In all my years of teaching parenting classes, one skill has stood out. I call it "Don't say Don't". Have you ever told your child "Don't go in the street!" and they walk out in the street? or "Don't fall!" and two seconds later they skin their knees? Why is it that children seem to do what we tell them not to do?
My son will be 4 years old in July. Over the last few weeks he has really become difficult to handle.
He fights me on almost all issues from what he is going to eat to what he wants to wear for the day. Usually I give him choices on things so that he doesn't feel powerless but it doesn't seem to matter. He seems to want to argue with everything I say these days.
Battling traffic was the easy part. Talking in front of 100+ potential clients? No sweat! Getting past "toddler separation meltdown" however.... What on earth is a parent to do?
Choices are the best tool for preventing and stopping power struggles and rebellion. There are a few ways that parents can run into problems, however, so here are a few guidelines for using choices effectively.
So my first pregnancy was when i was 15 years old and it was during my sophomore year of high school. not really my fault or anything, just put myself in a bad situation but hey couldn't change the past. but i found out my child was gonna be a boy and i was happy. when i was 16 i had him. he was due may 1st but he came 2 wks and 4 days early. it was apr. 13th 2007. he was 7lbs 6 oz and 20.5 in. long. i named him trentyn xavier. his labor/delivery was really easy, only about 5 and a half hours long and with no pain meds and vaginal, with an episiotomy. i gained about 45 pounds with it.
Dear Dr. Laura,
When my oldest son was 19 months old his father was killed by a drunk driver. He's now 3 years old going on 4 and knows his fathers picture when he sees it and knows that daddy is in heaven with angels. Lately though he's started asking if he could go to heaven to see his daddy.
I'm personally still a wreck over the accident and am not sure how I should be discussing his fathers death with him especially since I usually start to cry. Should I keep talking to him about his daddy or should I be holding off until he is older?
Hi Dr. Laura,
I have an adorable eighteen-month-old boy. A month ago I had my second little boy. My eighteen-month-old has always had the sweetest most easy going temperament. He was so fun loving and easy to take care of. After the baby was born he had no negative reactions.
Now, a month later, he has undergone a complete personality change. He is cranky most of the day and just spends a lot of time whining and crying.
Interestingly enough, he seems to like the baby. He likes to look at him and hold him.
Hi Dr. Laura,
My daughter is two. One half of a twin, which is a boy.
I am the mother of fraternal twins, Duncan and Peyton. They are 19 months old. Duncan is the more active of the two. Lately, he has been throwing tantrums, hitting, falling out on the floor, hitting his head on the floor or wall, and repeating "no."
He gets very tired throughout the day because he is always on the move. He plays hard all day. He has at least 1 quiet time at daycare when he sits in his high chair and looks at a book or the daycare provider reads a story to him. I have asked that she try this at least twice a day.
Dear Dr. Laura,
My daughter and I have a loving relationship where I believe the vast majority of her needs have been met. She is a real blessing to me, and generally very sweet; however I am growing exhausted by a certain defiant behavior she has recently developed.