3. One behavior can serve more than one purpose, but not simultaneously.
4. The purpose behind misbehavior can shift from one second to the next. You'll feel the change. Ask questions one and two again and proceed accordingly.
5. If we don't redirect misbehavior before we discipline, it turns the discipline into punishment and won't work as effectively.
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