Hi Alyssa, and welcome to the board! KUP on your journey and jump on in with any questions!!
Hi my name is Melissa I am 25 yrs old and DH Robbie is 32. We have been married for 5 yrs and haven't conceived. I have been wanting a baby ever since I could talk. I have always got my period and ovulated and have had no problem. Well I have always hade really bad periods cramp wise and heavy flow. So I deceide to get treatment so I took clomid to intensify my ovultation but no pregency. I am going in for an HGS to see if my tubes are blocked this Friday the 22nd. The next step to go on injectables is going to be expensive and I am getting very emotional going to the doctors every month and taking all these medications. It is getting hard on me to see all these pregant women around me. Sorry had to vent. Anyways ever since I was a little girl I had a big heart for AA kids. I always told my mom when grow up I am going to get a big truck and bring them clothes and food for them. My husband and I have talked about adoption before and we both deceide that we want to adopt even if I can conceive. Our church is big on adoption and I know I will get support from them. We don't have the money right now so I am unsure of how and what we are going to do. I just wanted you ladies to know a little about me so maybe you can give me so advise on financially what to do.
Welcome Melissa! The financial aspect of adoption can be really hard to deal with. Many people take a loan out on their home equity. There are also fundraisers you can do to raise money. Oh, and you get an adoption tax credit of almost $11,000 for adopting. I know some employers will also reimburse you for adoption expenses - in the military, it's $2000 per adoption. Hope that helps you some! I am sure the other ladies will have lots more advice!
I'm here to look for info, and hopefully soon I'll be posting my own adoption updates with you gals.
My husband and I are capable of having kids, theres just a lot of children out there that need homes. We've talked about adoption a lot, but we recently went on a missions trip to Mexico with our church and while we were there we had the chance to visit an orphanage. It was totally heartbreaking to see what we saw, and was definitely the nudge we needed to get the ball rolling on this. So here I am.....
Well, my husband and I have been ttc for 20 months. He has tested fine. My HSG showed my tubes weren't blocked. I had an MRI because they thought my uterus was shaped irregularly but that came back fine. All of my thyroid tests came back fine. In other words, no one knows why we can't get pregnant. I took two rounds of Clomid which didn't pan out. I had the phone in my hand to call my OB for the third round and I just thought to myself "I don't want to do this anymore!" I just had it in my heart that it wouldn't be successful and I already decided (before the time actually came to decide and I would be too emotionally involved) that IVF wasn't what I wanted. I turned to DH and asked him if we could adopt. After we talked for awhile we decided to pursue adoption. If I end up pregnant at some point down the road, great. But this feels like a more tangible way to keep working for a baby.
Mom to 4 fur babies: Charlie, Gypsy, Skittles, and Kit Kat.
Then God remembered Rachel; he listened to her and opened her womb. Genesis 30:22
In all of this I know I'll make it through and be left standing stronger then before.
Hello! My name is Tiffany. I am 27 years old. I have been married for 9 years. I am a homemaker. My husband is a part time youth pastor and works full time as a Engineer. I love working in student ministry. It is my passion in life. We have been ttc for about 7 years. TTC knowing we had a infertlity problem for about 2 years. ( we were in big time denial for several years) The infertlity problem is on my part however they can not tell my why I can not get pregnant. They only know it is for sure not my hubby. We did IF treatment for about a year.I struggle greatly with not having children. It is a daily struggle in my life. We have recently decided to start the adoption process. We are more than likely going to be adopting from Ethophia. The country has just stolen our hearts and we feel such a pull to go adopt from there. We are very excited. We had a failed international adoption from Kazakhstan in 2004. It failed after our paperwork got to the judge in the country. They said I was too young ( I was 24 at the time) The agency told us I was not to young and then the Judge said I was. Basically the agnecy we used should have never let us apply. It was a HUGE mistake on there part. We were heart broken. We know the chances of anything going wrong again are very slim. We are really looking foward to bringing our baby home we have longed for and wanted for so long.
I am really glad to have found this site. I look foward to getting to know you all!
Welcome to the board, Tiffany. I am so sorry to hear of your failed adoption. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. What a horrible thing to have happen. Looking forward to getting to know you more!
Tiffany...that must have been devastating! What agency are you using?
Hang in there and continue to trust the Lord. He has a child waiting for you to love!
My name is heather, I am married and have been since january 04. We have two little boys under 3. My husband had a vasectomy after our second was born because at the time I was sure that I didint want to go through pregnancy again. I used to be a stay at home mom, but withion the past 5 months I have been working part time for CVS pharmacy.
Shortly after that we started talking about adoption. Its been over a year now and we are very set on adopting. We will be adopting through foster care system. We plan a domestic adoption. We decided to adopt over having more of our own because of how many children are out there with no family or home. Its heartbreaking, and we feel God has lead us to this decision.
I am Jen (33), and dh is Tripp (39). We just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary and 9 years together. We have a bio ds who will turn two in a month! We've known for years that we wanted to adopt. I was adopted as an infant, so it's something I always thought about doing. We decided to have one bio child and then adopt, and that is what we are doing! Our dossier was logged-in in China on 4/5/07, and we decided in the last few months to join the Waiting Child program. So we submitted our medical conditions checklist (MCC) to our agency on 12/19/07. We anticipate a wait of about a year to bring our daughter home!!
Right now ds keeps us very busy, along with our 6 pets (2 dogs and 4 cats), and we have a lot of traveling to do in 2008. So I am sure we'll see our daughter's face before we know it. We are hoping she'll be around 12 months old when we bring her home, but due to the long waits lately between referral and travel, she could be a few months older. That's OK, too, of course! I think about her every day and have already started collecting her wardrobe!
I'm happy to talk to anyone who is considering China, as I have been researching it for years!