Tristine's Triumph -- Entry 19

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December 8

It has been a week and a half since I got my cerclage and already I am running into frustration with not being able to the things I am used to. The doctor told me no heavy lifting, no strenuous exercise, and no intercourse. But the other day had me tired out fast. I am hoping that this isn't the early sign of trouble for when the baby gets bigger.

Already, I am feeling pressure and discomfort when I am on my feet for more then 20 minutes at a time. I have had a few sneezes today and could feel just discomfort. I cannot even lift a laundry basket of clothes without feeling pressure and pain. This cerclage is going to take a little more getting used to.

It has been a terrible time for my husband and I to adjust to the new routine. I wish there was a way to make things easier for us both. I don't want to rely on my in-laws for help but they are more than willing to help than my husband.

My husband should be able to take care of some daily tasks but he has been slow to get used to the new schedule. I have had a clean basket of laundry sitting downstairs for over a week and a half. Since I cannot carry the basket, it will sit there until he gets sick of going downstairs for clean clothes.

I am frustrated that I cannot just take care of things like I used to. I thought I would be more prepared for this. I thought I would be able to handle a messier than normal house but instead that makes other simple tasks just more complicated. I had hoped that my husband would have more motivation to help me with chores around the house. I had even hoped that my husband would be more understanding about the new rules in the bedroom. Ugh!!!! We are both so very frustrated!

I have tried talking to him about this, but instead of having a mature discussion, I end up whining and he ends up getting mad. We both say things that we don't mean to say. Something snaps in my husband and then talking to him is like negotiating with a raging bull.

I just make matters worse because I am hormonal and start crying when communication just breaks down.

When I was talking with other ladies who have endured a complicated pregnancy, it helped me recognize that this is most likely a phase we are going through. But it still is rough nonetheless. Is this a new roller coaster ride I am stuck in for a while?