Self-esteem is tightly tied to limit-setting. Children who are out-of-control, demanding and defiant annoy and displease most people, including the parents. The child senses people's feelings toward him but doesn't know what to do. He concludes that others don't like him much, and can feel confused, unhappy and even angry. This is another reason why effective limit-setting is so important.
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Annye Rothenberg, Ph.D., author, has been a child/parent psychologist and a specialist in child rearing and development of young children for more than 25 years. Her parenting psychology practice is in Emerald Hills, California. She is also on the adjunct faculty in pediatrics at Stanford University School of Medicine. Dr. Rothenberg was the founder/director of the Child Rearing parenting program in Palo Alto, California, and is the author of the award-winning book Mommy and Daddy Area Always Supposed to Say Yes -- Aren't They? For more information about her work, visit Perfecting Parenting Press.
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