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Hi,
My name is Melissa & I am currently pregnant with my first baby! My husband & I are over-joyed with the news. I have pollycystic ovarian syndrome & didn't think I could get pregnant easily, but it took just two months!
I am about 8 weeks along & am having a bad day. Morning sickness kicked in about 2 weeks ago. That has not been fun. Foods I used to love I can't stomach anymore & I never know what Im in the mood for. Nothing tastes the same as it used to. I don't enjoy eating right now.
I am a plus sized woman (around size 18). I am extremely healthy despite my large frame. I have zero weight related problems. People assume that beacuse you are big you must have health problems. That is not the case with me. As a big woman who is now pregnant, I have some fears. Right now I feel fat & unattractive. My acne, which was always bad, is worse now. My hair is so oily it needs to be washed every day instead of every other day, like Ive done the last 5 yrs. My clothes are getting tighter, Im assuming from fluid retention, gas & bloating. I worry that because Im big, I won't show till the end & I will just look like Im getting fatter & fatter.
I am going to be the maid of honor at my best friends wedding at the end of August when I will be around 15 weeks pregnant. The bride & other bridesmaid are also plus sized, but the bride is steadily losing weight on Jenny Craig & the bridesmaid just had gastric bypass surgery & has lost 12lbs in two weeks. They both will be thinner for the wedding while I will end up the orca whale walking down the isle. I am SO happy for my best friend but Im honestly sad about my appearence by the time of the wedding.
I keep hearing mixed facts oh weather or not a plus-sized woman should, or shouldnt gain weight durring pregnancy. Some people say you don't need to gain and & can safely lose weight if you're bigger. Some say even though your big you should still gain weight, just less than an average sized woman.
I cry for no reason. Im still exhausted. I worry about my baby. I worry about my appearence. I just hope that all this unpleasantness get better after my first trimester. I hope Im not alone in feeling this way.
Thank you for listening
M :)
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Hey Melissa. I just read your story and can really relate to what you're going through as far as being plus-sized and pregnant goes. I don't have PCOS; but am very glad to hear you had such great luck conceiving. I gave birth to my son 11 months ago and weighed about 270 at that time. I agree with some of the other ladies -- don't worry about what you hear about what you are, or are not supposed to gain during your pregnancy. I have also heard mixed answers, but the number 1 thing is that you eat healthily and take your vitamins. If you gain weight, that's ok and if you don't, that's fine too. I'm also hoping I can put some of your fears to rest about "just looking like you are getting fatter". When I was about 20 weeks or so along, you could definitely tell that I was pregnant, and not just gaining weight. I know that's later than a lot of smaller women, but I hope it helps. Good luck with your pregnancy -- I hope that everything goes great for you!! Enjoy every minute because as surprising as it sounds, you'll very likely miss it when it's over.
Hi ladies My name is Tonya and I too have PCOS which is a horrible part of being a woman in the years of wanting a family. My husband and I have been together for 9 years total and recently married (we are newlyweds). There have been 3 previous miscarriages for us so I have not wanted to get my hopes up or say the words pregnancy at all. Recently we received news that my sister is going to have another and it really hit me hard because she had an unexpected last December (Savannah who will be 1 in a few days). Then a bout a week and a half ago it started....I have been experiencing feelings of nausea and tiredness a lot lately. My husband and I have pretty much been chalking it up to my headaches (which is something else I have also been experiencing again for a week now). I thought the headaches were due to stress from my husband being injured and having to undergo surgery but with further reading have found that it could be a sign of pregnancy as well. Anyway I don't normally want naps throughout the day and for the past week it doesn't matter what I am doing I want that nap and even drift off to sleep at times... The nausea comes in the night at the same time and may or may not have actual vomiting accompanied with it, as well as heart burn for NO reason. So last night my husband and I went to the local Wal-mart and bought a 6pk for him and a preg test for me. LOL!!! He didn't buy the 6pk because of the preg test he was buying it anyway I got the preg test just to see... Last night at the same time the nausea hit, with vomiting, heart burn so bad I could not sleep and then when I did go to sleep I was running to potty. Finally I decided to take the test when I woke up and when I went back to the see the strip showed a FAINT line. Does that mean PREGNANT? It starts out darker and fades into a fainter line (I had to turn the light on to see it and could not believe my eyes at all). I had actually sat it down and walked away from it this morning because I had thought there was no way I was going to be pregnant. But low and behold no matter how many times I go back and look the little Faint line is there. I haven't missed my period yet. I should not have it until around the 3rd or so. Any advice? I am SO nervous after 3 miscarriages already.... HELP!!!????
Hi I'm Liz. I am about 5 weeks into my first and have pcos as well. I am so very nervous about miscarrying as well. And no one mentioned the never ending heartburn!
I must agree with everyone above about the weight. There are lots of people our size that are healthy. It is all in the lifestyle.
Hey,
I also have PCOS and was told I would never have kids. We tried fertility treatments as well and they didn't work for me. 10 years of trying and I'm pregnant and wouldn't even have known if it wasn't for a great nurse at the hospital who did a pregnancy test before an x-ray. I'm sure it's because I've lost 20 pounds in the past 6 months and I was taking Metformin. That and God decided it was time!
I agree with one of the ladies above...don't worry so much about your weight, but about the little one inside of you. Eat healthy and take care of you and the baby. It will all be worth it!
Hi Melissa. I just wanted to reassure you that most of your feelings are normal due to raging hormones. You mentioned that your clothes are fitting tighter, and they should. You have a little person growing inside of you. I know it's still very early in your pregnancy, but your uterus is already expanding.
Try not to focus on what others think about your appearance. Just think about that precious little one growing inside of you. Trust me, the minute you see his/her face, you'll see that it was all worth it. I hope that this helps. Have a happy and healthy pregnancy!!
BTW, I have PCOS too. After giving birth to my daughter, my hormones were regulated for more than two years. I was able to conceive my second baby (I'm 9 weeks now) without medication.
Hey there, I am also a Melissa and am about 6 weeks pregnant. I read your blog and felt a connection. I am also a plus-sized woman and and really hating some of the symptoms of pregnancy, but am glad I'm finally pregnant. It took my husband and I almost a year!
I have one question though, I have a good friend who is trying to get pregnant and also has PCOS and is on fertility drugs and is having a hell of a time trying to conceive. I was just wondering if you have a bit of advice that will maybe ease her frustrations?
Melissa M
Hi Im Amanda. I am currently pregnant with my first child. I am only about 4 weeks. I have been very tired and my morning sickness is kicking in and it sucks really bad. I feel like I have no energy at all.
We are going through a lot right now because I have pancreatitis and have been seeing a gastro doctor. They are thinking it is my gallbladder causing the infection. If it gets worse they will have to do emergency surgery and remove my gallbladder, which can be a high risk for me and the baby.