I just posted about this on the Adoption Option board, but I wouldn't feel right unless I posted it on my beloved journal, too.
Tim and I must be absolutely crazy, because we're already talking about getting back on the adoption train. When our adoption with Addie fell through, we knew we still wanted to adopt but were so heartbroken that we didn't know when. But lately we started talking, and realized that we wanted to do it again soon.
It works out perfectly because India was a perfect fit for us with me being Indian -- our child would have someone of her own culture to identify with, we would get priority and all that good stuff.
We were told that if our biological child turned out to be a girl, India wouldn't be an option for us anymore because you can't adopt a child of the same sex as your bio child (I guess they're worried about favoritism). But now that we know we have a boy in here for sure, we are definitely still eligible for India.
Tim gets out of the Air Force in April of next year, and we'll be moving soon after that. Once we get settled into our new place, I would like to start the paper chase. By then our little boo will be about 6 or 7 months old, we'll take another 3 or so months to get our paperwork together, and then we can get back on that waiting list. We will go right to the top again since I still have my citizenship.
I emailed our agency last night to ask them about the specifics, what the age difference has to be, etc. We are so excited to have two kids close together! We are keeping an open mind that we may be too tired to go through with this plan, but I truly think that we'll love parenting so much that we'll want to add to our family at that point.
Most importantly, this decision just feels good to us. Adoption has always been in our hearts, and we are so ready to realize that dream!
This is me and Tim discussing names:
Me: "How about _____ ?"
TIM: "Eh..."
Me: "Okay, what about _____?"
TIM: "Ughh!!"
Me: *Sigh* "I really like _______, what about it?"
TIM: "That's a chump name!"
Me: "What's a "chump" name?"
TIM: "You know, the kind of kid who all the other kids makes fun of at school. He's really wimpy and nervous."
Me: *Gritting teeth* "Have you ever found a name that you didn't think was a "chump name"?"
TIM: *Musing* "Ha, that's funny... I don't think I have. Ooh, what about Zeus??"
Me: "NO!!"
So between my husband thinking "Zeus" is the only suitable name for our son, and that every other name is a "chump" name, we are still clueless as to what this little guy is going to be called. *Sigh* Back to the drawing board...
