By Missy Jaramillo
Are you expecting a baby, but don't have a partner to help you during this time? Pregnancy can be difficult enough when you have a partner, and it can be even more tough when you're single. Maybe you chose to have a baby on your own, or perhaps things just worked out this way, either way you should know that there are many resources out there to help you and if you follow the advice of other successful single moms who have gone before you you'll be just fine.
If all of your friends are married or paired up and you're the only person you know who will be raising a child by themselves, you may feel as though you're alone in having this experience. However, it's important for you to know that you're not. According to Yahoo! in 1960 about 5 percent of mothers were unwed. Now, that number is at a record high of 40 percent. More women than ever are choosing to have children without the help of a partner, and are raising healthy, successful kids. You're not the first woman to go through this, and you will not be the last. There are many support groups for single parents that you should look into so you can talk to other women and men who are raising kids on their own.
While having emotional support during your pregnancy week by week is important, it's also crucial for you to have someone there during your labor. Of course, not every gal is comfortable with having a friend present while she is delivering her baby, but there are other options. SheKnows explained how you can get someone to be there to help you during labor.
"If a mom is planning a hospital birth, the best support person for a single mom would be to hire a professional labor support person (a birth doula) for the delivery and also, a post-partum doula for after the baby to help at home," Renee Sicignano, a certified professional midwife and lactation consultant in Los Angeles, told the news source. "Having a birth doula and/or a midwife will help tremendously in alleviating the stress associated with labor."
Of course, not everyone can afford to have a doula, and if that is your case then consider surrounding yourself with family and friends, even if you're uncomfortable with idea now, you'll be happy they're there when the time comes.
"I chose a team. Why limit yourself to just one coach if you don't have to? I had a primary coach who went to the birthing classes with me and five others who were with me at various times during labor. They even had 'Team Abrams' t-shirts made up," communications strategist Tamar Abrams told SheKnows.
Yahoo explained that the old adage "fake it till you make it" is good advice to follow when you're pregnant and single. Positive talk can go a long way toward helping you feel good. For example, think about all you have to be thankful for in your life and turn them into affirmations that you say often such as "my baby and I are safe and healthy," or "I will love my baby and raise him or her to be a good and happy person."
Are you a single mother? What did you do to get though your pregnancy on your own? Did you have anyone present in the delivery room with you? Tell your story here!