The last two visits have been interesting. Two weeks ago birth mom came in bawling and didn't even look at kel. She was fine when we picked him up, but you could tell she didn't want to be there. This week they were there and gave him baloons again. The supervisor threw them away though. They complain that he fusses the who two hours, but they don't let him on the floor. He wants to move!
New social worker was assigned to the case and visited us today. He is really nice. We told him or concerns about visitations and he wrote all of it down and said he would make sure that they didn't feed him or let him play with inappropriate things. He also said that birth mom doesn't want him and asked if she could get him when he was two or three because she can't deal with even visiting him once a week! He told her HELL NO! Grandma is still in the running, but he said that he would have to do home visits and have her take a parenting plan based on the choices she makes at visits. So we are a little closer to keeping him! He told us that he would talk to birthmom about signing over rights and us letting her and grandma have visits throughout the year if we can adopt. Also found out that foster care cost the birth parent 100.00 a month! Good for them!
We went to the foster care christmas party last night. It was so much fun. They had a ton of kid activities that Isaiah loved. He and Kel played the fishing game and got awesome stuffed animals. Isaiah decorated cookies, made necklaces and ornaments, and saw Santa! The catered food was really good too. I saw a lot of people that I knew. Including a child that Dave used to have in his center that was removed from his parents. Crazy!
Had the worst thing happen today. Daycare called and another child, who is new and a foster kid, was kissing isaiah's penis in the play hut! Isaiah had a shocked look on his face but was not yelling. The teachers freaked and asked Isaiah if he was okay. He hugged the teacher and seemed okay after some snuggles. He took a nap and they called us. The teachers and the director are freaked out. They called cps about the little boy (he is only three) since he was obviously abused by an adult. We picked Isaiah up and he told us that someone touched him and put their head on his penis. He said that the boy was bad. We let him talk about it and went over about what to do if it happened again.(we said that it was okay to push the kid and scream NO or STOP!) Daycare had told him to scream also if the kid even mentioned anything inappropriate again. The teachers are so upset, we found ourselves reassuring them. There are only
four kids in Isaiah's class and two teachers. They figure it was less then two minutes for the whole thing to have happened. We are keeping Isaiah home tomorrow. He seems fine and talks about "the bad boy".
It makes me cry though because you never want your kids to go through **** like that. I also have to deal with my own issues of getting abused and to not let this get me in a funk.
Kellen has become such a happy little boy. He wants us to play with him and hold him a lot more now. He still wants to be in his crib at night and during nap time. He needs a quiet room and low light to fall asleep. I wish he would sleep with us around. I am used to Isaiah that will sleep anywhere. Kel's favorite activity is creeping on the floor chasing the dog's ball. He loves playing with the dogs! I love my boys so much.
Birth mom and grandma were 20 minutes late for visitation. We were leaving when they were coming through the door, so we stayed. Birthmom also wanted to cut the visit short since she didn't feel good and didn't want Kellen to get sick. They also decided that two hours a week was two long and they only want one hour per week with him. WTF? I can't understand. I miss him so much when I am away from him just a short time. Grandma also asked if a transformer was okay to get him for christmas! We told her that he likes things that make music or light up.
On a good note, visitation supervisor asked us if we were going to change or keep his name when we adopted. That made me feel great. She obviously thinks that we will keep him.
Kel is now going from laying down to sitting! This is a major milestone for him. I also saw him try to sit on his knees to play with our activity table. He is trying to crawl everywhere. We play a game where I growl and he squeals and crawls as fast as he can. He is growing like a weed. He is 10 months and wears 18 month clothes now. I need to go and buy him some more. He hardly has any pjs that are long enough for him.
Birthmom and grandma did not show up for visitation on Christmas eve! The social worker was there and very upset. (I can't help but smile because it is good for us!) We have a visit this next week I would so love it if they were a no show! Kel loved his Solstace and Christmas gifts. Everyone got him clothes or crib toys. The child loves hanging out in his crib! He is starting to pull himself up. Yeah! I am still having trouble with food though. He only wants to eat crackers and drink milk. I can't get him to eat solids with any consistency. It doesn't matter the texture, he just spits it out. It is very frustrating.
Well they showed up today. They said they were confused about the time last week and showed up later in the day. They gave him a driving toy that Isaiah loves! Oh well, they tried. They only want to see him one hour per week though. I so hope we can get them to sign over rights. He is doing so well with us. He is almost 100% right on track.
Visitation was cancelled for tomorrow due to snow. I am so glad! They don't want to make it up this week, they may try to next week, but I doubt it. We have a new social worker! AHHHHHH. It drives me crazy.
We are still battling with kel over food. He still wants the bottle as his primary feeder. I can get him to eat some oatmeal and occasionally fruit. I gave him green beans last night and he spit them up. Very annoying.
Kellen has been is such a cranky mood the last few days. He doesn't want to play in his dish, he doesn't want to sit in the high chair, he hates being held. He occasionally likes the floor, but only if he is chasing the dog or eatting nasty dog toys/paper. I feel bad that he spends so much time in his crib. That is the only place he will hang and play and not cry. Isaiah crawls into the crib with him and they play for long periods of time. I have weird kids!!