Hi Jen! Welcome! How exciting that you're adopting from China! I know we have at least one other member who is also adopting her DD from there. It's great that you have so much to keep you busy. You'll be getting The Call before you know it.
Hello, my name is Courtney and DH and I have just decided to pursue international adoption. We have been TTC for 2 year, and married for almost 4. After 1 fresh, and 2 frozen IVF cycles, we have decided to put our hearts into adoption. We are actually looking to adopt an HIV+ infant or siblings and are just getting started down that road. I look forward to meeting everyone here.
Courtney & Jesse - married July 12, 2003
Mom to 3 Furbabies - Nemo, Max, & Ripley
Hi everyone! My name is Kelli. My husband and I have three biological children. A couple months ago we were contacted by a DSS agency in a neighboring state. We were told that our niece's son is available for adoption, both of his parents' rights have been officially terminated. His mom is in prison and the dad cannot maintain sobriety. This is something that came at us completely out of the blue. We talked it over for a couple days and decided to proceed with things. We knew in our hearts and through a lot of prayer that this is something we could not say no to. We had talked about adopting a child in need someday and this is our day I guess. LOL! I could never have lived with myself as a mother if I turned this down. So, we are going through all of the things requested of us. (Paperwork, fingerprinting, homestudy, etc) We get to meet this little man for the first time next weekend! I'm very nervous and excited. We have been told that there is another family member on the bio dad's side who may also been interested in adopting. I worry about getting attached and then not getting chosen. I just pray we are the right family for him to come home to!
Kelli, mom to:
Morghan, Mykenah, Dimitri & Michael
"A happy family is but an earlier heaven." - George Bernard Shaw
Hi everyone. I'm Laura, 31, and my DH Dan is 37. We have a biological son Finn, almost 2. Before we got married we always said we'd try to have a biological child, and then adopt, but our experience with Finn was so great that we just sort of forgot about that plan and started TTC for the second one. Eight months later we thought about going to the doctor to see if there was something up (we got pregnant with Finn the first month of trying) but then we remembered our original plan of adoption. Now we are thinking of NOT going to the doctor to see if there's something wrong, because we want to feel that we are adopting because it is our choice, not because we have to.
We live in Shanghai, China and are now in the process of researching agencies. The wait for China babies has jumped up recently and may take 3-5 years, so we are looking into a Taiwan program which is supposed to be faster.
I am very intimidated by the whole process of adopting and the potential length of the wait, and not knowing exactly how long it will be, and still not completely settled about stopping the whole TTC process and not having another biological baby, but in my heart--when I think of a sweet little Taiwanese girl calling me mom--I know this is the right thing.
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My last post, as "Mupificus" was fairly recent, post-order-wise,. I couldn't figure out how to register with as my old self with this new website set-up, so I just re-registered with a new name. Anyway, we have on bio son (born in Feb. 06), and were waiting for a daughter from China. In January we came across a little boy who was waiting in China for a family, and we instantly felt that he was meant to be our son. We had to jump through LOTS of hoops to make this happen, but happen it did, and we came home from China with him on Nov. 7. If you would like to read our blog, check out http://clankillin.blogspot.com.
We still hope that someday we will bring home a daughter from China, and we have no doubts that she will be a waiting child too.
I'd love to talk to anyone thinking about China. The current wait for the "traditional" aka "non-special needs" program is over two years, but there are lots of waiting children, many of whom have very correctable/manageable conditions. Our son, for example, has only a few hot water burns on one arm. He had a heart murmur as an infant, but it has disappeared.
I'm Joey(thegirl) 32 and DH Jory is 34. We've been together for 11.5 years, married for 5.5 yrs. We've been TTC for 10 years now, 8.5 years with medical assistance. Our dreams came true (after 8 years of trying) when we finally got pregnant with our son Jack, unfortunately we found out I also have Incompetent Cervix and he was born too soon on Aug. 31, 2006 and passed away on Sept. 1, 2006.
We've been TTC ever since and will continue to do so while we can. I have Serous Cystadenomas on my ovaries which will turn into Serous Cystadenocarcinomas (cancer) so my Oncologists are only allowing us 1 more year to TTC before they remove my ovaries.
But the reason we are here is because as we've always discussed, we would absolutely be adopting one day, we were actually in the process when we got pregnant with Jack. I thought it was a once in a lifetime situation, but it's happened again! We already have a birth mom (like the last time), it's my cousin, she'll be 19 in March and is pregnant with her 2nd baby. Her parents are raising her first baby and have refused to raise another one. She went to an adoption agency last week and when she got home her dad told her to think about Jory and I and she said she knew immediately that is what she wanted to do and felt at peace with her decision. We just found out two days ago!
She's having a GIRL and is due May 21st! We are so excited we don't know what to do with ourselves!
I'm here for guidance, information and to get to know others who have been where we are going.
Thanks for having me,
Hello all, Im Denise, and im currently 29 weeks along. Im in the beginning stages of adoption and just starting to find information about it.i do know for sure that i definitely want an open adoption- i would like to be able to visit,get pics,etc.at this point in my life i am not capable of caring my child, and i know that it would be selfish of me to try to because i feel that if i tried to take care of my child we would live a life of struggles and poverty. i havent finished school yet and would like to do that and get a masters degree before i have any more kids. 1 thing i am terrified of is if one day the adoptive parents decide not to let me see my child anymore i am really scared of that.do they have that right? my bf is currently very supportive of my decision, although before he wasnt that supportive. he didnt like the idea of handing the baby over to "strangers". my parents took alot of convincing also, and i still think theyre a little reluctant but they are supportive of it now. what i wish so much is for me to be able to care for her, but i know thats not possible and i have to put my feelings aside and think about her future.my bf is also a little upset but he know its whats best.
Nice to meet you, Denise! Please feel free to post any questions, etc. on the board with a new thread. This board is slow right now, but there are some of us that still check in to read new threads.
As for open adoptions, they are more and more common as people realize how beneficial they can be for everyone involved. I don't think that they are legally enforceable, though, in that I don't think there are legal consequences for either person for no longer providing contact. Each state has their own laws, though, so only someone who knows the laws in your state would know the exact answer. This is where a lawyer or adoption agency could be very helpful.
Hi everyone!! The name is Brittney, although just about everyone calls me Bri. I actually just turned 21 in Jan. The hubby is 22. We've been married 2yrs and together for 5yrs(yay for high school sweethearts). He is currently enlisted w/ the USAF, we're stationed in Louisana, BOO!! Home is in Tennesse, and how I miss it. We're currently preparing for our first child, a boy. Haven't figured out what to name him yet, so he's just bein called Peanut for now. We have a yorkie named Louis, who is like a son (he's a momma's boy). I was adopted when I was 12. I lived with my maternal mother til then, and although I was adopted by my 2nd cousin & his wife I still went thru all the motions. For now that's all I can think of, but if you've got questions you're more than welcome to ask, I'm definitely not shy about what's happened in my past, present, or what I hoping for in the future.
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