Sex During Pregnancy: What's His Problem?

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by Sam Holt

Today I'm taking a quick look at common problems men experience with pregnancy sex. The big questions about sex and pregnancy -- is your man a can or a can not?

We've interviewed hundreds of men around the world for our Being Dad films and it doesn't matter what color, religion or nationality you are, some men can have sex during pregnancy and some can't.

Many women have told us that when their man tells them they aren't interested or can't do it that they perceived it was because he didn't find them attractive in their later stages of pregnancy. On the contrary most guys think their partner is divine while pregnant. So what are the real and legitimate reasons that some men struggle with sex during pregnancy, particularly late stage pregnancy?

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  1. Scared of tapping the baby on the head. It is amazing that some guys still believe it's possible but I'm reliably informed it's not.

  2. They feel like someone else is in the room. Sure if it was Jessica Simpson he probably wouldn't be complaining but when he feels like his child is in the room it's understandable that he might have some issues.

  3. It's a girl. Many guys that knew they were having a girl said that it made them feel very awkward to be getting intimate with their daughter so close by...

  4. Logistics. It can seem like a logistical nightmare to find the right position so you may need to suggest how to best tackle the problem and the right angle of attack.

  5. He's scared of hurting you. Communication is the key here and talking him through what's ok and what's not; for example, not to put his weight on your stomach or having cushions at the ready is required. Assure him that it's not uncomfortable for you and that he's not going to hurt you if you're in the right position and are using the right amount of force.

  6. He thinks that his semen may induce birth. Well he's not so stupid after all as semen does contain prostaglandins which can kick start the whole shebang. It's unlikely it's going to have an effect much before the due date so once again assure him he's not going to have to perform a home birth as soon minutes after you've got down and dirty.

  7. He doesn't know that your orgasms are potentially going to be earth shattering. It's possible that female orgasms can be intensified in late stage pregnancy due to the general swelling and increased blood flow to the nether regions. He might just be interested to check that out for himself with some gentle persuasion.

  8. He's forgotten that being intimate need not be just about intercourse. There are plenty of ways that you can play around without having intercourse...maybe he needs a refresher course.

It would seem that there is a roughly even divide between men who have issues with sex during late stage pregnancy and those that don't. Remember, if your man is struggling, it's most likely due to one of the reasons above and not because he doesn't think you are beautiful.