Grandma and Birthmom cancelled today with only a hour notice. Of course we had already left, since we have to drive for 45 min. to get to the dshs office. We have learned that we always have another reason to go into town, since they flake out so offen. Court appointed guardian talked to us today and let us know that she is 100% recomending us for adoption. That is so good to know. Kellen has a cold and is feeling sick today, so I am glad they cancelled.
Birthmom and Grandma didn't show up again. We don't know if they called to cancel because our social worker had a heart attack this weekend and no one knows the password to his voicemail. The visiting supervisor was there and we chatted awhile. She told us that Grandma would not pass a home study because she and stepdad are both unemployeed and have health issues as well as past cps issues. So it is looking really good for us. Kellen's birthdady is saturday, so it looks horrible that they didn't show up. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. It is just a matter of time. I hate the waiting, but I know that all will turn out okay in the next six months.
Birthmom and Grandma didn't show up again. We don't know if they called to cancel because our social worker had a heart attack this weekend and no one knows the password to his voicemail. The visiting supervisor was there and we chatted awhile. She told us that Grandma would not pass a home study because she and stepdad are both unemployeed and have health issues as well as past cps issues. So it is looking really good for us. Kellen's birthday is Saturday. He will be 1!!!, It looks horrible that they didn't show up. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. It is just a matter of time. I hate the waiting, but I know that all will turn out okay in the next six months. I just have to be patient and wait until Aug. 6 and the rights are terminated, and our adoption can be processed.
They showed up today, and we watched a visit. Grandma has no sense, whatsoever! She was feeding him large cheeto's (which I hate since I don't allow crap food!) he was gagging on them and Birthmom had to take them away. Melissa (birthmom) was actually pretty good with him, but when he fussed she would freak out and yell at him to be quiet. (thank god he was really good for most of the visit) The supervisor had to go in the room and remove a latex baloon that they let him chew on! We get to watch every visit. Also found out that grandma has a history of drug abuse.
His birthday party went great. He had his own small carrot cake, which he played with. He got a lot of clothes and a leapfrog Tadpole. He loves it!
He had his one year appt. and is going to get a hearing test and a physical therapy evaluation. (he drags his right side when he crawls) He didn't hardly fuss when he got his shots. My brave big boy!
our computer had a weird virus and was restarting every few minutes so i havent been online for awhile. melissa (birthmom) decided that she doesn't want to do visitation anymore. it was to boring, and the one hour a week, messed up her work schedule! Grandma agreed that it was pointless since she couldn't adopt him. Melissa also said that if grandma couldn't have him then she wanted us to adopt him. YEAH! during that visit she got mad at kellen when he fussed and told him that he was a whiner like his father. Nice..
Hearing test went okay, but they expected him to be totally silent when they put probs in his ears. he let them do one then started screaming. They are going to do the other one next week, but feel his hearing is okay.
Physical therapy was eye opening! He does need work with gross moter skills. ( So I can tell everyone that was laughing at me and telling me to stop fussing to kiss my butt!) He also has some serious sensory issues that have to be worked on. the therapist thinks that his mouth muscles are immature and can't form sounds which is why he doesn't babble. We have to use a brush to stroke him with to get him used to certain sensations. The food texture and sleep issues fit right in with a sensory problem. I am so glad i went with my instincts and had him tested. He is starting to get out of control with his crying and i am feeling very overwelhmed. Dave is the only one he will cuddle with and i somethimes feel left out. I am glad there are things we can work on.
It is official that Melissa does'nt want visits anymore. On the last one two weeks ago, grandma gave me a bag of clothes for kellen when he is older. It was sizes 14-16! They were all her daughters old clothes! That is so weird! I saved a shirt that had Melissa's name on it that had been hand painted. Most of the clothes were shirts from her elementary school! Bizarre!
Therapy is going well. Kel is finally starting to crawl. He kinda drags the leg, but is sturdier. Communication is not better and the therapist is concerned about his eyes now. One is starting to wander. We are starting sign language with him. He actually let me snuggle with him this week though. I feel like we are slowly bonding more.
The therapist wants Kellen to see a neurologist becuase she has some concerns about his sensory development. She also wants an eye check up for him. He has good days and bad days with me. Sometimes he will just SCREAM when he wants something, and we can't figure out what he wants. His favorite past time is turning off the computer and tv. It drives up crazy! Isaiah is so good with him. He sits with him and says, say mama, say dada. He is an amazing big brother.
Our social worker hasen't called us in over a month now. It is so weird. I feel out of the loop since we don't go to visits.
Yesterday's physical therapy appt. went awesome! Billy has said that Kel has made amazing progress in one month. She was really worried about his abilities, but now is more confidant that he will progress "normally" now. It is just amazing what love and patience can do.
Kellen is taking a few steps, but spends most of his time crawling. (but at least it is with cross lateral movements!) He is still not improving with his vocalization. He doesn't babble or make many sounds. We are starting to feed him crunchy and strong tasting food (lemon, pepper, garlic, etc) to stimulate his mouth muscles. I am concerned about Kel's other developmental issues too. He doesn't wave or blow kisses or respond much to anything we say. And considering he is 14 months that is a bit concerning. Except he screams when we say no. He does laugh and snort when we tickle him or make faces. We still haven't heard from a socal worker regarding the adoption paperwork. We have left messages but nothing.
When I was in Wa dc for ten days Kellen did'nt seem to realize I was gone. He did willingly let me hold him when I got home though. I missed my hubby and boys so much when I was gone! I loved the time away, but I am glad to be home.
Kellen is walking a lot now! He also says DADADA when he sees Dave, so I am counting that as his first word! We finally talked to a supervisor at the dshs office, but they were supposed to call us back and didn't! We have a new social worker (kel's 8th!) But he is new and doesn't get out of training until next week. Even though we have to wait three more months before parental rights are severed, i want my adoption paperwork done!