Become SAHM or continue WOHM?

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Become SAHM or continue WOHM?

Question for the Answer Box (i.e. responses from YOU!): If you had the means to become a SAHM, would you give up your career to stay home with your baby?

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Nope! When I was younger I thought I would want to be a SAHM with lots of kids but the older I got, the more I knew it wouldn't be a good decision for me -- or for my kids! I simply don't have the patience for it, and I'd be afraid my brain would turn to mush after so many years of doing complex thinking every day. I worked very hard to get where I am in my career, and it would nearly impossible for me to leave for a few years and come back anywhere near the level I am so I would have to plan on what my new career would be & how I would get there when I was done raising kids. I love & cherish the time I can spend with my kids, and I have a flexible-enough job so I don't miss out on the important stuff, but my husband is hands-down a much better caretaker than I could ever be.

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If i could - i would hands down leave it all behind to be a stay at home mom - but i'd def. have to be very invovled with parent groups or play groups, actvities, etc or i'd get really bored. I would also be totally okay with being a part time stay at home mom - work out of the house for like 2 days a week or something...... but i'd love to stay home with my kids. Thankfully i have a job that is pretty flexable that if i need to leave early or whatever comes up, they work with me

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I am a SAHM, and a homeschooler. I was a working mom for about three and a half years (off and on, based on if DH was working or not) and I love to work, but various reasons lead me to leaving a couple of jobs, moving state and hostile work environment. The last job that I left, it was to homeschool our son.
I have been tossing around the idea of getting a part time job on the weekend or something, but that will likely wait until we move closer to the sitters house. It is really easy to see the change in our budget since I quit working.

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I've always said I'd love to be a SAHM, but I think if it came to it I wouldn't do it. I love having my own independence and don't think I could handle depending on DBF for things.


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I know everyone is different, but I don't think I would want to give up working outside the home. I enjoy what I do, and it is fulfilling.

However, I feel like I have a "best of both worlds" situation, where I am working full time and getting full time benefits, but it is 12 hour shifts, so I only work three days a week. I get to spend the other days home with my kids.

If I worked a more traditional schedule (M-F 9-5 kind of thing), I might feel differently.

If we ever get to the point where one of us needs to stay home, it will probably be DH.

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I could stay home but I prefer to work. I have stayed at home for almost half of the last 6 years (1y, 1.5y, 4 m). I did enjoy it and liked the more relaxed nature of the time I spent with the kids. However, I like what I do, I had to get lots of education to do it and I feel like it is better for me emotionally to work.

My favourite was when I worked 4 days a week.