Managing the Work-Family Dilemma

Working mothers are not all the same. Why then are 16 million working mothers treated as one undifferentiated group?

Working moms naively compare themselves to one another, resulting in feelings of inadequacy. Little attention is given to the unique motivations, support networks and economic circumstances that drive their work-family choices. Recognition of diverse approaches to working motherhood is a new and needed conversation in the parenting space.

The website www.primarydilemma.com is a cool resource that offers a friendly framework, based on research with real working moms, to empower women to better understand their own work-family approach. Learn more about your unique working mother formula and the specific resources that support you and your new family (childcare, relationships, career and personal).

The PRIMARY DILEMMA Working Mom offers:

1. Working-Mother Methods: Each working mother has her own formula, but there are some shared approaches to the work-family juggle. The PRIMARY DILEMMA identifies 5 approaches and calls them Working-Mother Methods:
* Fully Loaded: Is a Single Parent. She is solely responsible for the balance of work and family.
* Workable: Is the primary career in her family. She spends more energy working than physical childcare. The Workable is enabled by someone else providing primary childcare.
* Equalizer: Is actively engaged in work and parenting. She shares childcare with her partner.
* Obliged: Is the primary physical parent. She also supplies a required second income.
* Parentess: Is the primary physical parent. She supplies discretionary second income.

2. Contentment Map. The PRIMARY DILEMMA Contentment Map plots four states of working-mother satisfaction. It is accompanied by diagnostic questions to help the reader improve her personal situation.
* Contentment
* Acceptance
* Reluctance
* Resentment

3. The PRIMARY Ps. The PRIMARY Ps is a system to help working mothers identify basic things that they can change to make their jobs more manageable and appealing:
* Place: Where do you work?
* Pace: What are the demands of your job?
* People: Who are you working with and for?
* Profession: Do you like WHAT you do for work?

www.primarydilemma.com is based on the experiences of more than 100 real working moms. It is a conversation about real challenges and real satisfactions. Come along and you may just hear a little bit of yourself.