by Kerry Tuschhoff, HCHI, CHt
As pregnant women, we get so many negative messages about childbirth, and they take their toll, making us stay in a state of fear, producing adrenaline and other stress hormones, which cause constriction of the birthing muscles. All of these negative stories and horrid cable TV "birth" shows leave imprints on our conscious and subconscious minds that can only be detrimental to the goal of an easy, gentle and comfortable birth, since they generate fear.
We also get varied reactions to our use of hypnosis for childbirth, natural childbirth in general and our particular birthing plans. It is important to remember that whatever the reactions are, they belong to the person giving them to you, and not you. Natural childbirth using hypnosis is *very* different from what other women do and that's Ok. If its' right for you, then it's right. If you allow others to influence you , once again, it will breed doubt and fear, which will only cause pain.
The best way to avoid these negative fears is to avoid the negative influence. You can help yourself greatly by not perpetuating it; not watching the TV shows, and not allowing these stories from family, friends, and strangers. Just nicely say, "I am planning a wonderful birth and I can't hear that. Please respect my wishes and don't tell me any horror stories. Let's just change the subject. Thanks." (Especially at your baby shower!!)
We all hope that our friends, relatives and co-workers will support our birthing choices and help encourage us, but sadly that is sometimes not the case, even when we assert ourselves as above. Sometimes when you tell people, especially women that you are planning to have a really great birth experience using hypnosis; one full of empowerment and joy, little discomfort if any and that you are so confident and relaxed about this, it brings up resentment and grief that many have not addressed about their own miserable experiences. Unfortunately they may try to convince you in subtle and not-so subtle ways that it will be the same for you as it was for them (or their wives, if it's a man) and may become quite negative about hypnosis and relaxation as nothing they did worked. This is simply not going to be your experience and I suggest that everyone who is using hypnosis for birthing create and stay inside a "Bubble of Peace", where only positive messages about birthing can proliferate!
Just close your eyes and just allow your attention to move to your breathing. Now put your tongue behind your upper teeth to relax your jaw and take a deep, slow breath, to the count of 4................ and as you breathe out slowly to the count of 8, you easily begin to relax and release your body to peace and serenity.... **(Pause)
And another deep, slow breath in now,...........and as you slowly breathe out now you easily relax your emotions and you feel so good...**(Pause)
And take another deep slow breath in, hold it for 3 seconds, ....and breathe out slowly now to your mind...releasing and relaxing any tight thoughts... and you easily let go of all of today's' thoughts.. letting them drift away like little white clouds, father and farther with every breath you exhale....Good..and you're becoming so relaxed now...
Now let your breathing become even and comfortable....Good..
And say to yourself, right now...
I willingly open and expand my consciousness and awareness...(PAUSE)
And I'm completely open to all suggestions of learning, ...(PAUSE)
So that I will have and easier and more comfortable birthing...(PAUSE)
Now you will help yourself so much if you'll choose now to mentally create a very hard plastic bubble all around you. It is a protective Bubble, so nothing can penetrate it at all, and it can be any color you wish, and see-through or solid. Take some time to create it...First, make it very big....and then shrink it down to be very close to your body. Now you know you can control it...so make it any size around you that you feel comfortable with. You might want to have things in there that make you feel comfortable and safe, stuffed animals, pictures of your children, whatever. Just make sure it is all positive for you.
Now...with your own mind, strengthen your Protective Bubble even more,...take a moment to do this... knowing that from now on the only people or messages that can get it are the ones you a *allow* in..and they must be completely in alignment with your plan of having a wonderful, easy and comfortable birthing. Affirm this to yourself now as you strengthen your Bubble of Peace.
Now you can bring in anyone who is totally on board with your birthing plan..Your mate? Your doula? Any friends or family members who are*100%* on board with your plan.... Now allow their power added to yours, to strengthen your Bubble even more.......
Ok..now your Bubble of Peace is in place and will always be there for you, to protect you so that even if people begin any negativity about birth or hypnosis, you'll easily have the strength and confidence to *stop them*, (nicely, maybe)..and you know you don't want to hear that negative talk, but you'll also instantly know that anything they begin to say will bounce right off of your Bubble of Peace... and you'll take in all of the good and none of the bad...Affirm that to yourself now...All of the good and none of the bad...
So from now on, you'll easily be able to avoid watching negative TV shows, and stop allowing people to say negative things about childbirth or Birth Hypnosis, with confidence, so that your mind, inside and out will be filled with positive energy and thoughts. And remember: It is actually *never going to matter what others think about how you are planning your baby's birth - only how you feel.*
Now just take a deep breath and come back to the room... .1.....2.....and .....open your eyes, refreshed and alert now.... Good....
Hypno-moms, please remember to: Disregard the negativity, instantly bringing to mind your Bubble of Peace so that negativity will bounce right off of it. It'll protect you and your confidence will remain intact, through your own power. Stop people in their tracks when they begin, and be confident about your own birthing plan. It is actually *never* going to matter what others think about how you are planning your baby's birth - only how you feel.
Don't let what others think decide who you are.
This is the first step in your journey to taking responsibility for this birthing!
Why is this so important? The mind will create for you what you dwell upon most. Scientists call this the "Pygmalion Effect." In short, you must give your mind only positive images of childbirth on which to "feed", so that it will create what you do want in your birthing. If you spend any time dwelling on all the "what if's" and negative scenarios that others have told you or you've seen, then that is the "food" your mind will use to create your baby's birth with!
Constantly keeping a positive vision of your birthing firmly in your mind gives your subconscious "food" to produce that very thing for you. Stay in your Bubble of Peace at all times. Don't watch those horrid TV shows. Believe that you deserve to have an easy, fast and comfortable birthing. Know that it is possible, and will happen to you. Keep positive Pregnancy and Birthing Affirmations in your head, constantly, to affirm your belief systems about hypno-birthing.
Disclaimer: Hypnobabies Network, and Kerry Tuschhoff assume no responsibility or liability for the outcome of any pregnancy, labor, or birth. The content of the above information is in no way to be represented as medical advice, nor as a prescription for medical procedure. As always, you should seek the advice of a medical doctor or midwife to answer any health-related or pregnancy-related issues surrounding your pregnancy, labor and delivery, or before starting any new pregnancy-related program.
More Hypno-Birth tips...
Tip #1: Getting Started
Tip #2: Your Bubble of Peace
Tip #3: Why Create a Birth Plan?
Tip #4: A Sample Birth Plan
Tip #5: Laboring at Home
Tip #6: Do I need a Doula?
Tip #7: What to do in Early Labor
Tip #8: Getting everything You Want
Tip #9: Birthing Choices
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