Is there anyone that uses this board? I would really like someone to talk to, as i have been battling feelings of guilt for almost 12 years.
Hi hun, I was just lurking and wanted to give you
I'm sorry you've been battling with guilt If you ever just want to talk, I'll be here to listen.
I am here too if you need to talk....
I will keep checking back.
I too had an abortion 12 years ago (this January) at about 11.5 weeks. I was 19 and had a bf that wasn't ready...neither was I... but I didn't realize it till later. I had a horrible time at first and intermittently ever since. Counseling helped me recently as I was having terrible guilt and some jealousy of others whose 'times were right' even though I KNEW mine weren't for a little one (the clock was ticking though, lol).
Now, I've been married for almost 4 years--to a different & wonderful man--and want to ttc (actually finally started in December 2007-to no avail so far).
I really hope that this is not too raw for you, but: I've always had the fear that I would have it hard when I wanted a baby since I threw away a perfectly good chance when God gave it to me. I know it's not logical, but I keep punishing myself over it. Funny, I'll bet bf at the time gives it not a thought...
Just wondering if you feel the same way. I'm here for you if you want to talk.
Hello ladies. I had an abortion 10 years ago and i still think about it today. I swear I can give you every detail of the day.
I was 18 years old with a BF who was no support what so ever. I never told my parents what I was going through so it was even rougher because I did not really have anyone to talk to.
I had a really rough time when I was pregnant with my son because my sister was pregnant at the same time and lost her baby around 16 weeks. I felt like I should have been the one to loss the baby because I was the one who deserved to be punished for my past mistakes. It was hard because of all the guilt i felt.
I now have 2 wonderful children and a third on the way but that does not mean that I do not think about the baby who i let go.
If you want to vent, talk, cry, please feel free to PM me.
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i can relate to the feelings of guilt. i became pregnant in high school when i was raped. i felt so terrified and so totally trapped. i had absolutely no support. i never told a single soul that i was pregnant. i stopped eating because i figured that babies needed food to grow and if i didn't eat, the baby would go away. it didn't work that way. with no help from anyone at all, i terminated my own pregnancy alone in my room. i became terribly sick afterward. people thought i had the flu. still, to this day, i have told very few people.
i'm pregnant now, after three years of ttc. i've oft wondered if i had so much of a struggle getting pregnant because i terminated my first pregnancy. i'm now 14 weeks along and am thankful each and every day that i'm pregnant. if i had it to do over again, i honestly can't say that i'd do anything different. i really don't blame myself but still, it's hard not to feel guilty.
I had an abortion seven years ago. I had severe feelings of guilt and remorse afterwards and slipped into a depression. While talking to my GYN, she told me that there was nothing I could do to take back what happened, so I needed to forgive myself. Once I did that my feelings of guilt went away. Of course the day won't and I do think about it, but I don't beat myself up anymore.
Wow, Thanks for the support ladies, This board was so dead, i never even thought to come back and check out my thread!
I have terrible guilt for a lot of things regarding my abortion. I'm married now (to a diff man) and we have a beautiful 10month old son. I always think about what would have happened had i kept the baby. My bf then...we were together for 2 months before i got pregnant, and i aborted because i didn't think he would stay with me. I now know he would have. and after that we stayed together for years until 3 years ago i decided to leave because he wasn't making a commitment fast enough...although when i left he apparently had the ring picked out. And the guy i met after breaking up with him i married...my dh now.
I'm now battling the fact that i still have feelings for my ex...so i am very confussed right now..
I had an abortion on May 21, 2007. I was 17 years old and a senior in high school. I met the father on www.fling.com. We only saw each other for two months. He paid for the abortion and then I broke up with him. I regret having unprotected sex with someone I did not love, but I do not regret having an abortion. I could not raise his child. I was afraid of what my dad would do to me if he found out that I was pregnant. I had a miscarriage on Friday, February 1, 2008. I feel like I am being punished for having an abortion.
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