OMG OMG OMG!!!! The SW contacted me and set up our home visit for THE 25TH!!!! That's next Tuesday!!! That's in 5 days!!!! Okay, I have got to calm down. She said she's just looking for the basic stuff, safety and childproofing. But still! She's going to be in my home, checking us out! GAH!! I sound like I have multiple personalities, which I really feel like I do right now! On the one hand I am so happy to get this big step done, and on the other, I am freaking out about it! DH is so cool and calm, he just said, "We'll take care of all the child proofing stuff this weekend." I envy him! I just never imagined we'd have our home visit set up so early - we are still waiting on a reference or two, and our lab work! I'm not complaining though!
I am so flaky!! Repost from the Adoption Boards:
So here's the thing - DH and I have always said that for our first, we'd either go with India or domestic AAI (African American Infant). We went from India to AAI to India again, because I kept switching. Now that we were set pretty firmly on India, I want to switch to AAI again!! Granted, we haven't gone any further than our homestudy (which a whole other agency is doing anyway, so it doesn't affect which program we choose) but still! What is wrong with me?? I keep weighing the pros and cons of each program and wanting to switch between the two! *Sigh* Someone please shake some sense into me and tell me to commit to one program already!!!
We've decided to stick with India - and I am very, very happy about our decision!! On a completely different note, our home visit is today in about 2 and a half hours!! I am sooo nervous!! I'm also just ready to get it done, because we've done pretty much all we can do! I will be back to update later how it went! Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers!
Ahh, I am feeling much more rested. I swear, after all that cleaning and worrying, I just CRASHED when it was all over. I went to bed at like 10:30 last night! So basically, the SW was an absolute sweetheart. She came in and petted our dogs, and sat on the couch and asked us some questions regarding our adoption plan - how DH would feel adopting a child of a different race, how we plan on talking to our child about adoption, how we plan to discipline her, etc. There was lots of joke-telling (DH cannot go one second without making a joke! LOL) and laughing, and then she asked if she could get a "tour" of the house. So of course we did, and she really liked it! And at the end we took her out into our backyard, and Odie pooped right in front of her! She was really cool about it though, she absolutely loved him and thought he was hilarious! She said we seem like we have a great sense of humor and a great relationship, and we've got what it takes to be really good parents. Our homestudy should be ready in a week! And I called the hospital today and they already have our lab results in!! YAY!! So we are good to go on the dossier. I am so happy!!
I am already making great progress on the dossier! Considering that I only started today, that is. I already got a reference letter from the bank (that was an ordeal!) and I turned in the sample for the employer's reference letter to my boss today. I also mailed out something that has to get apostilled by the SOS of Maine and Louisiana. Not bad, eh? So now about the bank ordeal! Here's what happened:
I went in to the bank with a typed letter that clearly stated what the reference letter needed to say. Basically, it needed to say that we did have accounts there, that we were clients in good standing with the bank, and what our average daily balances have been. So I explain what I need to the Customer Service Representative (CSR from now on), and she gets this really weird look on her face. Then she says, "Okay, hold on a second!" And hurries off. Okay.... so I sit there for about ten minutes and she comes back with a print out of our account that she got off a computer. She asks me if that would be enough because apparently, if they put in average daily balance numbers in a letter, that could be a "legal issue" for them. So I said that's fine as far as proving how much money we have, but I still need a letter saying we are clients of the bank etc. because it needs to be notarized and I can't get a computer print-out notarized. It needs to be in letter form. I told her if it was a legal issue, they could leave out the actual money amounts. So she gets this really confused look on her face and hurries off again. I hear her boss (to whose office she had been hurrying off) say, "So she said she couldn't use the print out?" And the CSR shrugs (???!). So I stand up and look into the boss' office and tell her what exactly I need. The boss looks confused and hurries off to find HER boss. So twently minutes later, they come in and tell me they'll have the letter for me at 4 PM. I went in at 4:30 PM, and they had the letter WITH the average daily balance on it!! So why couldn't they have just done that in the first place??? :rofl: Not the smartest people in the world, but whatever! I got my letter!
I put an adoption ticker in my siggy so that I can keep track of how long we've been doing the "paper chase". I think it's cute!
I am waiting to hear back from Jenny about what course to take about the medical certificates. Hopefully she'll call me back soon. I also left a message asking her about the average wait time for a referral. On the MAPS website it says between 3-10 months, and that's a really wide range so I want something more narrowed down. It'll probably be around 6 months, is what I'm expecting, since I'm an Indian citizen.
Yesterday was a really annoying day at work. I was supposed to work from 8-12, and my boss asked me if I could stay till 1:30 since we were short staffed. So I said sure. She sent this other girl H, to lunch. H was supposed to come back at 1:30 so I could go home. Well, she goes home like she's going to lunch, and then right before 1:30, she calls and says she's not going to come back in to work at all because she's tired!!! So there were two of us and 30 kids! It was insanity. I ended up staying till after 5. And 9 hours with no lunch break and 30 screaming kids is no fun!!!! I wanted to beat up that girl! How irresponsible and selfish do you have to be to do that?? Not to mention sneaky. Ugh.
Hmm, I'm hungry but nothing looks good! What should I eat?? I'm off to raid the fridge!
Update: Awesome, Jenny got back to me and said that I could just have my doc sign the regular medical certificate and attach a letter about our infertility! Yay! So now we can definitely move forward, I just need to call and get a same day appointment sometime this week. DH said he wants to go with me so we can make sure we get everything. He's getting off work at noon tomorrow so we can go to the notary and submit his passport for processing. He has some big evaluation on the 21st, but he did this without a second thought after I told him how nervous I was about getting this all done. He is such a sweetheart; I know this is going to set him back a few days and he's going to have to stay late at work, but he doesn't even complain a bit.
Here's part of an email I got from Jenny today: "Because you hold an Indian passport, your wait time for a referral will be on the shorter end, it may be anywhere from 1 to 3 months from the time your dossier is complete."
Can you believe that???????????? 1-3 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am going to be a mommy so much sooner than I had thought!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG OMG OMG, I am going to scream or pass out or hyperventilate or something!!!! Okay, I must calm myself!