aahh the joys of parenthood. DH and I fight over silly things like that too when it comes to the kids lol (well, and not so lol) - for me sometimes I just want something for the baby because I want it!
I've told dh sometimes that I don't feel like I need to justify every little thing I want, sometimes it's okay to have fun! Although I have to say that I have a bumbo and I love it!! I use it a lot and it's a great way to let a baby sit up before they can sit on their own
I have to find out what a bumbo is... LOL
Maybe he feels like the money is flowing out without any control and he gets anxious about it. Just assure him that , you are still concerned about the budget just as much as he is. He will be OK
You mentioned that you are planning on going back to work.... will you get any time off with Adriana after you bring her to the States? Is there any kind of " maternity leave" for adoptive parents? I realize the two months in India will eat up some of that, but it would be nice to have some time with her at home before you have to go back to work....
The thing is, I don't even think the argument was about the issue we were discussing... lately it seems like we just need any old excuse to get heated and annoyed with each other. Please tell me this will pass!
Asha, your little boy in the white jacket reminds me of this sweet little preschooler I used to teach! (He's since graduated on to kindergarten, *sniff*) Oh, and I won't get any time off, but I plan on working only half a day (from 8-Noon) for a week or two and DH will be taking two weeks off to spend all day at home with the baby, too.
Is he under pressure at work?
Maybe he is just having pre- baby jitters. All of the sudden it is becoming all real and maybe he is worried about his ability to father.... Your life is changing forever and it is always upsetting to go through changes. Even with me ... after I come back from a hospital with a new baby and am unable to do what I used to do I have these thoughts: " What in the world did I do?! Why did I upturn everything again?" Then I settle into new routine , things work themselves out and the doubts go away...
Just try to be understanding and fess up to him if you also feel anxious about your impending motherhood.
Sandy, I am so excited for you and DH on your decision to adopt! My DH was adopted and was raised in a wonderful and loving home and is so grateful for all that he was blessed with. I take a peek at your journal often to see how it is progressing and cannot wait to see pictures of your beautiful Adrianna when the process is complete. You are going to be wonderful parents to this little girl! I love your list of things you won't be doing You will be able to do anything you set your mind on (or NOT do as the case may be). Though I will ask you one favor--when you figure out the secret to silence a 3 year old I could use a little help Anyways, I'm wishing you a speedy loan approval and that you get to hold baby Adrianna in your dreams every night until she is finally in your arms ((HUGS)).
Aww, thank you Elicia! It is so nice to hear from someone who is so closely associated with an adoptee. That gives me great hope.
I am sure I will be eating my words once the baby gets here! This is all just really, really wishful thinking!
Thanks for your sweet words - they mean a LOT!