Nursing Discreetly

• Practice discreet nursing in front of a mirror, or have your partner watch you. Believe me, he will tell you if anything is showing, because he doesn't want any strangers to see your breasts.

• Nursing a tiny baby in public is easier than nursing a wiggly toddler. With older babies, you can begin to set limits and negotiate. Toddlers can learn that they can't pull your shirt up or play with the other breast while they are nursing, and they can also learn that they may have to wait for their feeding. Saying "You can have num-nums" (or whatever your little one calls it - my babies called it "milky-side"), when we get to the car, but not right now” is reasonable when you are standing in line at Wal-Mart. Toddlers are not always happy with the limits you set, but you have to be firm, unless you are willing to nurse on demand and have your shirt pulled up in the most embarrassing places whenever your baby feels like it.

• When you go shopping, try to nurse in the car before you go into the store. Look for nursing spots when you go inside - locate lounges or stores with areas set aside especially for nursing. You may want to try a baby sling. You can nurse while you’re walking around, and most babies love to ride in them.

• At the beach or pool, throw a beach towel over you or wear a cover-up that can be pulled up from the bottom. With most swimsuits, it is almost impossible to nurse without pulling your whole breast out. If you spend a lot of time at the pool, buying a swimsuit made especially for nursing is a good investment.

Catalogs that sell nursing clothes include Motherwear (they probably have the largest selection) at 1-800-633-0303 or www.Motherwear.com , Laura's Closet at 1-888-766-0303, decentexposures.com (good bra selection, especially larger sizes), Elizabeth Lee Designs at 1-800-449-3350 or eldesign@uwin.com (to order patterns to sew nursing clothes), and Mama Shark's Swimwear at www.milemall.com/mamasharks (to order swimsuits for nursing).

Anne SmithAnne Smith, IBCLC has breastfed a total of six children (three boys, three girls). She feels that her first hand experience plus her more than twenty years experience of counseling nursing mothers are among her most important credentials. Anne has been a La Leche Leader since 1978 and IBCLC since 1990. As a nursing mother, LLL Leader, and IBCLC, Anne has worked in many areas over the years. She has led support group meetings, taught breastfeeding classes, trained breastfeeding peer counselors to work with low income mothers, worked one-on-one with mothers to solve breastfeeding problems, helped thousands of mothers with breastfeeding questions over the phone, held workshops for health professionals on various breastfeeding topics, taught OB, Pediatric, and Family Practice Residents breastfeeding at Bowman Gray School of Medicine, and run a breast pump rental station with over 100 pumps, scales, and nursing bras for the past eleven years. We invite you to visit Anne's website.

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