by Teresa J. Mitchell
Toddlers can be affectionate and charming, confrontational and obnoxious.
They never stop moving and have strong opinions on what they want. You better believe whatever it is they want, they want "it" now!
You see "terrific" toddler behavior in the playroom and you see it at the dinner table. Let's look at a few toddler 'tudes that affect mealtimes with tots.
Toddlerhood can be a maddening time for parents. These small people are transitioning from a baby into their own person. Your toddler makes you aware of preferred clothing and you can be assured, you'll also know just which foods will be tolerated -- today anyway.
Your goal is get your kid to eat enough healthy food to grow and thrive. Your child could have a different agenda.
Mealtime offers a chance for your tot to learn about the world. Food looks intriguing, feels squishy or gritty. Some things bounce, others splat. The tiny explorer can even experiment with your reactions. Fun stuff! Eating a bit might be secondary to learning.
Take advantage of "mission explore" and encourage your child to try new foods and textures. Some will be enjoyed, others accepted and some rejected outright.
Toddlers mimic your behavior and that includes eating what you eat. What a chance to expand your child's culinary repertoire! Give a small serving of what's on your plate. You scooped yours from the serving bowl, but your child will prefer it right from mom or dad.
Serve meals and snacks on a predictable schedule. A familiar and comfortable routine sets the stage for any unusual food you might offer, like diced carrots instead of mashed ones.
Your toddler knows which food taste good and how they should be arranged on the plate. During the second year, a better vocabulary expresses those opinions empathically. You're apt to hear "yuck," "dat icky" or rejection could be expressed by spitting it out and glaring. Try not to giggle -- they're being quite serious!
"Defiance appears to be a positive step in development," says Theodore Dix, associate professor of human development and family science at the University of Texas at Austin.
Many parents would willingly skip this "positive" step! You can minimize your frustration by following these concepts:
"Me do!" Take a deep breath and remind yourself that your toddler's declaration of independence is a good thing. You can foster that drive to do things by encouraging self-feeding. Whether using fingers, a spoon or a fork, your child will become more skilled at self-feeding as the weeks go by.
Toddlers know that they can help out with jobs. Instead of rolling your eyes, take advantage of that enthusiasm. When you're out shopping, ask for help picking out fruits and vegetables. Since they're handpicked, your child might be more willing to try them...or not.
During the first year, your baby was a growing machine. This year growth slows down and your child's appetite might decrease as a result. Think of a golf ball instead of a baseball when dishing up a toddler's plate.
Your child needs:
If you want your child to develop a healthy attitude towards food, follow this golden rule: You decide which foods to offer. Your child decides how much to eat, what to eat and how to eat it.