Sandy I am so sorry. I was hoping deep down that it would go much differently. However, as Asha pointed out, you've done well by not becoming like them, and you got from them the best gift ever, and that was how to *not* parent your child!
You have good spirits about it, I'm almost envious
Thanks, ladies. I think it's wonderful that I've gotten a chance to overcome my past. I am eternally thankful that I did not end up like them, and have so much to be thankful for and look forward to now. And like you all have said, I've learned valuable lessons!
I think from now on, it'll be easier to move forward. I feel like I have attained a good balance - an open line of communication if they ever feel the need to address things, and if not, we will speak occasionally.
Nadine - congrats on graduating bed rest!!!!!!! What a great accomplishment!!!
Your Aunt is awsome :blob5: :blob3: :blob6: What great news.
It's SO good you have family there to help you out. Very exited for you!
Not to mention the fact you get to go there earlier!!! YAAAY!!!
oooh, oooh *raises hand* I know, I know!!!! SPACE BAGS! I LOVE this invention. You can pack your whole house in 1 suitcase. You can get them at Target or Wal-mart and all you need is a vacuum hose to get the air out of the bag and seal it closed. The airline might charge you a little for the heavy bag, though. But just a thought
Ooh, great idea, Elicia!! I've heard of these before - didn't know they had them at WalMart! We'll definitely have to look into those - thank you soooo much for the idea!!
Oh poo, the wal-mart site says the space bags are online only :http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=2626229
But if you google "space bags" you will find two dozen different places that sell them.
I'm so sorry to hear that your parents haven't changed but glad that you were able to speak with them and super-glad to hear of the offer from your aunt!!! What a blessing!
Oh my goodness sandy!! Seriously, I'm squeeling with excitment for you - how dang cool is that, your aunt sounds like an absolute God send - what a jem she is!!
lol packing your bags - that sounds tricky. Hopefully your dh can do his magic and get as much as possible in!
Oh I'm so excited for you Sandy!!! Your almost there!!!
I don't love packing so I can't offer any advice. Hopefully your DH will fit it all in! Then he can come to my house and help me pack for our weekend gataway... I am scarred for life when it comes to packing. I used to love it as it got me exited for the trip but now it's like science of what to take and what to leave behind. You should be exited, though! Only a couple of months!!!
Elicia, I am sure we'll be able to find those somewhere! Thanks for checking for me, you're so sweet!
Asha, ooooh a weekend getaway!! Where are you guys going? Is it like a "baby moon" thing, just you and your DH?
Julia - you are so sweet! I can feel your excitement for us through your words!
ugh. I'm sorry Jenny isn't keeping in contact with you, I know their busy but I agree they need to have a bit more compassion for the poor parents in waiting, it's torture!
Oh I hope she replies soon! ((Hugs))
Sorry about the clearence taking so long! I think Jenny was sort off "avoiding"you b/c she didn't have any great news for you... I bet some clerk who was supposed to stamp something on Addie's clearence went on a two week vacation following New Years or something trivial like that.... I hope she gets the clearence pronto!!!
Our little trip will be to an indoor waterpark called Great Wolf Lodge. Definately kid-oriented! I am happy to go- it's how we survive the winter. It should be fun.
Oh, I hope you're right Asha, and it's just something small like that! I am so worried now, I have a massive headache from gritting my teeth! :roll: I wish I could just settle down, but it's very hard.
Have fun at the waterpark! That sounds like SO much fun!! One thing I definitely want to do is go to the pool a lot with Addie.
Sounds like you could use a few of these.
:bighug: :bighug: :bighug:
Yes, I really could! Thanks, Julia. You are such a sweetheart.
if *I* am going to tear my hair out I can't even imagine what you're feeling...
Sandy it will work out, I have faith..if you want, you can go and find other things to worry about, and I will worry about this one for you. Or, you can worry about this and let us worry about everything else?
I hope Asha's scenario is accurate.. ooh I hope
Well that's what is happening with my brother and his wife. They started infertility treatment with this clinic (in Poland) and they need to sync up HER ovulation with injecting her with donor sperm (sorry if TMI) ... Then the lady who was handling her case went on a month vacation (Europe.... long vacations...) so now she has to wait for her to come back!!! That's what got me thinking that whoever is working on Addie's case might be away!
Looks like you guys need a romantic weekend away, just to change the scenery. It could also be your last chance as the two of you!
"as the two of you" meaning before baby makes three! I don't want to be misunderstood!
Oh I think that's a great idea!! I know you both work really hard, so between that and the stress from the adoption - I think a weekend away would be just what the doctor ordered!
I know what you meant, don't worry! You know, that might not be such a bad idea! I'll have to talk to DH and fix up a place to go! We haven't been anywhere in a long time (partly due to expenses). The last time we got away for the weekend was for my birthday in September last year. Thanks for the idea, Asha! Now I'm excited!!
Sandy... You need a bear hug badly. :huggles: You did all of your work and requierements in a timely manner and they drag their feet!!! I think Jenny should have been up Minal's arse calling her and demanding information and not just politely waiting for them to call!!! :evil:
SOMETHING is holding the process up and you deserve to know!!!!
I hope tommorrow is better for you!
gah! How frustrating Sandy!! I think they really need to get their shiza together and start making things happen, you were SO diligent in getting your stuff to them it's the least they can do in return. Seriously, hun I'm sorry (((hugs))))
I am so sorry Sandy. I find it rude & completley unacceptable how she is treating you guys, your right your paying them for their services and they are failing miserably - I also agree that it's not like it's that hard to write a quick e-mail! But to say that she'll write you and then be gone until Tuesday?? ugh.
I hope the phone conversation goes better than expected, I really really do.
How dissapointing... Hang in there.... How can she put you on this emotional roller-coaster! They better not have lied!!! Maybe your DH should request a sit-down meeting with them , to clear things up? Are they far away?
I can't believe how poorly you are getting treated!
This is no better then TTC roller-coaster.
I am sorry Sandy.
Asha, I would like nothing better than a sit-down meeting, but they are in Maine and we're in Idaho. The phone call is about as personal as it can get. I really hope we get some answers on Tuesday! I just want things to get sorted out with this adoption, rather than having to start the process over with another program.
holy crap.. sandy you're in Idaho?? Me too! What part? Nobody on site is EVER from idaho! lol
:bigarmhug: I am so sorry you're dealing with the crap, it sounds like everyone is dropping the ball here. I have faith it will work out
LOL Nadine - your a hoot. I thought that was cool too when I read it - how fun to have someone so close! I'm only 3hrs from Idaho, or at least that's about how long it too me to drive up to Nadines - I'm in SLC.
Lots of hugs for you Sandy - been thinkin' of ya a lot latley.
OMG that's so cool, we're so close together!! Nadine, I'm about 45 minutes away from Boise. Where are you at? Hey, maybe once we all have/bring our babies home, we can get together!! Wouldn't that be fun???????? Asha and Elicia, you guys have to come too!!!!
I would love to come and visit with you and Nadine!
However, you guys live waaaaayyy out there in the West. Any chance you are moving this way?
I am being cautiously happy for you getting the refferal in 10 days! Keeping my fingers crossed for your little baby girl-who waited about 6 months to be matched with her Mommy.
OMGosh a get-together would be so much fun!!! Babies, babies, and more babies!!! Girl, we would do exactly what you have done about the 2nd child that is so much closer to being cleared. You are going to get the child that was picked out for you and DH by a much higher power than the adoption agency so don't ever look back and wonder if you made the right choice. (((HUGS)))
Sandy I live in Meridian.. so I don't know if I'm on the opposite side of you or what. I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to meet you.. I already think you're wonderful
If you guys meet up you HAVE to take pictures!! And then come to Utah and meet me
Sandy - ohhh lots of prayers & hope that you get news in 7-10 days .. eeee!!!!
Nadine, that's not really far away at all!! I think Meridian is like an hour and a half away from me? We really should meet up!!! Maybe once you have the twins?? And Julia, you know you're going to be meeting us too! Yay, this'll be so much fun!!
I am all about meeting up. We need to figure out what's wrong with our car but I would do it tomorrow if I could! lol
And yes, you are a lucky, lucky lucky girl... he sounds like a gem. Get better soon
Ditto on being very lucky with your DH!!! What a great guy to take care of you like that!
I hope you feel better soon, being sick blows...
Have a happy get-together! Do take pictures, so we can see you together.
Watermelon - I've been lurking around here and following your story . . . HUGE CONGRATULATIONS!!! How long will it be until you actually get her home with you?
OMG!!!!! Sandy has a baby!!!! :kaos3: :jumpingbeans: :sleepygirl:
It's a girl!!!!
Yaay!!! Gotta go baby clothes shopping!!! I am so happy for you and your DH!!!!! Can you leak any info? :oops:
How old? When are you guys going to go?
omg Sandy... omg omg omg!!!!!!! I didnt' see a new post on your journal so I came right to the comments thread to write you a quick note. Then I saw Asha's post so of course I had to go read.
OMG!!!!! I am so amazingly deleriously happy for you!!!! I want to know everything! (Of course I can't) I can not WAIT to meet you and your beautiful little girl.. When are you going to get her? Can you come down here and visit before you go get her? I may still be pregnant but I'd like to see you before you go.
OMG I can't express how excited I am for you!!!
If she's only about 6 months old how much FUN is that???
Tee hee, I'm all giddy and squealy!!
Whipeeee! Yay! I am SO happy for you and your DH ((((HUGS)))) Are there any details you are able to share with us when you find out? Like, does she have straight hair, curly hair, do they give you any information on where she was born, what is her personality, what are her favorite foods, toys, etc? Wow, this is just such a blessing for all involved. Congrats, Sandy!!
Thanks so much, ladies!! We are soooo excited and incredibly happy!!!!! And of course, soooo impatient to see her pictures!!!!!!!!! We know she is 6 months old, and her name and what orphanage she is at. We don't know her exact birthdate yet though. We will be leaving most likely in mid-March. DH will stay for one month, and I will stay for as long as it takes for the courts to grant us legal guardianship of her (most likely 2-3 additional months). I cleaned out her room this evening and DH and I were just standing there staring at it!! I think we're still a bit shell-shocked! Oh yeah, I will definitely share details about her that I can! You'll know everything you can about her without actually seeing her picture. And once we get legal guardianship, you won't be able to stop me from posting pictures!!
Nadine, of course we can meet up before I go! Let's do it once I get pictures of Addie - since I can't post them on the internet, at least you'll be able to see them in person!! I'll drive to Meridian, too... I don't want you lugging all three of you to meet me halfway or anything like that!
aww I love you. You best let me know as soon as you get pictures, I would so love to see her.
omg, sandy how SOON is march.. wow. And of course once you get settled I'd love to see all three of you.
Gosh what an amazing journey you have ahead of you, a LONG flight that is going to seem longer because of the excitement, months in a foreign country (thankfully you have a place to stay with familiar people) and meeting your little girl. Gosh I'm tingling.. it makes pregnancy seem dull in comparison
I knew this would come together
OH MY GOODNESS CONGRATS!!!!!!
January is basically over, February is the shortest month of the year and then March!!!! It will be so soon, it's poetic.
Is this orphanage also close to your relatives? Will they still be able to help you out?
Nadine is right. Pregnancy does sound boring compared to your adoption story...
Very happy for you!
Aww, you ladies are so sweet - you're making me all nervous and excited!! Asha, you're right - March is really soon! :? Oh my goodness, I feel so unprepared! I'm going to be a mom?!?! I know nothing about that! Okay, I have to calm down, I'm starting to hyperventilate. Is that normal??
Julia, will you be able to make the meet-up so you can see Addie's pictures too?? I'd love to meet you before I go! And of course, we'll all have to get together once I get back too, so you can meet the princess in the flesh!
Oh Asha, when do you find out the sex?? I had a dream you were having a boy!
I have a feeling you are over-prepared to be a moomy! (I mean it in a good way) The thing is we never FEEL ready... that happens when we finaly have the baby. Stock up your house with diapers, baby shampoos and lotions ( I assume you have clothes, and gear)and you can't be ready enough. Your heart is full of love for this little girl of yours already -that's all you need. Well, maybe patience too for the cranky days.
As for sex of the baby... I have a regular appt on Fri the 26 th. I hope to schedule an ultrasound appt. then. Some girls on my birth board already know. So far mostly boys. I don't really have preference this time around!
:goodluck: for your appt, Asha!! I can't wait to hear what you're having! You're going to have to change your screen name to "ashamom28" now.
Oohhh I would seriously love to meet up - when are you guys planning on doing so? That would be SO MUCH FUN!!
I loved reading about you and your dh going out, what a sweet & romantic night. That easter dress is sooo stinkin' adorable, I can't wait to see what she looks like in it!
Oh hun, seriously I am just so excited for you, I wish I could give you a huge hug right now!
We'll be meeting up after I get her pictures, so probably in a couple of weeks! That is, if Nadine is still pregnant by then and not a day or two postpartum!
I just read about the birthdate----I have goosebumps from head to toe!!!!!!!!!!
Wow! To have an anniversary and your daughter's bithday on the same day.... how truly special your day will be this year!
Summer parties will be a blast too!
So soon you will see her pictures! She is all yours!