Hello, my name is Ashleii. I am almost 15 and going into grade 10. I am with my byofriend, and have been for 9 months. I am figured to be around 26 weeks pregnant and I have not had an ultrasound. No one knows that I am pregnant except for a few close friends and my boyfriend. My parents or family members do not.
Right now my boyfriend and I are considering abortion. But this is something I don't know if I want to do or not. I know I am young, and still have a lot of life ahead of me, but I am just really stuck on what to do.
We went to the Pregnancy Crisis Center today and got to talk to someone, and she is going to make an appointment for us to go see a doctor about abortion.
I do want to talk to my boyfriend some more before making my decision set in stone.
It would really help if I could have someone to talk to, for advice, information, or even just as a friend to talk to.
Thanks for the help.
I hope you're able to find someone to talk to and help you out. There is a lot of support in Ontario for pregnant teens. Where in Ontario are you located?
Is there a reason you think you're 26 weeks? Your doctor should send you for an ultrasound to get a better idea. I'm not sure if you looked into it but abortions cannot be done legally at 26 weeks.
Good luck with whatever decision you decide is best for you
Hange in there Ashleii!
At 15, it's very hard to raise a baby, heck, it's hard to do it at 40! Since it sounds like you are not in a position to raise this baby, have you considered adoption? I agree with the previous poster, at 26 weeks you cannot get a legal abortion, even one for medical reasons. There are many families looking to adopt babies into loving homes.
I would advise you to talk to someone about this. If you are not close to your mom, maybe a grandmother, your boyfriend's mom, a teacher at school, a church person?
It's hard to make a decision like this alone.
Have you been seen by a doctor? In Ontario, it is standard to have a routine u/s around 20 weeks so I am surprised your doctor has not sent you for one. Also, as the others have said, it is not legal to do an abortion at 26 weeks. If you have not sought out medical attention, I think it is imperative that you do so right away. I would also definitely encourage you to speak with your parents or another trusted adult asap.
Ashleii - did the lady at the pregnancy center tell you she thought you were 26 weeks or do you think you are 26 weeks?
My best friend had her son when we were 15 and it was tough but she did an amazing job. Babies are hard no matter what age you have them. Just yesterday she took him (on his birthday) to get his drivers license.
I'll ditto what everyone here has said...talk to a trusted adult ASAP, even if its not your parents. Perhaps someone that can help you break the news to them. And then get to a doctor ASAP to see how far along you are in actuality. And like they said, 26 weeks is too late for an abortion. The best thing for you and your baby is to start seeing an OB now to make sure you are both in good health.
I hope you stick around to let us support you.
Yes, the girl at the Health Center was the one that told me I was around 26 weeks, seeing as my last period was around February 11th. She also still told me that an abortion was an option?
And I am going to talk to my boyfriend, becuase I don't think I will be able to go through with an abortion, so I a hoping he will come around.
He just doesn't want the baby becuase he dosn't think we are ready. We do want kids in the future though.
I've asked him why he doesn't want to keep the baby, and he said it's not cause' he doesn't want it.. It's because we aren't ready for it.
I'm sorry but it is simply not legal to do an abortion at 26 weeks. By this stage the baby is viable (ie if born now, would have a chance at survival). Did they do any kind of pregnancy test? Is it possible the dates are wrong and you are not as far along as you think? You are young, and it is possible for periods to be missing for other reasons. Were you on any kind of birth control? Are you feeling movement? What symptoms have you had/do you have (aside from the no period)? You really need to get to a doctor ASAP and have an examination/ultrasound done to determine exactly how far along you are. How old is your boyfriend?
Last edited by Princess&ThePea; 08-10-2011 at 05:12 PM.
I'm kind of happy if that is true. I don't want an abortion.. But like, I don't even know -.- I am deffinetly pregnant, there is movement and such. And I have expierenced many of the syptoms. But there is a possiblity that I am not this far along, but she did say I am for sure 4 months. No, at first we talked about this and actually wanted this, so we tried, and I became pregnant. But with my boyfriend (Jake) starting to drive his insurance is very costly and so is gas. But I know my mom would help, it's just a very difficult situation to describe everything. My boyfriend is also 18.
Ashleii, I am sorry you are going through a tuff time. It can be hard at 15.
I am in Ontario too so if you need someone to talk to, feel free to click on my name and send me a private message.
Abortions are usually only done in the first 12 weeks (that's 12 weeks from the first day of your last period). After that I believe it's only if medically necessary (if something is wrong with the baby or mother that puts either at risk).
There are lots of walk in clinics around, I would suggest you go to one and request an ultrasound (which is free). That way you know for sure what is going on.
If you don't think you are ready for a baby there are many women out there who suffer from infertility and are desperate for a family. I personally suffer from infertility but adoption isn't something I want to investigate yet. However I know 10 or more couples who are currently waiting for babies in Ontario.
The baby you carry is a treasure whatever your decide.
I think you should talk to your Mum. She may not be the happiest, but she will know what to do ie getting an ultrasound and you having a medical.
I agree with all the other ladies, having a baby is hard no matter what age you are. Ideally it would have been better if you were older but just know that you can do this. If however you really were for not keeping the baby, then yes, please consider adoption.
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