by Sam Holt
During the first trimester he's not going to be able to see any real evidence that a baby actually exists so if he's starting to freak out it's likely to be about intangible things. Here's a list of common concerns for first time dads during the first trimester.
Money and Finances
Just about all guys think that having a baby is financially crippling. If he hasn't spent much time around people with kids he may not understand the lifestyle changes that you will make. Watching Being Dad will help him and so will making an appointment with a financial adviser to start getting your affairs in order. Estate planning, insurance (health, income etc) are all best addressed early to ease both of your fears and anxieties.
How will having a baby affect his space? Will there be room for all his stuff, the games room or home office? Talk to him about the adjustments that need to be made around the house and start making them slowly.
Having a baby doesn't mean that you need a mini-van but you may need to look at your car and ensure it's roadworthy, has the necessary safety features and has a trunk big enough to fit a stroller. Maybe he wants the van and you want to keep the sports car. Whatever the case, maybe it's time to review the features of your car and discuss the need (or not) for a new one.
What will it mean to your relationship now that you are pregnant? Watch our video blog titled "Preparing Your Relationship for Parenthood" and start talking about the changes ahead.
He may seem to be concerned about becoming a dad and may be taking the news well but chances are, somewhere in that vacuous grey matter are genuine fears that will surface. Start communicating and planning. You are going to need it.
About the authors: Troy Jones: Troy's company produced the Being Dad series and he has traveled the globe interviewing hundreds of new dads and experts. As a result we like to think of him as a "well renowned global guru in all things Being Dad;" sounds impressive anyway. Troy has a beautiful daughter Matilda, who appears in the Being Dad series.
Sam Holt: Best known for coming up with a new idea every five minutes it's little wonder that Being Dad was, in fact, his idea. Fortunately, Being Dad was one of Sam's better ideas and with the help of Troy and Tom it has grown way beyond all of their expectations. Sam has a son, Hugo, who is too cute to be his.
Tom Hastwell: Lured out of the corporate world by Sam and Troy, Tom has been bitten by the business bug. Troy and Sam are eagerly awaiting news that Toms wife is pregnant so that they can attach a camera crew to him for nine months and actually put him to work. Tom is currently practicing for kids.
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