Aren't these shortalls just adorable??? I LOVE them!!
I am back to my shopaholic ways! DH and I agreed to start buying baby things in April, so I am totally feeding my inner demon, too. It's going to be so much fun, I can't wait!
I was working on the first draft of our Dear Birthmom letter, and I think I'm doing pretty well! I'm a marginally better writer than DH, and I love to do it, so I think I'll do the major writing and he'll give me input on what to change, etc. He's also going to write a paragraph about me. I thought it was going to be harder than this, but it's flowing pretty naturally. We also have to send in 10-20 pictures of us and our lifestyle! I'm going to definitely include pictures of our pets. Our cocker spaniel's face would win over the toughest mom!
Yay!! I am all done with the birthmother letter! I am so proud of myself! Also, I am realllllllyy excited!!! I got an email from the lady at the adoption agency. I had asked her how realistic she thought it was that we could expect a child soon. Here is what she had to say:
And being open to gender, ethnicity, a bit older infants, and being a multi-cultural family? I suspect it will be sooner than later. But the more "popular" a family is, the more they have to expect some ups and downs... (being chosen by birth mother, you being ready to travel, and then she changes her adoption plan...it is hard, but it happen...and we try to keep you from traveling until we know it is quite a actuality!) I don't know, BUT it could be a very short wait time...
Sounds like she was trying to be cautious, but I think we'll be getting a baby soon!! One of the ladies on my support group said she waited 5 weeks for her first son and 2 months for her second. She also didn't specify gender or ethnicity composition (how weird that some people DO)!! I am super, super excited!! DH is getting really nervous that we won't have had time to 'prepare' but I don't think he realizes that no matter how much you think you've prepared, it's never going to be enough. Babies turn your world upside down, no matter what! I can't wait!
Woo hoo! DH and I did one out of the two online courses that we need as part of our pre adoption requirements. We see eye to eye on a lot of parenting issues, and that is such a huge relief! Of course, we've talked about parenting in the past, but just having tangible evidence of it now that we are so close to becoming parents is amazing.
We looked around the BX (kind of like an Air Force Wal Mart) today for baby things, and they actually have a pretty good selection of cute little clothes. But as far as car seats and strollers, they didn't have very much. And the stuff they did have was pretty cheap and low quality. So we'll probably have to do most of our registration and buying at BRU and Target. I can't wait to register! We're going to have so much fun. We're also going to buy a fridge and microwave for our room. That way, when the baby comes, he/she can sleep with us in our room (we'll need to buy a bassinet) and when it's time for the 3 AM feedings, we won't have to go all the way downstairs while we're half asleep.
This lady on my support forums invited me to go to their playgroup once the baby comes. I am so excited! It'll be so nice for the baby (especially once he/she gets older) to be around other adoptees, and people of African American origin. Not a lot of people around here are minorities, and that bothers me. It's a lot different from South Carolina! My best friend here is African American, though, so I know my baby will have at least some interaction with people of his/her ethnicity on a daily basis.
The president of this group I'm a part of (it's a group for families who have adopted minority children) told me in an email that it's best to have basically everything ready for the baby as soon as you get on the waiting list with the agency. She said you just never know when you're going to get THE CALL. I am so excited! We're going to buy stuff for the baby every two weeks, starting in April (which is when DH's promotion pay kicks in).
My best friend sent me a picture of our coworker who had adopted a little boy last summer. She looked so happy, and he looked so CUTE!!!! Motherhood really agrees with her. She looked like she had lost some weight, and she was absolutely glowing. I am so happy for her, and excited for myself!
Last night I worked on our family photo album. DH and I picked out pictures that we want to include for the birthmother to see, and then I opened them up in Photoshop and wrote little captions on them. I am very satisfied with the results! Now we just need to take them to WalMart and have them make 4x6 prints of them. Everything is coming along so well so far!
Wow, I am so touched. Someone nominated me for Queen of the Day on the TTC 0-12 boards, even though I'm not even active on there anymore! I so do not feel worthy of their sweet compliments and praise, but I am in awe of how sweet and kind they are. to all my TTC sisters!!
Woo hoo!! We are going to WalMart tonight to make copies of the pictures we are going to use in our scrapbook to the birthmother. We are also going to get some scrapbooking supplies so I can get to work on the scrapbook!! I am so excited!! I already have a bunch of scrapbooking stuff, but I want to look at what they have baby-wise. The front page is going to say our names and then, "Waiting on our little miracle" or something to that effect. Hope it comes out cute!
I have to go work on DH's birthday card - his birthday is in two days!!!! Be back later!!
I've been thinking... mostly about myself. The idea that I might be a mom soon has led me to this pondering, self analyzing phase (not that I'm not like that already!). I was just thinking back over the last few years and how much I've changed. I feel that because of what I had to deal with as a child, I was forced to grow up faster than most. I felt like I only had myself to depend on, and I had to constantly watch out for my safety and well being. Then, when I met DH, it was like pure heaven! Here was someone who would always protect me, never played mind games, would never hurt me - physically or emotionally. And now that I'm settled, I realize that I like who I am. I'm not overly high maintenance, I'm not mean (in fact, I would describe myself as a kind person), I'm not given to drama, and I am honest and genuine. Sometimes I can be flakey, but not to the point of irresponsibility, and those that know me like this about me. I don't have to have things 'just right', and I don't think that I'm always right. I am loyal to those I love, and when I love, I love with all my heart. All these traits lead me to believe I will be a great mom.
Alright, enough philosophy!!! I didn't get to go to WalMart last night because DH was really tired, so I am going today while he's at work. I also have to pick up something for his birthday, so it actually works out really well! I think instead of cake, I'm going to get him Pumpkin Pie (his favorite) since neither of us are very big into cake. And of course, I'm going to get our pictures for the agency printed! We have 22 pictures, which I think is a good amount. I also want to see what kinds of scrapbooking stuff WalMart has. If they don't have what I'm looking for, I might stop by that other store that specializes in scrapbooking stuff. They are a little expensive, but I know it'll be well worth it.
Grr. DH and I had an argument. In the military, they usually give you your birthday off. Well, we had talked about it a little while ago, and it seemed like he was going to take it off. Then yesterday, I ask him, "You're taking Wednesday off, right?" And of course, no, he had totally forgotten it was his birthday. This is pretty normal for DH, he has a terrible memory, so I let it go. He said he'd ask his supervisor today. Well, of course, it's too late now and they're short staffed, so the supervisor says he'll have to talk to his supervisor. So DH says, "Don't worry about it, how about if I just come in late and work the rest of the day?" So basically, he's going in at 9 instead of 7. How does that help me?? I wanted to spend time with him on his birthday, because even though it's not important to him, it's important to me. I made him a card, and I was going to bake him Pumpkin Pie, and then we were going to go pick out his present together (he wants a gun, and I don't know what kind, so I was going to take him to the store and let him pick it out). So I got a little annoyed, and I said, "Well, that doesn't really help because I still don't get to spend the day with you." And he says, "Fine. I'll go in early and get out early." So I said, "No, don't do that. You want to sleep in, so sleep in." And then he gets all martyr-like and says, "No, no. I want to sleep in, but it's not my birthday! Let's do what you want to do." Arrrgghhh! And then he asks me what I had planned for his birthday! Yeah okay, let me just tell you what I had planned and ruin the surprise. I mean, why can't he just take the day off and trust that I have something planned?? I don't even get why he's making such a big deal of it! It's so irritating! So I got pissed, and I said, "Do whatever you want." Ugh. I hate when we argue. What makes me even more mad and hurts my feelings is that he has to work all weekend, so it's not like we can even postpone his birthday! And when I said, "Well, when are we going to celebrate your birthday?" all he could say was, "Oh yeah, I forgot I was working this weekend." And his response to me saying the whole point of him taking his birthday off was so I could spend time with him? "I didn't think about that." Well, I wish he would! I wish he would've made more of an effort to remember! And he said, "I made a compromise between work and you by going in at 9 instead of 7." Umm, how is that a compromise?? It still doesn't give me time with my husband on his birthday!
Phew. Vent over.
Aaaarggghhh!!!! Today is not a good day. I just spent 2 hours at WalMart getting my pictures done, and somehow I didn't upload all the pictures off my CD to their machine, and of course, didn't realize that till I got home so I don't have all the pictures I need to do my scrapbook!! I'm going to have to drive back down there tomorrow or maybe later this week. It's a 20 minute drive into town, that's what makes me mad. Grrrrr.
Okay, today got steadily better. DH and I talked when he got home, and we both apologized and got everything sorted out. He basically said he had NO idea I had planned anything, and he would try to go in late and get home early. They are just majorly understaffed with all these changes taking place at work, and he didn't want to leave his team high and dry (it's just him and this other guy right now). So I said I'd wake up with him a little early, and give him his presents, and then continue the celebration when he got home! So it's all good now.
Also... I got my old job back!!!!!!!!! My boss said he could really use me right now, so I can basically set my own hours. I've agreed to work Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9-4 and 9-3, respectively. That way I don't overdo it or compromise my time for school. Oh! And I get to work with my best friend! Yay!!! I'm also going to talk to him tomorrow about pay. There is no way I'm going back for those hours on what I was making before! This is really cool because all of this money is just going straight to our adoption fund! Yay!!! I am so happy that I'll be able to make such a sizable contribution! I think I'll be starting either Thursday or Tuesday, depending on what Scott says tomorrow.
Hehehehe, DH was so excited that he's actually getting a gun for his birthday! He was totally fooled because I had told him all our money needed to go towards the adoption and I didn't want to spend any on a gun for him. Poor guy! He wants us to drive into the nearest city from here (an hour away) when he gets home from work so he can register and all that good stuff. He's so cute!!
I worked on two pages in our scrapbook last night! The second page turned out better than the first, but I'm still happy with the results. DH really liked it too. The lady from the agency said I could email her if I wanted to see samples of what people have done in the past. I think that would give me a really good idea! Of course, I'm going to take her up on that offer.