by Ann Douglas
Your preschooler simply won't fall asleep unless you're at right along side. Ready for a change? Here's how to transition from cuddling with a parent to snoozing alone.
Your child is used to falling asleep with you right along beside. Now you want to switch over to a different bedtime routine: falling asleep alone.
Whether you help your preschooler to make this transition gradually over a period of weeks (perhaps sitting in a chair beside his bed, then out in the hall, in your own room, so that you can provide verbal reassurance) or go with a more "cold turkey" approach (in which you tuck 'em in, reassure that you're nearby, and provide reassurance as necessary) will depend on such factors as:
Make sure you have realistic expectations. If your child's spent the past several years making you part of a fall asleep ritual, it may take time for to develop an alternate bedtime routine.
You can help to develop other sleep associations (as opposed to associating you with sleep) by providing a "sleep buddy" (a stuffed animal), music or stories to listen to while drifting off to sleep, and the reassurance that you're still nearby.
Good luck in dealing with this very challenging, but also very common, sleep situation.
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Ann Douglas is the author of numerous books about pregnancy and parenting including the bestselling "The Mother of All Pregnancy Books." She regularly contributes to a number of print and online publications, is frequently quoted in the media on a range of parenting-related topics, and has appeared as a guest on a number of television and radio shows. Ann and her husband Neil live in Peterborough, Ontario. with the youngest of their four children. Learn more at her site, having-a-baby.com.
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