by Candi Wingate
An important developmental step for every child is potty training. Most children begin using the toilet as toddlers, usually between 18-months and 3-years-old (it usually takes a little longer to potty train boys than girls). Boys, on average, can be successfully potty trained in twelve weeks. Girls, on average, can be successfully potty trained in ten weeks.
• Staying dry for at least two hours at a time.
• Having regular bowel movements.
• Being able to follow instructions.
• Being uncomfortable with dirty diapers and asking for them to be changed.
• Asking to use the potty or saying that they need to urinate or have a bowel movement.
• Showing interest in the toilet and/or wearing “big kid” underpants.
• Dress your child appropriately for potty training. Garments with elasticized waists, Velcro, and snaps are usually easy for your child to take off and put on.
• Choose a potty seat that your child can easily use on their own.
• Your child may want to personalize his/her potty: by letting him/her write his/her name on the little potty, a sense of ownership can develop. Your child may be more likely to use a potty if s/he feels it is uniquely his/hers.
• Assure your child that s/he will not fall in the potty (many children have fears of falling in a toilet while sitting on it).
• Encourage your child to use the potty at regular intervals - or whenever s/he show signs that s/he needs to go.
• Use proper terms (urinating and defecating) as well as the terms your child may be more comfortable with (peeing and pooping). Make sure that you define your terms so that your child becomes adept at using the terms him-/herself.
• Start with the basics. Both boys and girls should be shown how to potty from a seated position first. Once boys master urinating from a seated position, they can "graduate" to learning how to urinate while standing. The reason boys should learn to urinate while seated first is that bowel movements and urination often occur in the same bathroom visit...additionally, the delay in learning to urinate while standing minimizes the likelihood of your son making messes while enthralled with the spray he can create by urinating.
• Teach your child to wipe properly. Show him/her how to remove toilet paper from the roll, wipe, and throw the used toilet paper in the toilet. Instruct girls to wipe from front to back, which helps avoid urinary tract infections. (Note: your child may need help to wipe effectively, especially after a bowel movement, until about age 4 or 5).
• Be supportive and use rewards, such as stickers, when your child is successful on the potty.