by Lucinda Loveless
If you thought the wives from the 1950's were submissive, you haven't seen anything yet!
The hit TV show, "19 Kids and Counting" returned to TLC last week. Michelle Duggar was shown speaking at a Christian Women's Conference, giving her advice on how to have a good marriage. Being that she's been married close to 28 years, one would think it bears reading, especially given today's high divorce rate. They must be doing something right!
Prior to reading Michelle's rules I thought, well, if I were married, unless one of the rules was to have 19 kids, I might try and follow them. However, once I read the rules, I think I'll simply stay single or take my chances without them, thank you very much!
Highlights from Michelle Duggar's "Seven Basic Needs of a Husband" for your reading pleasure. Keep in mind this writer is only sharing these "rules" with you as a bit of celebrity chatter and not asking you and your family to follow them:
1. A husband needs a wife who respects him as a man. A woman destroys her husband's manliness by being financially independent; Love is killed by self-sufficiency.
2. A husband needs a wife who accepts him as a leader and believes in his God-given responsibilities.
3. A husband needs a wife who will continue to develop inward and outward beauty: Your hairstyle, for example, can show obedience versus defiance and personal discipline versus inconsistency, among many other things.
4. A husband needs a wife who can lovingly appeal to him when he is going beyond his limitations and wisely respond to those who question his ideas, goals, or motives. Ask your husband to tell you when you have a resistant spirit; ask forgiveness whenever you do.
5. A husband needs quality time to be alone with himself and with the Lord.
6. A husband needs a wife who is grateful for all he has done and all he is doing. Expect nothing and be genuinely grateful for each little evidence of your husband's love.
7. A husband needs a wife who will be praised by other people for her character and her good works.
Whew. Is your blood boiling yet? These tidbits actually don't do these rules justice. To enjoy this advice in its entirety, you can read the handout, courtesy of Radar Online here.
These rules seem to have worked for the Duggars. We have to give them that much credit. They appear to be in a loving relationship. However, we can't help but see how following this advice could easily put a woman in danger of being in a controlling or abusive relationship.
What do you think? If you believed following these rules would increase your chances of a good marriage, would you follow them?
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