A little note about the adoption training we did... the content was excellent, I thought it was very important information that I am trying to commit to memory! There really wasn't any part that I disagreed with (yeah, that's unusual). We're waiting for the test results to come back (the essay questions have to be graded by hand) and I really hope I don't have to take them over again. This tiny vent is about the way the questions were worded. They did not express themselves clearly in the questions at all! It was extremely frustrating to try to figure out. The DVD's were very clear and it's like a whole other company made the tests. Which I suppose is possible.
Anyway, one trick I picked up in school was to keep writing until you've covered as much as possible... somewhere in my essay, I hope, is the answer they are looking for!
J just called the agency to check on our test scores (for parenting training) and where the Dossier is...
It was approved (in the Oregon/Colombia office), sent back to Kansas, and
IS ON THE WAY TO COLOMBIA TODAY!!!
So, we should get all cozy and relax for the next 5 months and then start anxiously waiting for a referral!
We just had some REALLY good news today!
In the past, it has taken the Colombian government 4 to 5 months on average to process Dossier's and approve them. After that time, your wait starts.
The news is, they are working on approving them in 40 days! That is so exciting! That means we might get a match even sooner! My husband is so optimistic... I felt silly even hoping it would be this summer, but he thinks spring! Of course, I might be looking at this post two years from now wondering how we could of ever thought that!
Still, it is good news for all families adopting in Colombia that they are trying to speed up the process in several different ways!
it was the next day everything fell apart. One week ago the agency called to tell us Colombia took our list away. Instead of getting our kids in a few months, we would be put at the bottom of a 3-4 year wait.
I don't believe it I would have any sanity left if we continued in this path. At the same time, I can't imagine giving up. I can see myself in Colombia with my kids, but maybe it's not meant to be. Or, not yet.
I don't know what to do. We've spent $6,000 on an adoption that seems impossible now. Obviously we won't be paying more money to them if we decide not to go through with it, but that's all of our savings. We have nothing left to start another adoption with.
I don't know what to do. I have an appt with our pastor, I need advice. I can't give up. I know there has to be some way for us to be parents. We'd be such awesome parents! We'd give kids all our attention, we love to show them things, J is great at explaining things to kids, we know kids love us, we'll roll around the floor with them, we're not afraid to look stupid, our kids would always know how important they are to us. I just don't understand what God's plan for us is. Why are we facing so many obstacles?
1. 6 m/c
2. adoption lawyer we started with moved away for family emergency
3. adoption agency promised us a short wait, turns into a 4 yr wait.
Does it seem to anyone else that we are extremely unfortunate?
I have spent the last week emailing and calling adoption agencies in the states. I cannot believe the average fee is $30,000! It makes me so mad! I'm sure they have expenses, but we can't do that. Even with the tax credit (which is spread out over a few years) And especially not now that we've lost $6.000 with the other adoption plan.
I am really going to be childless forever.
I am now the momma of a baby boy! We adopted domestically and could not be more in love! He was born 8 weeks early and we'll probably be in the NICU for 5 weeks, but he is getting stronger and loves his momma & daddy!
I'm very glad I got to spend a lot of time with his birthmom so I have more to tell him as he gets older.