"Pretty good," Zoe admitted, "but it was hard waiting that long."
"Yes, but you did it, Zoe. Kids like it more if you don't barge in on them if they're already playing a game. Next time we'll practice saying nice things to the kids while you're playing. Kids like that, too."
Remember: it takes a minimum of 21 days for children to learn a new skill, so continue helping your child rehearse the skill until she can use the skill in real life with peers. If you do not see change, your child's self-esteem plummets, or you notice a marked change in your child's personality (she pulls back, withdraws, acts out, lacks focus, etc), then seek help! Many counselors are trained in social skill development and can offer solutions. Friendship plays an enormous part of your child's self-esteem and success. Don't give up!
Michele Borba, Ed.D., is an educational psychologist, former teacher, and mom who is recognized for offering research-driven advice culled from a career of working with over one million parents, educators, and children. A frequent Today show contributor she also appears on Dr. Phil, The View, CNN American Morning, and The Early Show, Michele is the author of 22 books including her latest release, "The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries." Visit her daily blog.
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