Asha, what a terrible experience to go through! I would've felt really self-conscious and humiliated too. And yayyyy for DH printing out that for her - that's so funny! Thank you for sharing, it helps me to know that you went ahead and BF anyway even after what that @$$ said to you!
Nadine, thank you! I don't think I'm amazing, I just want to give Addie every benefit possible. She's been in an orphanage all her life, and she's going to get the best possible "rest of her life" that I can possibly give her! At least, that's my hope.
Thank goodness you are Addie's Mom! Just remember that YOU are her MOM and know what is best for her.
I would tell your friends and family straight-faced with no room for humor or comments but in an informative way. "i've done a lot of research on the subject and found that adoptive mothers are perfectly capable physically to BF their child. Obviously for both the emotional and health benefits I would love to BF her so with the aid of a little device that is what we are going to do." Period, the end.
I really like that approach, Elicia. That is most likely what I will end up doing! I really don't want to invite a lot of comments about it, so when it comes up, I'll probably just say it matter-of-factly. You're awesome.
You are so welcome. Grrrrr. I get angry thinking of anyone questioning or looking twice at you for BF'ing your child. Just tune out the ignorance, Sandy. (holding fingers in ears and closing eyes) LALALALALALALALALALALA....
Well I can't find it anyways so that's good! LOL Yes it helps healthy lactation
The new house is coming along wonderfully! It's so fun to be in it for the holidays.
I love Elicia's approach too, that's exactly how I do it and I find when I explain in a confident matter a fact way, almost no one questions me - body language, tone of voice and how you handle/word yourself speaks volumes I think
And that's right hun, you stand strong! Don't let others ignorance take away from something as beatiful as breastfeeding
LOL your dh sounds like mine - anytime my milk came in he'd announce "The titty fair HAS ARRIVED!" he's such a nut IL ove nursing bra's though, I have several really prety ones and several really fun print ones like tye dye, lepoard, polka dot lol
It's interesting what motherhood does to you, how I thought I would parent and how I actually parent is drastically different - I'm very strict with my children but it's in a very AP sort of way, so I agree that you can have both, many ppl think we just let them run amok w/out discipline b/c we believe they should tell us what to do, that couldn't be further from the truth You should come and visit us on the AP board, LOTS of nice mama's there!
Julia - I do lurk on the AP board frequently! Which brings me to this - I am soooooo excited for you and DH that you're TTC one more!!! That is sooooo amazing, I can't wait until next Thursday!!!! Good luck!!!!!
Merry Christmas Sandy!!!
You will soon get to hold your little Christmas gift. You are on the home stretch now! Your dream seemed so beautiful and peaceful... I'm sure that's how it will be in real life.
Take care and Merry Christmas to you and your DH.
I just noticed that after I mentioned it LOL It's fun to see you over there
And thanks hun - it was a TUFF decision, but it seemed the more we told ourselves "maybe 1 more bio in the future, but right now were going to adopt" the more difficult it became, but once we decided to just go for it and have 1 more bio, get dh fixed & then adopt everything sort of fell into place - so we knew we had our answer.
The dream you had was SO sweet Sandy! And ya know - it IS real - your almost there hun!! I can understand why you'd be sad though, it's not happening RIGHT NOW & that has to be hard ((((hugs))))
wwahooo on the being able to buy more baby stuff too, how fun!!
Oh Gosh it is so sad about little Emma! What a tragic pairing! I don't know if it's because of adoption that she died. I fear that there are a lot of bio-parents as well , who are not ready for the demands of a baby.... sadly. Poor little Emma, this shouldn't have happened!