes where domestic violence occurs on a regular basis.
Studies suggest that 3.3 - 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually1. Slightly more than half of female victims of intimate violence live in households with children under age 123. These children may be right next door to you, down the street, in your child's class at school. This may be the family that sits next to you in Church, or the cashier at the bank you speak to every week. Sometimes it is difficult to know which families live in fear of violence, while at other times it seems fairly obvious. It is important to know the signs that domestic violence is occurring in a home -- whether the children are immediately being physically assaulted or not.
In a national survey of more than 6,000 American families, 50 percent of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children2. These men may not start out abusing their entire family. Often the abuse begins with yelling and then progresses towards physical violence. Men who treat their significant other in an abusive manner are very likely to also treat their children in the same manner. Regardless, the emotional scars from witnessing the abuse are enough to trigger Post Traumatic Stress Disorder years after the abuse has ceased.
With statistics like these we can all see that many children are involved in situations where they will witness violence or be involved in violence. This realization brings us to 3 questions:
There are some very definite signs of domestic violence in a home. According to Children and Domestic Violence, the following may indicate that a child lives with domestic violence:
Note: Signs may vary with different age groups and between boys and girls. These signs may also indicate other problems.
Even children who do not receive physical injury to domestic violence will carry emotional scars. These scars are not easily healed, nor are they always easily identified at the time the abuse occurs. Children of domestic violence may:
If you know a child who is a victim of violence (even if the child is not the direct target of the violence and only witnesses it) you may contact your local Department of Human Resources, Child Protective Services or your local police department.
You can also contact any of the following agencies for help if you have witnessed or are a victim of domestic violence: