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    So my childhood friend is getting married in July and her hen do is the 2nd weekend in June. Unfortunately, I can't make it as I can't get the time off of work!

    I am so worried she will be really mad at me, which tbh I think is justifiable.

    Anyway, I would like to do something for her either before she goes or when she gets back but I am rubbish when it comes to thinking something up!

    Do you gals have any ideas what I should do?

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    A good friend should understand about work commitments -- particularly given the economy woes everywhere. Hopefully you'll be able to make the wedding? Either way, I think planning something for the two of you before she goes or gets back (before the wedding) sounds great! Ideas (depending on your budget):

    • A day spa for the two of you to go to together (There may be different budget packages to choose from. *Even* if you couldn't spring for a package for two, you may could still accompany her!)
    • Take her to get a manicure (and pedicure?)
    • Look for an upcoming concert or theater that she'd enjoy and go together
    • When the weather turns nice, plan an afternoon at the park with a picnic, a Frisbee or kites (to remember to *play*) -- just time to chat together relaxing before her big day

    Another option would be to create a gift basket that one of your other (mutual) friends could take to the weekend for you (put the card *in* the wrapped gift to avoid it getting lost.) Within you can include both gag gifts (tagged with notes to explain if needed) and something nice. Ideas could include

    Gags:
    • Lighter: to burn up the old boyfriend phone numbers
    • Extra strong coffee (to help through the day after an "all-nighter" with new hubby)
    • A stuffed frog -- to remind her of the "duds" she went through to get her "prince"
    • A naughty gift if you think she'd like that
    • Referee whistle -- to blow for a time out during spats

    Nice (select one)
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    • A "date" night package -- a nice movie, popcorn, and soft blanket/throw to cuddle under
    • A 2nd honeymoon savings box to keep in their room. You can buy one or make one and label it with scrap-booking stickers. Include a note that they can toss in change at the end of the day, (depositing it once a year in a special savings account), and then have enough to plan a second honeymoon in 5 or 10 years. That also gives them a focus on a dream vacation for their future.
    • A breakfast-in-bed package -- a nice tray with legs, two coffee mugs, linen napkins, a vase with a fake rose, mixes for breakfast goodies.

    Just be creative! Others likely can chime in with more ideas! I'm certain that you can have a special way to let her know you are celebrating "with" her as she begins this new journey!

    HTH!

    ~Missy
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    Missy, thank you SO much!

    I am loving the gift ideas, she would really appreciate something like that. Awwwww, I feel much better about this now

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    Sure thing! Glad to help. She's a lucky gal to have a friend like you IRL! I'm certain whatever you come up with will be loved!

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    Awww you're always so lovely to me Appreciate it lady!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissyJ View Post
    A breakfast-in-bed package -- a nice tray with legs, two coffee mugs, linen napkins, a vase with a fake rose, mixes for breakfast goodies.
    This is what I've done for a couple of good friends when I couldn't make their bridal shower. I also included champagne flutes, a simple orange juicer, and two small breakfast plates. If they've registered for gifts already, make sure to choose something that compliments their selections, or buy the mugs & plates off the registry if they aren't out of your price range. If they haven't registered, you can't go wrong with basic white.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Minx_Kristi View Post
    So my childhood friend is getting married in July and her hen do is the 2nd weekend in June. Unfortunately, I can't make it as I can't get the time off of work!

    I am so worried she will be really mad at me, which tbh I think is justifiable.

    Anyway, I would like to do something for her either before she goes or when she gets back but I am rubbish when it comes to thinking something up!

    Do you gals have any ideas what I should do?

    xxx

    Hi Kristi, I just wanted to say you have gotten some really great advice here, but even if you are unable to do anything at all, I don't really think you should feel that her anger would be so justified. Sure she may feel disappointed or sad, but really mad is too much in my opinion. A true friend would be more understanding than to feel anger.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MissyJ View Post
    A good friend should understand about work commitments -- particularly given the economy woes everywhere. Hopefully you'll be able to make the wedding? Either way, I think planning something for the two of you before she goes or gets back (before the wedding) sounds great! Ideas (depending on your budget):

    • A day spa for the two of you to go to together (There may be different budget packages to choose from. *Even* if you couldn't spring for a package for two, you may could still accompany her!)
    • Take her to get a manicure (and pedicure?)
    • Look for an upcoming concert or theater that she'd enjoy and go together
    • When the weather turns nice, plan an afternoon at the park with a picnic, a Frisbee or kites (to remember to *play*) -- just time to chat together relaxing before her big day

    Another option would be to create a gift basket that one of your other (mutual) friends could take to the weekend for you (put the card *in* the wrapped gift to avoid it getting lost.) Within you can include both gag gifts (tagged with notes to explain if needed) and something nice. Ideas could include

    Gags:
    • Lighter: to burn up the old boyfriend phone numbers
    • Extra strong coffee (to help through the day after an "all-nighter" with new hubby)
    • A stuffed frog -- to remind her of the "duds" she went through to get her "prince"
    • A naughty gift if you think she'd like that
    • Referee whistle -- to blow for a time out during spats

    Nice (select one)
    :
    • A "date" night package -- a nice movie, popcorn, and soft blanket/throw to cuddle under
    • A 2nd honeymoon savings box to keep in their room. You can buy one or make one and label it with scrap-booking stickers. Include a note that they can toss in change at the end of the day, (depositing it once a year in a special savings account), and then have enough to plan a second honeymoon in 5 or 10 years. That also gives them a focus on a dream vacation for their future.
    • A breakfast-in-bed package -- a nice tray with legs, two coffee mugs, linen napkins, a vase with a fake rose, mixes for breakfast goodies.

    Just be creative! Others likely can chime in with more ideas! I'm certain that you can have a special way to let her know you are celebrating "with" her as she begins this new journey!

    HTH!

    ~Missy
    I just love these! Especially the Spa/ little gift basket ideas

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    Quote Originally Posted by myyams View Post
    Hi Kristi, I just wanted to say you have gotten some really great advice here, but even if you are unable to do anything at all, I don't really think you should feel that her anger would be so justified. Sure she may feel disappointed or sad, but really mad is too much in my opinion. A true friend would be more understanding than to feel anger.
    I only feel she'd be mad because I missed her engagement party also because I had a bug. Hopefully you're right though and she will understand.

    Thanks again for all your lovely ideas

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    Sounds like you have had a run of bad luck when it comes to this friend
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