Don't neglect the happy medium of candlelight. People always look sexier in the glow of fire.
A common trap! Stop thinking of sex as a baby making job! The more worried you are about hitting the exact moment at the right time, the more stressed you'll be and the less likely to conceive! Trust that it can and will happen in the right time, and that you can pay attention to your fertile times without being too rigid and mechanical about making a baby!
Basically, you want to make sure that you're taking stress out of the equation. Pay more attention to the seduction and foreplay than getting to the act. Do things like take a sensual bath or give an erotic massage to really linger in the moment. Also, explore Tantric sex. This will give sex a different focus, while keeping it experimental and fun.
What's Tantric sex? The word "tantra" stems from a Sanskrit word meaning "woven together." When your energies are fully "woven together," you create life! Tantric sex is an approach to lovemaking that stems from the ancient Indian spiritual philosophy of Tantra, which celebrates the sensual joys of realizing the divine nature of existence through your union. The major goal of Tantric sex is for two lovers to feel their individual energy connect, creating a joint energy with the energy of the universe.
The Tantric approach holds that:
• Sexuality is sacred
• All beings are connected and equal
• Sexual energy can be directed
• Your breath is key to releasing energy
• Spiritually, you and your lover are to share mutual interdependence
Free from goals, Tantric sex is about relishing your harmonious relationship right now and revering your partner and love in the sacred form of sex. There are a number of great books out there. Check out ones by LaCroix, Muir & Muir, and Link & Copeland to name a few.
About our guests: Danielle Cavallucci has been involved with health-focused advocacy for over a decade. After the birth of her first child she became a birthing mentor and a specialist in pregnancy fitness. A Reiki master and holistic practitioner, her works include founding Sensual Fusion and working with both men and women to achieve their highest potential for sensual, physical and spiritual fulfillment within the context of facilitation and re-centering.
Her energetic influence has reached thousands of mothers-to-be and their partners via internet, broadcast and written word. She works with people nationwide via telephone, teleconference and face time from her home in Laguna Beach.
Originally from Iceland, sexologist, sex educator, and relationship expert Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is the author of several books, including "Touch Me There!: A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots (Positively Sexual)" and "The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking," as well as co-author of "Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know (Positively Sexual)."
Dr. Yvonne has been featured in hundreds of media outlets around the globe, is the "sexpert" columnist and sex expert for Foxnews.com, and is a regular contributor to Men's Health UK Magazine and disaboom.com. A professor of human sexuality at Argosy University, she recently completed her post-doctoral fellowship at the University of Iceland in sexual and reproductive health services.
In 2004, she founded Sexuality Source, Inc., a communications and consulting organization specializing in the topics of sex, sexual health, sensuality, and relationships.