It's funny now to think I might have had time to paint the kid's dressers! We barely finished the trim before she went home, and boy is that stuff stinky! It's a special lacquer that's supposed to bond to wood... I hope it does!
Not that I think we will actually have this place looking like a house soon, but it is nice to have such a preoccupation to keep me from dwelling on the adoption 24/7.
One of our close friends in the adoption Bible study we go to just received their referral of an infant in Vietnam! Two families in our group were number one and number two on the list, and after number 1 received their refferal, number 2 had to wait about 6 weeks for theirs. It was a very long 6 weeks. You'd think, I'm next... there's been several babies taken to the Dr's, why am I not getting a call? Our friends handled it very well. I know it was stressful for them, but knowing that God has a special child picked out for you and in his time you will know, makes it a little easier.
Vietnam is increasing in popularity lately. I wish the families could travel soon after receiving the referral, but at least in our agency it is about 4 to 5 months later.
I'm glad Colombia does almost all the paperwork and court stuff by the time you get the referral, however, after finding out who your kids are, you only get 3 weeks until you meet them.
That's not a lot of time to buy beds, clothes, toys, products, etc...
We don't know the ages or genders of our kids, so there is going to be a lot of last minute stuff! Everyone says to get as much as possible ready now... but I don't know what that could be...
I'm a dangerous seamstress. I'm making my sister some curtains, and I dragged a needle across my leg (don't ask me how) and have a 5" gash in my leg now. ouch. It stings pretty good. I covered it with bandaids because that post on the AB makes me paranoid.
Anyway, my sister (who has two boys) was told today that she needs a hysterectomy over Christmas. That's some pretty harsh news, but I hope it makes her feel better physically.
I finished painting the bedroom trim. The curtains for that room are kind of on a back burner... I wish there was more I could do to the kids' rooms, but I just don't have any interest in gender neutral things... other than the walls are khaki.
I wonder what they'll be like, and what kind of toys they'll be most interested in... out of curiosity, I am going to try to resist buying toystoystoys. I'm sure we'll get plenty of hand-me-downs to get us started.
I know when you get a referral, if there is any information on the children's personality , they will include it in your info... I am so looking forward to that... patience K...
I've been kinda down the last couple of days. Waiting 3 weeks for our INS (immigration fingerprints) appointment has been tough because it's just wasted time. 4 more days to go... then we're going to hope that the turnaround time is fast.
Last night was adoption group again. J didn't get to go as left for Charleston a day early so he can be home early for our fingerprint appt. The discussion was on ch.12 of Parenting You Adopted Child, and we discussed what,how much,when, and to whom to tell your child's story to.
I have already decided that we will not tell anyone at all (not even family) of our children's history. I know that will be hard for them not to know, but my kids aren't a book. We're going to respect their privacy, and when they are older and mature enough to tell others, we will let them make that decision. But for now, only J and I will know, and we'll tell our kids parts (that we know) in an age appropriate manner as they grow.
I still have a couple videos to watch, a huge book to read, one more session to attend (but I will probably keep going) and a test to take in the next two months. The videos are horrible, but the book is good.
Looking at the previous post, I'm glad I have made that decision, and J is firm with it as well. If my family understood adoption better, it would be slightly different, but as it is, we are sure of our decision. I was frustrated again tonight by my dad. He kept asking if our kids were going to be real orphans. I don't have enough time to explain my dad here, but as much as I love him, you'll have to believe me that at times he can be very stubborn, racist, and ignorant. I have answered his questions so many times, what really bothers me is that he is not asking to find out an answer... he is asking to make points or in an attempt to change my mind. And he doesn't even remember having these conversations before - so it's just me that has to remember them.
Anyway... it just confirms what I've already felt. I won't let my kids be a topic of interest. I am going to protect their privacy for them until they can do it themselves. J and I were discussing how to handle situations that are out of the ordinary without telling anyone anything. Maybe a very traumatic thing happened and it's similar to something here... how do we handle that? I am confident that we will find a way, and that we will be prepared for it.
And still, I pray every day that my kids are being loved right now, and that they love each other.
Today I applied for a lot of jobs. I am most interested in the Flight Attendant position on a private plane... how cool would that be? They are requesting only experienced Flight Attendants apply, so that narrows down my competition a bit I'd say. I looooved being a Flight Attendant, it would be so incredible to have that back again. It's like losing part of your identity when you have to leave something you love so much. I'm sure physically, I could do it again. Especially in a smaller capacity. I've been thinking about the kids and how they would handle that change, but I would actually have more time with them than most other jobs. My parents only live a couple of houses away, and I know I could count on them to help J. However, if it didn't work out, I would put my children first of course. That's if they even hire me. How quickly the time would pass if I was flying now! Not to mention being able to pay the fees.
Oh, I also applied for Robeez' shoes donations. They set aside a number of shoes every month to give to charity, including adoptive parents traveling to orphanages! It would be so awesome to be able to hand over a number of the cutest shoes for the children! (in many countries, the children don't have any shoes)
Later tonight, I'll apply for some more jobs. Right now I'm trying to work on the kid's rooms!
My sister just gave me two huge bags of kids clothes. She has two boys, so there are a lot of trucks and dinosaurs on them. I am washing them right now since they have been stored in her garage, but they are size 12months to 2 years. I might not even get a child that young. =(
Anyway, last night as I was sitting in a pile of clothes too small to be legwarmers, it hit me that I will really be washing little people clothes from now on! I had a clothes basket in the kids room already, but I hadn't really imagined it being full until now. Ohhh, I'm getting too excited too early in the process!
I can't wait to go to Colombia! We have some friends there now with their new additions and it's amazing to see the journey. The kids are really adjusting to them and even excited to go to their new home. Of course, they can't really understand what a huge shock that will be to change countries, but they will all be together. I'm glad we're adopting siblings. I'm really glad they will always have each other (and now us!)
I know the slow season is here and we won't hear anything for a few more months (at least!). I'm not expecting anything sooner than that, and I guess it makes it a little easier to know nothing is going to happen.
One of my new friends at church asked if we'd like a used double stroller from one of her friends. I thought that was so nice! Of course I said yes, (and I can't wait to use it.) I went to an adoptive shower on Sunday night, and watching all the presents open, I was a little surprised by how much we might need or could use. I think of myself as a minimalist, but it was a bit overwhelming to think there are so many items we might need for the children.
Adoption is everywhere. Last week I helped out in the nursery at church. There was one other gal there working, and yep, she has adopted children. I don't know if people are just coming out of the woodwork after I tell our story, or if God is just putting me next to these wonderful women who have gone before me to encourage me with their stories and experiences.
God is good!
These are the people in your neighborhood... that Sesame Street song has been running through my mind all day. Today I went to the Dentist. She has an adopted daughter from Guatemala. It was fun to talk about her experiences, then as I was arriving home and about to walk inside, the mailman pops up and hands me a package, so I stayed to chat for a minute and told him about our adoption. He has three children from China! Everywhere I go, I'm meeting families brought together by adoption, it's so amazing!