Kellen is pulling himself up all the time now. He gets into everything. We had Isaiah's birthday party at Mcdonalds this past weekend. He had a wonderful time. The attendant was so good, and the price was wonderful. $60 for happy meals for ten kids, cake, party favors, and a present for the birthday kid. Plus we had the birthday room for two hours. We had a great time, although my parents gave Kel some fries and ice cream! He had the worst poop the next day. I scolded them. He doesn't need crap food, there will be time enough for that when he is older.
Met the new social worker. He seems okay, but I liked the old one better. We let him know that we wanted to adopt Kellen. He said it was to soon, but we just wanted him to know right away. A fact finding court hearing is Friday. Basicly they will see that the birth mom doesn't want him and they will proceed with deciding whether the grandparents of us are best. The grandparent quit smoking, which is good for them, but bad for us It is still good that they only want to see him for one hour once a week. I am trying to get the courage up to tell them to their fact that we want to adopt and would give them visitation. I feel that we are the best advocate, not the social worker.
Court hearing for friday was cancelled. On Feb. 6 Birthmom is going to sign over rights. grandma was shocked when the social worker told her that no, she just wouldn't be handed the baby. She has to apply for adoption AFTER they consult with the birth father (who has now turned 1 and have him sign off rights. She is Pissed! We can't legally apply for adoption until we have had him 6 months. (Which is the end of march) The social worker said that he will have us meet with the adoption workers and have them inspect our house asap so that our paperwork can be turned in at the same time as the grandmas.
Grandma also brought lunch for Kellen yesterday. A large peanutbutter sandwich, (I told her I havne't given it to him due to choking hazard and possible allericic reactions and she told me that she had never heard of it) She also gave him cheeto's and a WHOLE banana! AHHHHHHHHH
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Mother to Miranda and Blake
Grandma and Birthmom DID NOT show up again. I waited for 15 minutes then ran to the car! I left a note with the secretary that they didn't show up and that I left, just so it would be documented. We went shopping and had fun. The next court hearing is next week, when birthmom signs off rights, so I wonder if they will come next week.
I have actually been subbing this week, so I have been to busy to post much. Visitation went fine on Tuesday. Isaiah was sick and didn't want Kel to be dropped off. They gave him applesauce cake and yougart. They told me the ingred. of the cake because the social worker told them to. He puked a little bit after, but only a tiny bit.
Dave went to court today to watch the birthmom sign off rights. He waited outside the courtroom and Grandma was burping loudly and farting! The birthmom begged her mom to stop embarissing her. She broke two kid toys and laughed about it. (all of this in front of social worker and court appointed guardian) Grandma also started yelling at social worker because she wants to know how to go about adopting Kellen. Social worker, Ed told her that she needed an attorney. She ignored him and told him that she wanted a check list of things to do NOW. Grandma said that she does't want to WASTE HER TIME VISITING KEL IF SHE IS NOT GUARENTEED GETTING TO ADOPT HIM! Grandma got mad and left the building, leaving her daughter to sign off rights by herself! Birthmom ended up not signing off rights due to the fact that they can't find birth dad. She wants to wait until he signs off before she does. (she doesn't want him, but she doesn't want him to have him either!) If they can't find birthdad, they will sign his and birthmoms rights away on Aug. 6th. Damn this is slow!
Social worker and guardian pulled Dave aside and asked if we still wanted open adoption! Dave said he would do whatever it takes as long as we can adopt. They think Grandma is a bit of a nutcase so they are letting us monitor the visit next week. We get to spy on her! They think that after we see her in action we will not want an open adoption. I would prefer that she have no contact, I am just surprised that they feel that way too.
Dave asked me yesterday what I thought about adopting older kids. He has two new girls at his childcare (k and 1st grade) They are foster kids that need an adoption placement asap. He said the girls were really sweet. We are talking about looking into it. It would change our lives COMPLETELY! We couldn't use the car, and the van is still broke. We would have to move, which would be expensive. We are going to casually look into it. I would hate for those kids to get passed around in the system. I am just worried about money. I have been lighting candles to the Goddess and hoping everything will turn out for the best.