Resources For Victims

Resources for victims

Websites

  • ABA Commission on Domestic Violence: Protecting yourself from your abuser is the key to a safe escape. Knowing how to cover all your tracks, who to contact and where to go when a victim has decided to leave is the key to survival. The myth is that victims will never leave their abusers, learn how to break that cycle.
  • Advocated to End Domestic Violence: Enabling a victim the power to leave their abuser is the goal of Advocates to End Domestic Violence. Providing safety and education empowers the victim to take charge of their life. Safety of the victim is the key to ending this cycle.
  • Domestic Violence Handbook: For one suffering within a domestic violence situation, it is vital to know that you are not alone. There is confidential help available arming a victim with the courage to step forward and out of a cycle of abuse before it is too late.
  • DV Survival Kit: Suddenly free of domestic violence a victim can feel alone and confused. There are so many things to do -- contacting lawyers, finding a safe place to live and just living day to day. Knowing where to look for help is the first step in breaking the cycle of abuse. Learn such skills as facing your abuser in court. Set up a support system to help survive the arduous tasks ahead of them.
  • Lesbian Partner Violence Fact Sheet: Violence appears to be about as common among lesbian couples as among heterosexual couples. However, there are special considerations. Because of homophobic environment, it is difficult for the victim to seek help from the police, victim service agencies, and battered women's shelters. Learn how to set up a safety plan, help a friend find a counselor.
  • National Violence Against Women Prevention Research Center: Victims of violence need all the help they can get. Here are plenty of resources to help those who are victims of violence. Searching for help has been made easier for those in need with all the resources placed in one location. Victims can become survivors of violence.
  • National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: Devise a safety plan on how to get out of domestic violence. Get the support you need and realize you are not alone. Learn how to protect yourself in the work place or to help a co-worker who is in a domestic violence situation. Hiring an attorney can be a burden and knowing the right questions to ask can ease that burden for the victim.
  • Victim Assistance and Compensation Program: Whether it is emotional, physical or emotional abuse there are plenty of organizations that can help victims free themselves from their abuser. Finding the help you need is the fist step in becoming a survivor of domestic violence.

Books

  • Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse, by Paul Hegstrom.
    This book will empower women to hold men accountable. It is written by a man who once abused his own spouse and overcame it. He helps women understand that they are not the ones responsible for the abuse.
  • The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics (Sage Series on Violence Against Women), by Lundy Bancroft and Jay G. Silverman.
    Ever wonder how families are affected by domestic violence? This book shows how abuse affects the whole family, including children. It also gives insight as to the behaviors of men who batter after the separation and how they will use custody as a tool of abuse. This book will help you assess risk to your children and help them recover from the domestic violence.
  • Ditch That Jerk: Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women, by Pamela Jayne.
    Ditch That Jerk is a gritty, honest, and most of all experienced view of physical and emotional abusers and their effect on victims. It will show women how to assess their partners for potential abuse and discusses warning signs and the excuses people use to explain abuse.
  • Domestic Violence: The 12 Things You Aren't Supposed to Know, by Thomas B. James.
    Domestic violence is not just a male phenomenon. Women abuse their partners too. This book opens a new door for hope of bringing an end to domestic violence.
  • It's My Life Now : Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence, by Meg Kennedy Dugan, Roger R. Hock.
    Recovering from an abusive relationship has many battles and this book gives detailed description on what you can expect once you have left the abusive relationship.
  • To Be an Anchor in the Storm: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women, by Susan Brewster.
    The author, herself a survivor, teaches how to recognize the signs of abuse, handle negative feelings, become an effective advocate, deal with the batterer, and distinguish between being an anchor and a rescuer.
  • The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond, by Patricia Evans.
    Learn how to identify a verbally abusive relationship. Find validation and understand that this is a real problem in relationships. Gain valuable insight and recommendations on what to do in this situation.
  • Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft.
    In this book you will learn about nine types of abusive men. Learn of the myths that society dispels about about abuse and common excuses that abusers use.