6. False -- It is possible that your son or daughter could learn to use the toilet out of fear of being punished or from being shamed for not doing what you want. But is this really how you want to help your child learn this important new skill? Instead of threatening your daughter with removal of a favorite toy, tell her that you will continue to help her grow and learn regardless of how quickly she learns. Your job is to give her the time she needs to do so, using encouragement and support. Threatening is not helpful here.
7. True -- Yes, praise your child for successfully using the potty. But be mindful of the style of praise you use. Refrain from using evaluative praise like, "Good girl," "You did great," or "That's fantastic". Evaluative praise puts the emphasis on the evaluation rather than on the behavior. Descriptive praise describes what was done and keeps the focus of your comments squarely on the behavior. "You filled the potty with your poop like a big girl," or "You made your tinkle go into the potty like a four year old," are examples of descriptive praise. Descriptive praise teaches what behavior is desired rather than evaluates the behavior. Allow your praise to teach by regularly using descriptive praise.
8. True -- Keep the learning fun. Put targets in the water for boys to aim at. Read books and play music while your child sits on the potty. Clap and sing when you're son or daughter is successful. Dad and son can stand side by side and go potty together. Make a game out of never passing up an opportunity to go potty. Keep this learning experience free from stress and worry, by allowing it to be fun.
Toilet teaching doesn't have to be filled with anxiety and strife. Following the suggestions above can result in a positive and successful toilet teaching experience for both parent and child. Enjoy the process.
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