This is the kind of baby carrier we're going to get!
It's a Mei Tai, from www.babyhawk.com They have SUCH beautiful fabric choices! (And no, that's not me in the picture! ) I'm going to get one that's a black background with gray dragonflies on it (neutral enough so DH can wear it too), and have a reversible fabric on the other side, so it's like two carriers. I plan to wear the baby at least until he/she is about a year old.
I am DONE with all but one class! Phew! It is SUCH a relief, I cannot even begin to tell you. Of course, I start back up June 5 with two others, but it'll be nice to have a hiatus from all the craziness of work and four classes. I am planning to take three classes over the summer, then two during the Fall (because that's when we'll be bringing baby home) and then taking a break for the next semester. That'll knock out a lot of credits, and yet give me time to be a new mom. I cannot wait! I have to tell my boss about the adoption, because once we get on the waiting list, that call could come any time. I want to be honest with her, because I do not intend to go back to work once we have a baby. But I'm also a little afraid she'll fire me, because I've only been working there two months! I really hope she doesn't. She's a good person, so hopefully she'll let me stay for a while, if not the whole time until we get a baby.
Oh! The homestudy agency called DH's phone today, but of course he was at work and didn't get the message till he got home. And then it was too late to call them. I'll have to make sure and specify that my number is the primary number! I don't want to miss any more calls and delay the process!
Yay!! We've made some progress! On Friday, the HS lady called and said to give her a call back. Well, I didn't get the message till late, so I had to call her today. I was a little nervous because she said she wanted to "discuss" the homestudy application with me, which I thought sounded like something was wrong. Well, it turns out she just had to ask these standard questions over the phone like have we ever been convicted of a crime, etc. After that, she said she'd send over our homestudy paperwork tomorrow! It should be here by Friday at the latest. She also emailed me a form so that we can go ahead and get our fingerprints scheduled. DH and I were both able to get in this Friday at 1:20 PM and 1:40 PM. Yay!!!! This is all going so fast!!! She said the longest wait during the HS is the fingerprinting, and it can take up to 6 weeks to come back! But at least that will give us time to get all our other documents together. And after that, we have two interviews each, and then the home safety inspection. Yay!!!!! I am so excited!!!!! DH and I already bought some stuff for baby online. We got a pack of onesies, a 3 pack of Dr. Brown bottles and a Diaper Champ. We also registered online at Target, BRU, Baby Depot and the Baby Center Store. We're going to start shopping in B&M stores the beginning of June!!
We got some great news today!! Our house was appraised, and we have $6000 built-in equity, which means we underpaid by $6000!!! WOO HOO!!!! And the value is only going to go up, because we are in one of the nicest neighborhoods in town, and the market is projected to really explode in favor of the seller. Happy Dance!!
I called my psychologist today and asked her to write a letter of recommendation for me for the HS agency. She said she'd be happy to. She's going to have it ready for me the next time I go in to see her (a week from Thursday). It's really cool that I'm getting such a beautiful chance at life again. Child abuse is really hard to deal with, but all the work and tears have totally been worth it because of the outcome. I am so happy, I have a wonderful husband and a great marriage, and I am a very content person. What more could anyone want?
Blah. I am so sick! I have had a 102 degree fever yesterday and today. I couldn't take any time off work though, because we're already short staffed, and I know how bad it can get when one person takes off. The rest of the people are always overworked. I hope I get over this fast! I hate being sick.
Phew, sorry I haven't updated this in FOREVER!!! Believe it or not, I am STILL sick. I can't shake this darn strain of germs! And I got DH sick too, the poor thing.
We are finally moved into our new house, although most of the unpacking still needs to be done. That's a major chore in and of itself! The house is so beautiful, I fall more and more in love with it everyday!
The adoption process is going smoothly. We are just getting a little bit done at a time. Right now we have references writing letters and our fingerprints are being processed. We also got assigned a caseworker! Yay!
Things are about to get more hectic for me. I signed up for an EMT course! The class is 45 minutes from where I live, two nights a week from 6-10 PM, so you can imagine how grueling that's going to be! Luckily I only work part-time at the Preschool, so I won't be going all day. I am so excited about this, though! I have wanted to take this class forever, and I finally have the opportunity! I cannot wait to become a Paramedic!
Wow, my last entry was a month ago! Soooo sorry I haven't been updating like I should! Hmm, let's see, we are still stuck in the paperwork part of things. Haven't moved forward yet, and we keep putting it off because the wait for the African American Infant adoption program with WACAP keeps getting shorter and shorter! It's like, once we get in our paperwork we need to be ready to go NOW. DH and I were a little uncomfortable with that, so we talked and talked and slept on it and decided to go back to the India program we had talked about at first. We must seem really flaky, but I feel really good about it. That way we have a longer time before we get a baby (but not too long; since I'm Indian, they would give us preference) from the time we submit our paperwork. I could work for a little while longer, pay off some more of my student loans and get the house ready for a baby. Luckily we haven't gone far with WACAP. I would love to go through them for India too, but I think Children's House International (the other CHI) has a better program.
I have a month and a half till I graduate from EMT school! So excited! I have my first clinicals next Sunday at a big emergency room in a hospital. I am nervous!
Ahh, it feels good to be back on pg.org!
I changed my siggy today to reflect that we're going to be adopting a little girl. It feels so good to say that! I didn't realize it, but it's important to me that our first child be a girl. I had a terrible relationship with my mom, and I just want a chance to have that nurturing mother-daughter bond with my child that I never had with my mom.
As far as a time frame, it looks like it'll be about 9 months from when our dossier is accepted to the time we'll bring our baby home. Just like a pregnancy! So hopefully by the Fall of 2007!! Gosh, we have so much to do! We have to buy clothes (and a wide variety of sizes, since we don't know how big she'll be exactly), all her nursery stuff, diapering things, playard, car seat, stroller - yikes!! Okay, I need to breathe. We have another year!
We sent out a reference letter to DH's dad. It's kind of awkward because we can only have one relative write it and we chose his dad (not his mom). The reason being, while his mom is a lovely person, she is a little hormonal right now. She went through a hysterectomy, and since they had to take out her ovary too, she has to take HRT's. So that, and we just think his dad is generally a better choice for that kind of thing. I don't know how we can make her not be hurt.
DH's grandma had a stroke, and she's in the hospital. She's still really delirious from it and doesn't recognize a lot of family, etc. I feel so bad, I really wish we could be there right now. It's not a total shock because she's been steadily declining over the years, but she is such a sweet lady. I hope she gets to go home soon.
HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY!!!! To all you Americans out there, anyway. We bought a bunch of fireworks today (well, "bunch" is a relative term). We were talking about how much more fun it would be with a little kid around to enjoy them. It's raining here, so I doubt they're going to do the city fireworks. Poor kiddies out there! No 4th of July fireworks, that sucks!
I was checking off all the paperwork we have gotten together on the checklist that the agency sent us, and we have a LOT of it done! I am so happy! We just have to get our physicals done, that's the main thing. Of course, for our dossier to India, we'll have to get a lot more paperwork together, including passports, etc. But I won't know exactly what till our SW emails us back after the holiday.
DH is making dinner, so I have to go now!
Yes!!!! I have SO MUCH done! All I need now is physicals... and, that's it!! And of course, reference letters, but that's upto our references. I called our insurance company and got all the information about their policy page for their agency. We are good to go, baby!! Now all that concerns me is getting our passports ready (DH doesn't have one and mine is about to expire) and how picky the Indian government will be with our forms. Yay!!
I also won this really, really cute baby girl outfit on Ebay. It's adorable! I have been going a little crazy with buying baby outfits, but I am just so happy I get to dress up my little girl! Hope DH doesn't get too mad!
I couldn't help but buy it - it just looked so adorable! I don't even know if it will fit her (it's 12 mos), but if it doesn't I can always Ebay it again or give it away. This is in addition to all the Children's Place things I have coming! I am a total shopaholic.
DH's grandma is doing better - yay! I am really glad to hear that. I hope she gets to come home soon.
I'm in the process of filling out these forms - "homework" from a training session we had to take on the computer for international adoption. It's called Eyes Wide Open, and it's really informative! So far I like it. It's about how your child will feel coming to a completely strange country.