6 yr old throwing tantrums - Ideas?

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MissyJ's picture
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6 yr old throwing tantrums - Ideas?

Question for the Answer Box (i.e. responses from YOU!): How do you deal with a child Diablo that is throwing tantrums over not getting her way? She wasn't acting out this way until recently. Her younger siblings are now trying to 'model' this same behavior and frankly we're about out of patience.

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I'm going through the same with my 5 year old and although I think I know what to do, doing it is a whole other ball game.

You definitely need to stick to your guns. If you tell them they will lose TV if the behaviours continues, make sure you follow through with it. I will admit, I don't always and so that's why I know things aren't changing fast!

xx

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

I'm going through the same with my 5 year old and although I think I know what to do, doing it is a whole other ball game.

You definitely need to stick to your guns. If you tell them they will lose TV if the behaviours continues, make sure you follow through with it. I will admit, I don't always and so that's why I know things aren't changing fast!

xx

TOTALLY agree. Don't 'threaten' with a consequence in the first place if you have no intention on following through. Kids figure that out SUPER fast and the lesson learned is 'I can do what I want and you'll still give in.' Dh is also a sucker (admittedly) for the "NOW I'm sorry" syndrome (after a consequence has been deservedly given like loss of a privilege... they will try to go to dad and say how realllllllllllllllllllllllllllly sorry they are and it will never ever EVER happen again. :roll: As Kristi said, in order to get behaviors to change you have to follow through -- even when it is hard.

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I have this issue with an 8 year old and it is really, really hard to know when it is the Asperger's or just Robbie being a brat. Right now I am trying to think that it is the Asperger's and get him breathing calmly etc before making judgments.

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We had some issues with behavior last year with our son. We traced it back to too much computer time, after he finished his school work for the day he would get to have the computer as long as he wanted, but that led to him not wanting to do anything else. We backed it down to only computer on weekends (sometimes not at all for a month depending on his chores and fighting). We also stopped responding to his tantrums, with just sending him to his room to take a nap.

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Margaret, my 8 yr old nephew was just recently diagnosed with Aspergers, a long with ADHD. He can be so naughty sometimes and I know it's hard to remember that he's not 'normal' so it's easy to lose it! I don't know about your DS, but my nephew can be very nasty.

DD sleeps with me during the week as DBF works nights, do you think this might be causing her behaviour?

xx

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

Margaret, my 8 yr old nephew was just recently diagnosed with Aspergers, a long with ADHD. He can be so naughty sometimes and I know it's hard to remember that he's not 'normal' so it's easy to lose it! I don't know about your DS, but my nephew can be very nasty.

Robbie is not nasty but some of his tantrums!!!! They tend to be when he is over stimulated but boy are they bad. He is also very over-dramatic. He fell and bumped his nose last night, you would have thought his nose had been cut off with all the yelling and crying he did. And of course we were out in public. I keep telling my friends that I want a t-shirt saying "he's autistic, this is how he deals with frustration, now back off or Momma Bear comes out" LOL