by Melissa Stanton
Have you ever asked yourself, "Do I Have ADHD?" It's a thought that crosses the minds of many stay-at-home moms. Why? Because they think about the number of chores they need to do but don't get to, or the projects they start but don't finish, or the tasks they actually do but don't do well.
"I don't have a job. I'm home all day," you may tell yourself. As such, you think you should be able to complete a simple task like sorting through the bags of hand-me-downs your neighbor dropped off. But you can't get to it. Or you actually do start working through the clothes, but by day's end your bedroom is filled with piles of clothing, which your kids then find and jump in. Since you now have to start all over again, you herd the clothes into a large pile for dealing with on another day.
When your husband sees the mess and asks, "Why did you start sorting the clothes if you weren't going to finish it?" or "What's so hard about sorting clothes?" you either get really angry or you can't answer, because you can't think of a good reason why you didn't finish the job. You hadn't left the house all day, except to drive the three-year-old to and from preschool, and later to meet your kindergartner at the bus stop. You haven't even made dinner, because you've been so busy sorting the clothes. What happened?
What happened is that instead of accomplishing a big task, you've performed dozens of tiny, uninspiring, seemingly meaningless tasks and chores and errands, each of which took a little bit of time but, when added together, consumed the entire day.
For instance, imagine you're at your computer, trying to pay bills online while your toddler is entertaining herself nearby with toys. About five minutes into the banking your child approaches you with a runny nose: