Hehe, thanks Julia! I think I look really goofy!!
YAY!!!! That option sounds ideal and 1 month is long enough to bond ! What does "fostering " mean exactly. Do you keep her with you the whole month? She doesn't go back to the orphanage once you come? Are you going to stay in a hotel?
And of course.... what is Adriana going to be for Halloween next year?
Take care.... and thanks for booing me!
Fostering means that we are able to pull her out of the orphanage and she will stay with us in an apartment. The agency has a coordinator in India who will take care of us, as far as getting to doctor's visits, grocery shopping, etc.
I have NO idea what she's going to be for Halloween next year! I do tend to be drawn to costumes that have little ears on them, though. So maybe some kind of animal? What were your kids this year?
I am SO glad everything has worked itself out
What a relief that must be!!
Thanks now I understand that you will be a mommy pretty instantly. I thought 'fostering" means you will spend time with her in the orphanage but she will still sleep there and so on...
I just asked you about Halloween b/c next year you will be trick or treating and it's so exciting to realize that.
My kids were: Dork (white and nerdy) Scream, Luigi, Hair dresser, M&M, Dora and Elephant. I will post picks when ready.
Since Sunday!!?? Girl!! How are you keeping yourself together? lol I don't think your e-mail sounded pushy at all, it sounded like a soon to be mama who wants to know what's up!! LOL Gosh I hope she contacts you soon.
I hope you guys are able to adopt again soon too, that would be so exciting
About your test, have you read taking charge of your fertility? If not I would deffinatley borrow a copy from your local library and read where it talks about tests, and how to do them accuratley and how many doctors mess them up - if your interested I can tell you exactly where it is in the book.
Hey Julia! I actually own TCOYF, and read it religiously the whole time we were TTC. I will definitely look up the section with the HSG, though! I don't remember what she had to say about that. I am not too worried about the results... whatever will be, will be.
How are things going with you?? You must be ready to move into your new house soon, right??
Ahh cool, it's a good book I've not read it in several years and just bought the updated one, so I'm reading it now & just read that section last night lol
Things are going good! We'll be closing on our house at 11am (mst) on Monday, I am SO excited!! We'll then begin moving in slowly throughout the week, and do the big overhal on Saturday morning. wwahoo!!
Part of me is thinking of putting the journal back here, so that I can give updates as they happen & keep the super personal stuff in a more private journal - I've had so many ppl PM me I kind of feel bad for moving it now :-?
Gosh I hope this weekend goes fast for you, you poor thing!! lol ((Hugs))
CONGRATS on closing on the house so soon, Julia!!!! When we closed, we were practically giddy. It's such an exciting time!
I think it might be a good idea to bring your journal back and have another one just for the private stuff. That way I can keep up with your progress!
It's getting so close, it's unbelievable. You and your DH should celebrate!
Wow, Sandy!!!!!!!! I thought about you today and wondered if this was the day you would get your referral! Once they send you the information on your daughter what will be the process? Do you rush right over to India to foster her for a month? Do you live nearby the orphanage or in it---what will be your living situation when you get to India? I am just so thrilled for you and your DH!!
I'm so excited for you Sandy!!!
Thanks, ladies! I am breathless with all that's going on!! Elicia, I wish I could rush right over to India! We can't afford to go right away, so we'll be waiting 3 months, and then we'll fly over there and foster her for one month before we all fly back here. When we foster her, we make a clean break from the orphanage. Our agency coordinator in India will have a furnished apartment ready for us in a community that is populated mainly by other fostering parents. We'll be well cared for! I am so excited, I CANNOT WAIT!!!!! You ladies are sooo sweet for sharing in this with me!
When will you get to see pics? Whenever that will be IT"S TOO long!!
We get the referral pictures with the actual child case study (in about 2 weeks). So it'll be her pictures, medical information, birthdate and all that stuff. CAN'T WAIT!!!! I'm not going to get much done once I get those - I'll be too busy staring at them all day!
Two weeks??? If I'm feeling impatient I can't IMAGINE what your feeling
The fostering sounds really neat, what a fun and exciting time that will be for you guys! And how neat that you'll be able to be around other fostering parents - that will probably be really comforting at times.
That sounds like an ideal situation to be in a community of other foster parents. I bet you can network and maybe even keep in contact with some of them! Adriana is going to have such a special story to share with her own children someday about how she was born in India and her Mommy and Daddy came all the way across the world just to be with her.
Now we wait two weeks to see the picture of Adriana.... you will post won't you? It is so soon that in a few days you will start seeing milk with that expiration date....(that's how I judge how soon something will happen) CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
I love the combination of pink or blue with chocolate brown, it's darling! Your announcements sound really cute
14 hours is a LONG time!! Sounds like your keeping really busy.
Elicia, you are so sweet to say that! I really hope she will have positive memories of her childhood and adoption experience. I am from India too, so I hope that will help her maintain a sense of identity.
Asha, you're right! I WILL be seeing milk with that expiration date!! :shock: That's a great way to think of how soon it is! I wish I could post pictures of her, but unfortunately the agency has rules against that. We can't post pictures of her on the internet BUT... I can post my email address and if you email me, I can email you back her pictures since that's not considered a "public" place. Always a loophole!!
Sandy, don't worry--EVERYBODY FEELS THAT WAY!! The fear of the unknown will send any mommy-to-be into the jitters. That will go away very soon---as in the moment you hold your little girl and she looks up at you with big eyes and smiles. You will instantly know that you hold the power to fix boo-boo's and make her feel better when she is scared and sick. No worries!
Thanks Elicia. It makes me so nervous! DH is so calm and collected, he's the kind of person who says, "We'll just roll with the punches." But I am a leetle more high strung than that. Your words are comforting, though! I guess being given so much time to stew about it is not necessarily a good thing!
ASHA - CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :jumpingbeans: That is WONDERFUL!!!!!!! Are you hoping for a girl or boy this time?
Oh thank you!! This time around I really will be happy with any gender. I really wanted girls after 4 boys but now I have them so any healthy baby will do!
Thanks again! And congratulations on your refferalls coming soon. You are right- babies and little kids LOVE "good night moon" I think the predictability of it soothes them and when they get older they can "read" it themselves and be very proud of it.
Just checking in on ya Sandy ~ I'm sorry it's taking longer than you had hoped, it must take an inreadible amount of patience! ((Hugs))
OT but CONGRATS asha! How exciting! I have 4 boys and would LOVE a girl lol
Thanks Julia! I will keep you all updated!
it's monday sandy, I seriously came here thinking you may have news, lol. Just wanted you to know we're waiting with you
Sandy I know this is of ZERO help right now but.............HURRY UP, REFERRAL!!!!!!!! I think this calls for some retail therapy. For each day you do not get a referral you need to indulge in buying one baby-related item
Thanks, ladies!! I am seriously about to tear all my hair out!! It helps soooo much to know that other people empathize with me, and are waiting too! I don't think my real life friends are as anxious as you ladies are - thank you for being my support system!! :pileon:
aahhh!!!!! I think I'd be pulling my hair out too lol That is SO exciting, but what a tease! LOL You poor thing.
Aww, that's such a cute emoticon, Julia! I am sooo excited now but also sooo frustrated!!
How is the process going for you? I hope you're finding some answers and getting what you need with this break!
two weeks! oh two weeks!! LOL
here's hoping it's a bit sooner
It's less then two weeks now! Geeeezzz hurry up time .... for Sandy's sake!
Hmmm, Sandy. Depending upon the age, of course, you could send Teether toys or a lovey--maybe even a monogrammed lovey. I love the idea of sending a soft photo albumn. Be careful of the cute one made by Sassy, though, as it states it is PBT-free but a recent safety warning indicates it is not.
What's PBT? And thanks for the warning, Elicia! Anyone know any other brands that make these - and where I can find one?
Phthalate is a toxin that is apparently in plastics that babies can take in when they chew on plastic toys. Here's the link on the Sassy photo book and a picture of it---scroll down to the top of page 49: http://uspirg.org/html/2006DangerousToyList.pdf
Here's a page with a few other kinds: http://www.lullabyebaby.com/gund_photo_albums.htm
Thanks, Elicia! It's a little scary to see all those warnings! :?
I'll check out the link for the other photo albums too!
ETA: I really like this one! It's too cute!! http://www.lullabyebaby.com/gd75761_personalibees_pink_baby_photo_album.htm
Oh Sandy. Your posts are so sweet!! I love reading them, I cant' wait until you have her in your arms, your going to be such an amazing mom! She is so blessed to have you and your dh in her life, and to be her parents.
I think sending a care package is a great idea, I hope that they will let you!
I can't think of anything else to add, but if I do I'll let you know!
oh eta: your questions, things are going really good! We'll of been in our new house 3 weeks tomorrow - it's so great to have our own place. Were slowly getting moved in, most of the boxes are unpacked so now were just trying to organize everything, it'll be nice once that's done! lol
We've received some of our answers, and were both really at peace with where where were at and excited about what the future holds Once things are in motion again I'll give an update. Thanks for asking, your so sweet! ((Hugs))
That ornament is beautiful Sandy!
Thanks for all the sweet comments, Julia! Btw, I LOVE that pic of your LO in your siggy!!
I am so glad that the move into your new house went well! It's a real task getting everything sorted and finding a place for everything, but once it's all done - ahhh, what bliss! Happy to hear also that you are taking the time you need to get the answers that you want. Yay!!
And also, congrats on the weight loss - woo hoo!!!! :woohoo:
That ornament is beautiful and classy looking. When Adriana is about 5 you can tell her the story of how you got this ornament b/c in your heart she was already with you. This totally makes me cry. It is a happy and sad occasion. This special girl is so lucky!
Thanks, Asha. You're right - this is a very bittersweet Christmas! On the one hand, we have our baby girl, but on the other, she is in an orphanage far away without her mom or her dad there. I am trying to send her mental love waves - think it'll work??
Absolutely!! Love can travel and make us feel better. For Adriana it's just a matter of time until she is with you , cozy and cuddly. She already has a MOM who loves her. She is safe, happy and well with her Aya but she "knows" there is a mommy and daddy waiting for her. She is truly lucky.
Now it's just a matter of time and paperwork in India.
Oh thanks hun, he totally owns my heart!! And thanks on the weight loss, I can't wait to be back down to a happy size lol
Anyhow - onto you!
That would be so exciting Sandy!! I really hope it works out for you too, I just know you'd love it
I'm so sorry your parents were like that I have nothing to do with my father due to how abusive he was while I was growing up, so I can understand the pain & ache that comes with that, I sometimes really ache over not having a dad sooo much that it physically hurts. Espeically when I see others who have such loving fathers & their kids have a grandpa that they adore - I am so sorry that you are having to face this, I honesty don't know when that hole will close up, I suppose I'm still waiting for mine to close too, but I do want you to know that you have my utmost sympathies & also know that from the sounds of it while the choice you made was a very difficult one, it was the right one (((((hugs))))
:bighug: It is amazing how many women have (unfortunately) been touched by abuse in their lives. I am glad to have someone who understands where I am coming from. DH is as sweet as can be, but unless you've gone through it yourself it's kinda hard to understand completely, iykwim. Thanks for sharing. :bighug:
I only really understand the part of not having mommy while waiting for a baby. It sucks. I wish I could help you somehow
Thanks, Nadine. Just having people who care helps a lot. :bighug: I am sorry you are going through the same absence of a mother at this time.
I'm with you every step of the way, I swear I'm sweating less waiting to see my own, and they're right here! LOL
It's hard not really having your mom around (mine for different reasons of course, but it's still the same) you want your mom there when you get married, and to ask all sorts of questions waiting for your baby and to ask for advice. I latched on to my ex's mom and she did okay for me, and I can hope that you're able to do the same. It's not quite the same but I think we roll with it. I wish you the best.
As an aside.. what the hell? it's been days since you updated! I'm going crazy!
Hehe! Sorry, I have opened up the journal several times to write, but the words just aren't coming. I think I'm in sort of a slump that can only be cured by news of a referral!
I'm praying to see that real soon!