Day Care: Have you observed it? Is it the best environment for your child? Too long a time period? Just want to make sure.
By the way, is his behavior escalating or is this the same pattern? Could something be triggering it? Change? Aggressive kids? Day care? You? Your husband? Or this has always been the pattern.
If the behavior is the same -- you're trying everything and he will not listen -- it's time to take things up a notch. He must learn to listen, not only for good development in his character but for safety reasons.
First, the day care workers.... Is there one person there who you trust who has a good sense of children's behavior and loves children. That person can be helpful. What you want is someone to guide you and can give you a second opinion. She may be able to tell you a technique that works for her (ideally you use the same technique together). Consistency is critical.
Or is there a teacher, your mother, a friend who has a good background with children that can give you advice? What you want is someone who can observe your child (since I can't) to see if there's something you're missing. Ideally whatever you try, anyone else who is with your child, needs to try the same thing.
Finally, you're concerned and my strongest advice to any parent is act on your concern. Do not wait. Talk to your pediatrician. If that doesn't help, find another pediatrician. They're going to be able to tell you normal by observing your child first hand. You want to alleviate your fears. but second you're going to need a good parenting class to help you in the next few years learn to be firm, loving, consistent towards your child to guide his behavior.
Best to you!
Michele Borba, Ed.D, is an internationally renowned educational consultant and recipient of the National Educator Award. She is a frequent guest expert on TV and NPR talk shows including Fox & Friends, The View, The Today Show, and serves on the honorary board to Parents Magazine.
She is the award-winning author of nineteen books including:
• No More Misbehavin': 38 Difficult Behaviors and How to Stop Them
• Building Moral Intelligence
• Parents Do Make A Difference
• Don't Give Me that Attitude!: 24 Selfish, Rude Behaviors and How to Stop Them. Dr. Borba is a former teacher and partner in a private practice for troubled youth. She lives in Palm Springs, Ca with her husband and three sons.
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