I often hear from women concerning their husband's kids from a prior relationship. They notice that Dads who don't live with their kids find it challenging to stay connected, and describe the difficulties of integrating these kids into the family when they come to visit.
Wouldn't it be terrific if you found yourself on January 1, rested, refreshed, and contented with your life? Does this fantasy seem alluring, but impossible? It isn't. More and more parents are saying no to the Holiday Frenzy and inviting connection, joy and reflection into their homes in December.
Strong willed children can be a challenge to parent when they're young, but if sensitively parented, they become terrific teens and young adults. They're self-motivated and directed, they go after what they want, and they are fairly impervious to peer pressure.
Children, like the rest of us, handle change best if it is expected and occurs in the context of a familiar routine. A predictable routine allows children to feel safe, and to develop a sense of mastery in handling their lives. As this sense of mastery is strengthened, they can tackle larger changes.
Why are some women better mothers than others? Turns out that some women have more "love" hormones than others.
Children love ritual. Repetition, the comfort of belonging, the sense of wonder, magic, and celebration -- all create a bonding experience that nurtures both kids and parents, and holds families together.
All babies cry. Most babies cry a lot. Some babies are more easily comforted, others can routinely work themselves into a frenzy. Of course it sends your heart racing. That's Mother Nature's way of insuring that the human race survives.
I buy the idea that babies need another month or two in a womb-like environment to mature. But what do I do to create a this environment for my baby? Here are techniques to use when your baby cries, but they are also preventive tools to keep your infant from getting over-stimulated all day long:
Forget Baby Einstein. The single best way to increase your child's IQ is to read to her. Does she read every evening, not because it's assigned, but just for fun? Some kids do, and those are the ones who do better academically every step of the way.
It's a shock when your previously sweet little girl starts tantrumming again. Twelve-year-old girls can be moody, over-dramatizing, self-centered, focused almost solely on friends, close-mouthed, surly, back-talking and condescending to parents. They can, of course, also be mature, affectionate and delightful, but at their worst...