Guidelines for Choosing a Family

There's no doubt you have a picture of the best home and family for your child. Adoption creates an opportunity to make that picture a reality, by providing you with an opportunity to select the family you want to give your baby. The following questions will help spark other important issues that may be important to you in creating the best home and family for your child.

Questions to Ask

  • How long have you been married?
  • What makes you marriage work?
  • How many other children do you have, or plan to have?
  • What led to your interest in adopting?
  • Do you have any pets, and if so what kind?
  • Where do you live, and is that close to the country, city, ocean, lakes, and what’s it like there? What is the community like?
  • Do you have plans to move?
  • What is your denomination and views on religion?
  • How much contact do you expect to have with me?
  • What is you educational background?
  • What do you do for a living?
  • Will both of you work after you adopt?
  • What will make you excellent parents?
  • Tell us about your extended family. How much contact you have with them?
  • With whom will your child be spending the most time?
  • What connections through family and friends do you have with adoption?
  • What are you hobbies, interests, and dreams for the future?
  • What type of education would you want for your child?
  • Do you have a savings plan for your children’s college plans?
  • How do you handle conflict?
  • What are your beliefs about discipline?
  • What kind of future do you see for you adopted child?

Reprinted with permission from American Pregnancy Association. Permission to republish granted to Pregnancy.org, LLC.