We keep trying, but starting to get worried.....

Well my husband and I have been on the journey of trying to conceive for the past 7 months now, with no luck yet. I'm starting to get a little worried. I am 33 turning 34 in a couple of months, and never have had any children. My husband has two children from previous relationships. I have begun to think that my conceiving is going to be harder on me than I thought. Just know that my husband was able to conceive and at not problem or issues with the other women, it has put terrible thoughts in my head. We have talked at length of having a child of our own, and are excited about it. My husband is the sweetest as well, saying it is every woman’s right to have a child of her own. I am worried that past genetic history is going to slow down or even prevent the issue for me being able to conceive. The past genetic history is due to that my mother had me at the age of 27 and wasn't able to conceive until then, and she was married to my father at age 19. My mother never used any form of birth control either, and so to say I am an only child as well. Well I am well past the age of when my mother was pregnant with me, and yet nothing. I have begun to think that it might be a long and hard struggle for me on this venture. I have come into my husbands family late, and him and his siblings all have children, and I am the one being looked at as the next to get pregnant and somehow that has put a small pressure on me. Also I just recently found out that I have fibroid tumors on the outside of my uterus. This new has shocked and dismayed be severely. It made my outlook on getting pregnant so bleak, that I don't know if I can see a light. I've been told that I can do surgery, but it takes away from doing natural child birth, something I was hoping to experience.
Is it just me, or am I looking into all of this more than I should? I am glad I found this website, because I feel it will be a good outlet for me. I am hoping to try until July and if nothing by then I will possibly look into surgery, but I know that will just lessen my time to conceive.


Submitted by clkm777 on

Hi, I saw that your post is from a few months ago, so I don't know where you stand now, but I wanted to comment. I have a large fibroid in my uterine lining. I am now pregnant with my second child, although I am lucky because the fibroid does cause problems with implantation. I don't know if surgery is the best idea. My doctors have told me that the risk is too great to remove the fibroid, and that I would be better off waiting until I am finished having children. The chances of complications are increased, seeing as how I have had a cesarean and another cut into my uterus would be a problem.

I don't believe the fibroid has anything to do with your problem. Sometimes stress and trying too hard are what cause infertility, especially if there is no other medical cause. I got pregnant with my son literally the first time without birth control. I wasn't aware of the fibroid then - I have the kind that grows with the pregnancy. This second time took 4 months because I was thinking about it too much. We were having sex every other day, the entire month until my cycle started. I was also tracking my cervical mucus. It was making me crazy. I finally decided I didn't care if I got pregnant or not, and I got pregnant a week or two later! I also know someone who got pregnant within months of adopting.

I know it's hard, but don't feel pressured. Relax, enjoy being with your husband and let nature take it's course. If you really need the help of fertility drugs or other assistance, do what you feel you need to do. But don't let this turn your life upside down. Not everyone is meant to have children, no matter how much we wish it could be otherwise. No matter how it goes, this is no reflection on you. Good luck, I wish you the best and I hope everything works out for you!