I just meant that since not everyone reads this, it would be cool to have you put your information in another separate new post on the board itself. :D Just a suggestion! It looks like you've already put a post on there, so you've already integrated!
Thought I would add to this one too.
I'm Kirstie, DH and I have been married for 15 months now and together for 27 months. We moved fast :D
We have been trying since January 2004 with no luck. We had one m/c in April 04 but no luck at all since. We have been seeing a specialist who is supposed to be one of the best in the country and stil lno luck yet but then again I'm only on my second round of Serophene.
Dh and I decided before we saw the doctor that we would not do IVF and IUI was iffy. Now we have decided that IUI is not what we want to do either. We have juststarted the process to adopt from Children's Aid, so probably an older child which is fine. Our families are on board so we are moving forward to build our family.
I look forward to getting to know you all.
I thought I should introduce myself as I lurk here a lot and seem to have started posting too :oops:
I'm Christa, 29, DH is Tony, 34. We have a 4 month old son and would like another. However we are interested in adopting our future sibling for Adam and that is why I started lurking here.
I love to read your stories and get quite emotional sat here at the computer!
Hope it's ok to jump in.
Welcome Kirstie and Christa! :D
I've been lurking on this board almost as long as I've been posting on the ttc boards, so I figure it's time to introduce myself. My dh and I have been married for 5 months, but I've been charting for over a year and a half already. I knew as early as 8 years ago that my reproductive system wasn't right, but I didn't know until the charting how bad it could be. Then I was definitively diagnosed with PCOS a couple weeks ago.
I'm on clomid right now, and it seems to be working in that there's a good chance I'll O on 50mg, which is great. We're also getting an sa this month after the O. If I O and his s/a is good, then we'll keep going with the clomid for 4-6 cycles if necessary.
If, however, even with an O and a decent s/a, we don't get pg in the next 4-6 cycles, we're going to stop ttc. We don't believe (for many reasons) in doing an iui or ivf. My doctor even had to talk me into an hcg shot, and there's no way I'm going any other kind of injectable. We just don't have any options besides clomid that we're comfortable with, and the ttc journey is exhausting beyond what I expected. It might happen on accident once the medicine is over, but I doubt it.
Anyway, sorry to give my life story! I just wanted to say that I've been thinking about adoption a lot, lately, and it's becoming more and more an option to me. My dh isn't on board, yet, but he knows I'm both thinking about it and scared about it as well. The cost is prohibitive, and we'd have to mourn the idea of not having a child of our own first, if that makes sense.
I really admire ya'll for all you go through, and I hope to have the same courage if bio children aren't in God's plan for my dh and I.
Welcome! As I'm sure you can tell from your lurking, adoption can be just as exhausting and frustrating as ttc. But the results are definintely worth it! After I got off the fertility roller coster in 94, it took me two years to mourn. Believe me, we know what you mean!
I adopted my DD nine years ago, and it has been worth every second! She is the love of my life!!!
The cost of private and international adoption are prohibitive for us as well. We have found happiness in the thought of caring for another child like my sweet little girl, another special needs infant. As challenging as the journey has been with this child, it has been at least as rewarding.
Just a thought...
Hello! :) I am sorry to hear of your TTC troubles. I totally understand how that can be! DH and I have been trying for about 2 years now. However, we still think of this child we are going to adopt as "our own". :D To us, she is no different than a bio child! It really does get easier once you decide to take that step. It was actually a BIG relief for me to be in a process where I knew the end result was definitely going to be a baby! Hopefully one day you and DH will be the same! :D Don't let the costs stop you - there are a lot of grants and tax credits available to you!
And adopting special needs babies and children is close to free...
Thank you so much for your support! One thing that gives me hope is that a woman that we know from church adopted and we know she's not wealthy. She went through the foster-care system and, although it was a roller-coaster due to losing at least one child she had bonded with, she ended up with a beautiful infant that she got to adopt for good. She's the sister of a good friend, so we can talk to her for details when/if we go that route. It's a relief to know there are ways for us to be parents, and we'll find the right way for us in good time. Thanks again!
Here is where you can search for the children that are available for adoption RIGHT NOW in Texas (your state), in foster care, but freed for adoption, so you will pay almost nothing, and the chance of losing the child is slim to none.