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Chat Thread ~ April 13 ****ALL WELCOME****

Hey ladies!

So, who wants to chat?

What's new? Any vacations coming up? Babies? New school starters? Engagements? Marriages?

Care to share?

xx

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:bonkself:I'm stuck studying for my final exams in May/June :aak: And I'm in my 2WW. Next vacations are only in July and August :angry1:

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I have exams in May too.. Oh yeah. Sad Exams.... Lame. lol. I don't wanna do school anymore.. but i need to so I don't have to pay back those d*** loans. Ha.

I am excited that I just got a BFP today! YAY December 19th! Great Birthday Pressie (april 11) to find out I'm prego. And great Xmas Pressie to have a baby. Biggrin

I have to get Riley ready for school in the Fall. His dad and I can't agree on a school unfortunately and we have shared major decision making... Sad Ugh I hate his dad.

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"Maddz" wrote:

I have to get Riley ready for school in the Fall. His dad and I can't agree on a school unfortunately and we have shared major decision making... Sad Ugh I hate his dad.

is Riley going into first grade or kindergarten? I taken it his dad is the ex...

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Riley will be going into Kindergarten. My lil boy is gettin' so biiiig. Sad
But yeah. his dad is the Ex.

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OMG- can I just say that I HATE watching other peoples kids. Especially a 20 month old. I want to rip my hair out right now.
I guess that's on top of feeling sick and exhausted. I slept maybe 3 hrs total over the whole night. Very short periods of sleep at a time.

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OMG- can I just say that I HATE watching other peoples kids. Especially a 20 month old. I want to rip my hair out right now.
I guess that's on top of feeling sick and exhausted. I slept maybe 3 hrs total over the whole night. Very short periods of sleep at a time.

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Hello ladies!!

So what are you guys studying?

Maddie - congrats on your BFP!! I'm sorry you have to deal with your ex - I will never understand why ex couples with children can't be civil. He must still love you hehe.

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Hah. I hope he doesn't. I do NOT like him. But I know that he still wanted to be with me when we broke up. He was pretty upset that I said I wasn't going to be with him anymore.

I am studying Hospitality Management. I think Roxi might have told me what she's studying but I can't remember right now.

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Is the break-up still fresh or has it been a while now?

Not that it's on the cards (has been in the past) but I think if me and DBF ever seperated, he would be very bitter towards me. I guess it all depends on whether things are mutual. I hope he calms himself soon for ya!

That's cool, so what kind of job would that lead you into?

My SIL studied the same at Uni and now manages a major hotel over here.

I really want to get back into studying - I need a better paid job, but I am lucky with my hours right now and not many places would offer me the same.

xx

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It has been... oh... just about 4.5 years. I doubt it. We just don't agree on anything. He's an uber control freak.

I could do hotel management, cruise management stuff, restaurant management, event planning, etc. But I don't know what I'll choose to do. I honestly don't care to work. I want to be a SAHM and I will be if we can afford it. I'm getting the degree so that if I need to get a job it's easier.

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

So what are you guys studying?

I'm majoring in Business Management but recently realised I like the Human Resources stuff more. I have 4 classes left before I graduate. Unfortunately it's through a university in South Africa so I don't have any classes to go to or discussions to take part in so I'm totally on my own in doing the material.... Also it's called a Bachelor degree there but I think here it will only be an Associates, and I do NOT have the energy left to study more after this.

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"Maddz" wrote:

I honestly don't care to work. I want to be a SAHM and I will be if we can afford it. I'm getting the degree so that if I need to get a job it's easier.

Ah, I would love to be a SAHM but we can't afford it. Not unless we move further out of the city but DH doesn't drive here and can't handle a commute longer than 45 min, not with his condition.

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BTW:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MADDIE!

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"BokkieNYC" wrote:

BTW:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MADDIE!

THANK YA!!:)

"BokkieNYC" wrote:

Ah, I would love to be a SAHM but we can't afford it. Not unless we move further out of the city but DH doesn't drive here and can't handle a commute longer than 45 min, not with his condition.

We can't quite afford it either but we live in a pretty small city. What is your husbands condition?

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"Maddz" wrote:

What is your husbands condition?

He has a Chiari Malformation which makes travelling very uncomfortable for him. He wears a neck brace whenever we take a taxi cab just to cope with the bumps. His condition is also going to make have a baby very interesting/difficult because he's not allowed to pick up anything heavier than 5-7 lb. Not to mention that his symptoms get worse if he bends over to long/often....

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I'm sorry hon. That's gotta be rough. I hope that it'll be easier than not.

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"Maddz" wrote:

I'm sorry hon. That's gotta be rough. I hope that it'll be easier than not.

Unfortunately his condition won't get better. We learn to live around it. We can maybe stop it getting worse if he has brain surgery.... but that is still a last resort for us.

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:/ I'm sorry girly.

So Question:

Is it pathetic that my in-laws have said happy birthday to me before my own parents/siblings? Pat's mom texted me and then called me and also is taking me out to lunch.

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Maddie -- Happy Birthday!!!!!!! :party:I hope that you have a wonderful day / evening!

I am sorry that your own family hasn't acknowledged your special day just yet. Depending upon how devious you're feeling when you do hear from them, you could just share how pleasant your day has been thus far after your birthday wishes and luncheon with your MIL. Dirol

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Thanks Missy! LOL that would be funny. Luckily for her, my mom called right before I went to lunch. My parents went over to see my sister yesterday- sunday because my dad has work conference... I was bummed they were gonna miss my birthday and DS's birthday. But whatever.

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"Maddz" wrote:

I was bummed they were gonna miss my birthday and DS's birthday. But whatever.

Do they (your parents) live in the same town as you? I assume your sister doesn't.

I know how sucky it is to live in a different town. When I was in South Africa I only got to go to my nephew's birthdays in June and then see them for some Christmases, and my dad's 50th. Since we moved here I've missed out on my mom's 50th, my sister's wedding and my niece's 1st birthday Sad

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My parents live about 20 minutes away from me. LOL. It's technically a different town.. but really it's all the same area.

Aww. I'm sorry darlin. Hopefully you can make it to see them soon...

I got my results Roxi!

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"Maddz" wrote:

I got my results Roxi!

I read your journal entry! :wootjump: I am so thrilled to hear those numbers! :goodluck: Hope that they keep going up. And woah! Those "signs" are pretty freaky! And in a group of 3 makes it seem even more portentous!

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My parents live about 20 minutes away from me. LOL. It's technically a different town.. but really it's all the same area.

Aww. I'm sorry darlin. Hopefully you can make it to see them soon...

My parents live 20 min away from my sister and they're also in different towns ROFL Small-town living, hey Smile It's all very up-in-the-air as to whether we get to go visit our folks this year. Last year we went to France for a vacation so we didn't go home. And now we're waiting to hear about our visa status which will decide if we can go home. Plus now (if all goes well) I won't be able to fly after August anyways. But in that case my mom will definitely come out here......I can't let myself get ahead of myself though.

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Roxi, I'm sorry to hear of your hubby's condition - that must be hard for you all. How else does it affect him? Is he still quite mobile?
Where abouts do you live in SA?

Maddie - Aww I hope you had a lovely birthday. Did you get anything nice? Families, lets not even go there - I have a sucky relationship with most of mine, especially my Dad.

So, I am in a terrible mood today!

I joined Weight Watchers last Thursday and had my weigh-in last night. I stayed EXACTLY the same!! The leader said it could have something to do with being on my period, but I actually feel like I lost quite a bit. It doesn't make sense.... on top of that me and DBF had such a stupid argument this morning before I left for work. He upsets me though by the things he comes out with - he doesn't think before he speaks and now I'm at work thinking over it constantly.

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Roxi- I know you don't want to get ahead of yourself, I totally get that. I'm extremely worried still but it's A LOT better now that those numbers when up so much. I betcha it would be really great to see your mom. I hope that she comes to see you... instead of you going to see them! Biggrin

I've been to France before. I went there when I was 17 and stayed with a family for a month. It should have been a great opportunity but I didn't let it be of course. Stupid young girl. I was super homesick.. and just wanted to be home to see my boyfriend (Hey! Guess what, I got pregnant the next month after coming back. HAHA). I should have enjoyed it more... but it was also culture shock and being without anyone I know or even any Americans. It was rough. I was in Paris a lot. A town called Marine. And I went to Normandy. I at least have the experience... but I want to go again with my hubby and enjoy it more this time.

Kristi- I didn't get much for my birthday I guess. But the gift I got from my hubby was WAAAAY expensive. He bought it early last month so I've had it since then. It's a DSLR camera... and I love it but I don't use it much yet. I'll get there. He bought me some flowers on the way home too. And a cake and icecream. We went to dinner and a movie last night too. My dad bought me a boiler thing. He knows I love making dinner for large groups (even for holidays) and so he got it. He also got my sister one for her birthday this year. LOL. But that's pretty much it. I should be grateful though.

If you feel like you've lost weight you might of. Periods make you bloat and stuff so maybe that is really it? Hang in there... it'll take time. My mom has been on weight watchers multiple times (She never sticks to it) and she's lost A LOT of wait that way.

I don't know what DBF is I don't think? I'm sorry that you two got in a fight though and that it's kinda made you feel cruddy. Sad I hope your day brightens up!!

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"Maddz" wrote:

I don't know what DBF is I don't think?

hee hee. DBF = darling boyfriend

"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

Roxi, I'm sorry to hear of your hubby's condition - that must be hard for you all. How else does it affect him? Is he still quite mobile?

He's still mobile, meaning he's not in a wheelchair, but he can't do all the things he used to do. He used to do amateur car racing and was also learning to fly a small plane before he got sick. Plus he liked to hike and rockclimb. It's a really weird condition because none of the symptoms seem connected and they are also the same as Chronic Fatigue Syndrom or MS. His main ones are chronic fatigue - I mean there are weekends where he wakes up only to eat. As well as a constant, uninterrupted headache. Think of the worst migraine/hangover you've ever had and now imagine having that every day all day. That's what I understand it's like. And anything that creates higher pressure in his head makes it worse, eg sneezing, coughing, bending down. And then he has a bunch of others which are a less tangible: he can't think as well as he used to; he often says the wrong words even though he's thinking the right one; he has lost a lot of his fine motor coordination, he has trouble gripping with two fingers, he struggles to get a key in the lock without concentrating fully on the task; he has some sensation loss in his fingers; and his muscles are constantly twitching.

Sorry, didn't mean to get so heavy Sad

"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

Where abouts do you live in SA?

Most recently we lived in JOhannesburg, but I've lived in 5 different towns. My dad would get promoted or change jobs every 3-4 years :confused:

"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

He upsets me though by the things he comes out with - he doesn't think before he speaks and now I'm at work thinking over it constantly.

Men! What did he say to upset you? I also obsess over our fights, especially when there wasn't time to resolve it.

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Oh Roxi. That sounds so rough! I'm so sorry for you and your husband. :/

Thanks for the knowledge of DBF... heh i'm a dummy Wink

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"Maddz" wrote:

Oh Roxi. That sounds so rough! I'm so sorry for you and your husband. :/

It takes a lot of effort to remember he has something wrong because there are no visible signs like a broken leg and he *acts* so normal. It's even harder because he can't let his employer know how bad it is because our visas are dependent on him being employed to them. So subsequently a lot of our friends can't know because he works with them.

But hey! What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right?

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I suppose you're right. But I think you guys are super strong.

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Can I join? I'm usually on the IVF board and it has been sooo slow. It's starting to pick up but I don't know what to do to get more ppl active. I'll catch up on the posts later. For now I need to go shower and get ready for the day!

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Of course you can join meg!! Smile welcome to the club!

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"meggyrn" wrote:

Can I join? I'm usually on the IVF board and it has been sooo slow. It's starting to pick up but I don't know what to do to get more ppl active. I'll catch up on the posts later. For now I need to go shower and get ready for the day!

The more the merrier! :thewave:

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Thanks for the warm welcome. I got caught up on the chat.

Roxi...sorry to hear about DH's condition. I'm sure it's hard at times to be patient with him, because like you said, there isn't a "physical" reminder of his disease. I could't imagine living with a constant migraine type headache. I get frequent headaches, but having them constantly would be horrible.

Maddie....sounds like a fun bday present. I have a DSLR that I really don't know how to use. I bought a book and was going to work on learning it last summer, but still haven't gotten around to it. I'm not a huge picture taker anymore though. When my girls were younger, I'd take more pics.

Kristi...did you and DH resolve your arguement? I hate arguing with DH because he doesn't get over it. He'll give me the silent treatment for a few days. I can suck it up and get it over after a while. We got in a stupid arguement last night. We are remodeling our bathroom and it has been very stressful. This is week 14 of the contractor working on the bathroom and we are getting tired of him not showing up. He hasn't been here for a week. They tiled and grouted the floor last week and the grout didn't turn out. The color is a lot lighter and it is really splotchy. I asked him what something was in the grout and he got mad saying he didn't know what I wanted him to do about it to fix it. I didn't ask him to do anything about it, all I wanted to know is what it was.

Kuddos to all of you going to school. I really hated school. I did enough to get by in highschool and got my Associate's degree in nursing and that's it. I am now a SAHM. My sister is one of those that loves school and is going to go back to get her Master's in nursing sometime.

Congrats to all of those that have gotten BFPs. DH and I are done TTC. We made the decision 3 years ago to be done. I am at peace that I will never have any bio children. DH's first wife passed away very suddenly and left him with 3 daughters. After we got married 5 1/2 years ago, I adopted them. They are now 10, 11 and almost 13.

We are going on a Disney cruise at the end of May. It was our Christmas present to the girls and I think they are at a really good age for it. I haven't let myself get too excited about it yet as it is still a ways away.

I have a doctor's appt later this afternoon. I just want a good physical and bloodwork done. I've never had a thorough physical, except for PAPs, and my last bloodwork was over 2 years ago. I've also had shoulder pain since December and my joints hurt. I'm sure my joint pain is from my premature ovarian failure. DH could do all the workup since he is a physician but he thinks it's a good idea for me to get a non-biased opinion. Plus, sometimes when my DH tells me something about my health, I don't believe him even though I ask him for his opinion. I think it's because he's my husband, not my doctor. I'm the type of person that thinks something is wrong and needs to proof to tell me there isn't.

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I totally HATE school. The only reason I think I'm still going is because I don't want to pay the loans back. I like to learn but I hate school and how teachers run things.

I'm sorry that you weren't able to have a bio child. Sad It's good that you have 3 children though, I'm sure they love you!

OoO A DISNEY CRUISE! Can I come? Wink that sounds like so much fun! We will be going to Disney Land in Summer of 2014 (A long time from now) and Riley is super excited. He'll be 6 by then. And if everything goes correct I'll have another LO that will be around 6 months or so.

I hope everything goes well at your appointment and that you'll be healthy as.. um.. I don't know what they say there... But that you'll be super healthy. It's probably nice that your DH is a Dr. though right? In case there is something that isn't huge that comes up but maybe over the weekend or something. I think it is probably a good idea to see someone else. Just for ethical reasons even.

MY CAT IS DRIVING ME NUTS. She loves to sit right in front of the screen and I can't see anything. I try to make her lie down so I can see better and she gets all pissy but doesn't even leave.

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My first 2 years of nursing school I did really bad. That was back when I was stupid and was living with my boyfriend. I also worked a full-time job so wouldn't study and would not go to class a lot of the times. My 3rd and final year of nursing school I got a little smarter, left my boyfriend, and moved back in with my parents. I was able to really focus on my last year. I just wish I would've done that my first 2 years. I stretched out a 2 year program into 3 years because I did not do well with a lot of classes.

It is nice to have a doctor as a hubby. He'll treat minor stuff in our family, life if any of us needs an antibiotic or something. Also, it's nice just in case anyone needs sutures. He's sutured and stapled up DD1 a few times. Me seeing someone else gets everything done put into my medical records and it gives a fresh look at things.

Sorry your cat is being so annoying. We have a cat and she is pretty independent. She really doesn't like to be petted. She'll jump up on the couch and you might be able to get a "pet" in and then she'll jump down. Most of the day she is upstairs sleeping and when the girls get home from school she is awake. Upstairs is the only place where she'll be really friendly and purr. The girls sleep upstairs and she really likes the girls so that is where she spends most of her time. She doesn't like new people and someone made the point that maybe she doesn't like coming on the main level of the house because that is where we have company. She feels safe upstairs...it makes sense.

I don't think it's ever too early to plan a family vacation. It takes quite a bit of planning. We booked our cruise last summer. We did Disney World a few years ago and the girls really enjoyed it. I've heard Disney cruises are a lot of fun. They are quite a bit more expensive than other cruises I think, but Disney really caters to their customers so I think it's worth it.

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"meggyrn" wrote:

Kuddos to all of you going to school. I really hated school. I did enough to get by in highschool and got my Associate's degree in nursing and that's it. I am now a SAHM. My sister is one of those that loves school and is going to go back to get her Master's in nursing sometime.

I am so done after this. In South Africa it would be considered a full Bachelor degree even though it is only takes 3 years full time to complete. Here it will probably only be an Associates degree, which is frustrating. I've been studying while working full time since July 2006! I am SO over it. No ways I'm going back to do my Masters.

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Congrats to all of those that have gotten BFPs. DH and I are done TTC. We made the decision 3 years ago to be done. I am at peace that I will never have any bio children.

I'm sorry to hear that you cannot have bio children Sad I admire you for coming to terms with it tho. I can't imagine how difficult that must've been.

"meggyrn" wrote:

We are going on a Disney cruise at the end of May. It was our Christmas present to the girls and I think they are at a really good age for it.

I so want to go on a cruise! DH has been but not me, but he doesn't seem too interested in going again. I'd love to go to Disney World (I get that you're not actually going there) to go to the Harry Potter world. But seems a little pointless when I don't go on rollercoasters or anything that is high up :confused:

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I just got this cat so I'm still getting to know how she is. But she's a pretty big snuggler. She keeps me up at night a lot though because she loves to walk around the bed. I wanted a friendly cat though. it's bad though because I just got her and now I personally can't change her litter or anything because of the pregnancy. And she loves to shove her butt in my face!! UGH. I have to push her around all the time. GRR on her.

Yeah family vacations are hard to plan. it's actually a reunion thing of my husbands family. Just the immediate. His 3 sisters and parents all live in the same area as us and his brother lives about 5 ish hours away. But it'll be fun to get all together and do something fun. Last year when I first met Pat he did a family reunion as a camping trip. I think this trip will be more fun than that Wink

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I organised a reunion thing with my dad's side of the family back in 2007. Got on a mission to build our family tree and found out that there was a whole branch of the family living in South Africa that I didn't know about. My grandfather's cousin and descendants. So we tried to get everyone together for a weekend but it ended up only being my dad's side of the family. Was nice to see them tho. With help from a couple other family members we've managed to trace the family back to a common ancestor in 1806. I'm hoping to go further back. I did a bit of work on my mom's dad's side and have traced them back to 1801.

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I thought about trying to arrange a family reunion for DH's family. His whole family has been together at the same time only once in the 7 years I've known them and that was at my BIL's wedding. I'd love to have it at the place where we have our lake house. My parents and grandparents each have a lake house there also so there would be plenty of sleeping space for everyone. It'd be fun to just let all the kids run and play and the adults could relax.

I had my doctor's appt. The doc said I was boring and healthy...which is good. As far as the joint pain he had reasons for each of them. My one knee being that is just the way women are built and when I run my kneecap slaps and causes pain. My rt knee is painful because of a ligament attached to the hamstring. My shoulder...he didn't really have a reason for it. He said we could xray or MRI them but there is no point since I'm not planning surgery and even if surgery was warranted I probably wouldn't have it since I'm young. He didn't see any need to do any bloodwork since it was normal 2 years ago. I was kind of hoping for bloodwork for reassurance that everything is normal. I trust that he would've done it if he thought it was necessary. I signed a record release for him to review my labs from then and if he sees he missed anything he'd order it. I could tell he was thinking over different reasons for my symptoms. He didn't think it was rhuemtoid or osteoarthritis. I'm hoping once the weather warms up, the acute pain with get better. Of course, when I was there they didn't hurt. I seem to get joint achiness right before my period and I think that has to do with the drop in estrogen. So it will be interesting to see if I get my period soon. I really like this doc. I know him a bit personally and he's really nice. DH felt that he did everything appropriately.

Maddie...is your cat a kitten or full-grown?

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Roxi- That is super cool! I need to work on my genealogy. It's a pretty big thing to do in the LDS church. I am a convert so I have EXTRA work to do. :/ Beh. But I think it's super cool. My dad thinks I'm the perfect person to do the work.

Meg- having a reunion at a lake house sounds like so much fun! Smile That's great that the appointment went well. I hope that nothing is going on too bad with your shoulder. Hmm. that would be interesting if it's the period starting causing the achy-ness.

She is about 6 months old. She's still really playful.. She'll attack Riley's toys even when they are just sitting there.

So I have been meaning to buy a swim suit and I realized that I don't know exactly how big I'm going to get this summer so it didn't make TOO much sense to buy a regular swimsuit so DH and I decided to get a cute maternity swim suit. It fits fine without being pregnant but will still be great while preggers.

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Oh so today I've been married to my DH for THREE WHOLE months. HEHE

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Maddie...Happy 3 month anniversary to you and DH! Sounds like you made a good decision on the swimsuit.

The whole joint pain with period and premature ovarian failure is that low estrogen levels can cause an inflammatory response, so in turn causes joint pain..or so I've read and been told by others with POF. I do notice that my hips and knees hurt right before my period. I need to start paying better attention or logging it to track it better.

Tomorrow my girls are going to a piano workshop. They will each play a solo and they each play a duet with eachother. There are also other learning stations where they can do different things related to music and piano and get ribbons. On Sunday we are going to go visit my cousin and her new baby boy. I saw them in the hospital on Wednesday but the girls haven't met him yet. He is such a precious baby.

DH just left for work. I'm sure he'll be gone all night. I'll probably sit and read before going to bed.

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"Maddz" wrote:

Oh so today I've been married to my DH for THREE WHOLE months. HEHE

Congrats!!

"meggyrn" wrote:

Tomorrow my girls are going to a piano workshop. They will each play a solo and they each play a duet with eachother. There are also other learning stations where they can do different things related to music and piano and get ribbons. On Sunday we are going to go visit my cousin and her new baby boy. I saw them in the hospital on Wednesday but the girls haven't met him yet. He is such a precious baby.

DH just left for work. I'm sure he'll be gone all night. I'll probably sit and read before going to bed.

Sounds like you have a fairly busy weekend planned, Meg. I don't know if I could handle DH being on night shift. I don't sleep well if he's just out with "the boys".... and not because I don't trust him. I don't like the bed being empty, nor the house. It's a little easier to handle since we got our dog. She likes to snuggle me most of the night, and even sleeps with her head on my pillow Smile

DH borrowed Game of Thrones Season 2 from a work colleague so this weekend will be trying to find a balance between watching that, studying and doing laundry.

I caved tonight and pee'd on one of my digi tests so that I could tell DH only to find out I was supposed to wait for it to "switch on" before peeing and now it won't give a read-out. GRRRRR. I told my BFF today and that has made me want to tell DH now instead of waiting another week.

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Thanks ladies. It is silly to be like OH YAY 3 months! But that's ok. We didn't celebrate or anything. Just acknowledged.

Meg- I agree with Roxi, sounds like you have a busy weekend ahead of you. I don't like to sleep alone either... well maybe. DH loves to hog our queen size bed. I pretty much get smushed against the wall.

DH and I have a problem with LOST. We get into phases where we watch it TONS. We are on season 3. I think we might be getting burnt out though because we haven't watched in a while. But for a while we didn't do much else but watch LOST. What is that show about Roxi?

Roxi- DANGIT. I hate when I screw that kinda thing up! I'm glad you decided to tell him. I just think that if you do have c/p you'll want his comfort and support. Let us know how it goes ok! Smile

So today is my son's birthday! He's FIVE!! Holy cow, it's gone so fast... yet it's been forever in some ways. I was looking at his baby photos last night. I love him sooo much! While I can't stand his dad, he did give me the best little boy. Patrick and I are going to spend the day with him and do things he wants to do. And then next week we are going to have a party. My parents are outta town (as you already know) so I decided to wait. We don't have very many gifts for him right now but I figure we can give him what we have and then for his party give him a little more.

Pat and I started talking about names. It took us a couple months to decide on Kamdyn Carter so we figure we'll start early. We don't like the girl names we had picked out anymore either so we have to come up with things.

I keep getting the feeling I'm having twins... So I'm super anxious for May 1.

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"Maddz" wrote:

DH and I have a problem with LOST. We get into phases where we watch it TONS. We are on season 3. I think we might be getting burnt out though because we haven't watched in a while. But for a while we didn't do much else but watch LOST. What is that show about Roxi?

Game of Thrones is about these 3 noble families who live in what seems to be medieval times but it's like in a different version of earth. There are dragons and lots of fighting. I'm not doing it any justice but it is AWESOME! If you like fantasy stuff, that is. I have been wanting to watch LOST for ages!! All my friends say it loses the plot around season 3 tho. We also become obsessed with series and end up doing marathons of them. DH watched each season of 24 in about 30 hours. I got bored after season 3. I tend to watch series just to fill in the spaces of the days. I don't like silence in the house and I get annoyed with radio DJ's so I end up having Netflix on all the time. I also like to go back to the series I watched when I was younger (like Charmed, Buffy, Angel, I even went through a teen angst period of watching The Secret Life of an American Teenager and One Tree Hill) and watch them in the right order.

"Maddz" wrote:

Roxi- DANGIT. I hate when I screw that kinda thing up! I'm glad you decided to tell him. I just think that if you do have c/p you'll want his comfort and support. Let us know how it goes ok! Smile

Woke him up and showed him the digi this morning. His response was "oh, you're pregnant". Bit of an anticlimax but I had just woken him up. He seemed a little more pleased after he'd had his coffee. He is very reserved about it tho.

"Maddz" wrote:

So today is my son's birthday! He's FIVE!! Holy cow, it's gone so fast... yet it's been forever in some ways. I was looking at his baby photos last night. I love him sooo much! While I can't stand his dad, he did give me the best little boy. Patrick and I are going to spend the day with him and do things he wants to do. And then next week we are going to have a party. My parents are outta town (as you already know) so I decided to wait. We don't have very many gifts for him right now but I figure we can give him what we have and then for his party give him a little more.

Enjoy the day. I still get all chocked up when I look back on my nephew's baby photos. He was my first baby-boy because he and my sister lived with me from age 6 months to around 2 years. He became so attached to me during that period that I could not leave the house without him if he was awake. He would stand at the door and scream for hours. He's 10 now!

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Roxi...sorry DH didn't have quite the reaction you were expecting. Maybe it just took the coffee for him to realize it was "real."

We made it through the Keyboard Kapers. The girls had a really fun time and are already asking if they can do it next year. There was a room full of theory games. They each played a solo and two duets and were "judged" on them. The judges gave them some really nice critiquing on how to improve their songs. They all got the same color ribbons for completing each center so it wasn't competitive. I took them out for lunch after. When we got home DD2 and 3 completed the experimenting for their Science Fair project. They are testing the absorbancy and durability/strength of different brands of paper towels. Tonight DD1 is a mass server at mass.

DH has really strange hours. He is "on-call" in the ER. Since we live only 3 minutes from the hospital he can be home with us when he doesn't have a patient in the ER. If he has a patient there, he needs to stay there. His call shifts vary anywhere from 12hrs up to 120 hrs. He's usually on-call about 350-400 hrs/month. I've gotten used to sleeping alone. If he gets called out after 9pm, he just stays at the hospital and sleeps there so he doesn't have to go back out in the middle of the night. There are even sometimes where I'm so used to having the bed to myself that I have a hard time sleeping when he's here.

I have a hard time believing I've known the girls for 7 years. I've known them for over half of their life. I always tease people that I got them at the perfect age...they were sleeping through the night and were potty trained.

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Meg: It sounds like the girls had a blast at the Keyboard Kapers. That is definitely something DH would like to send our kid/s to. He started learning to play the piano when he was 5 and also plays the guitar. I only started learning the piano at age 12 and didn't get very far. I sitll like to play the songs I know though.

I wasn't disappointed at his reaction, really. His reaction to the previous pregnancy was "oh! that was easy" Blum 3 because I'd made a huge deal about how it could take months/years because of my endometriosis. And he usually takes a while to wake up. I debated just leaving the test next to his phone while I went out to the dog park....

ROFL at your last paragraph!!

I have once again had the least productive Saturday ever. Even though (or maybe because) I get up at 7.30/8am the weekends to take the dog to the park I never seem to get anything else done. I always get so tired after lunch.

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I really wanted my girls to play the piano. This is their 5th year of lessons. I started taking lessons when I was in 4th grade and kept taking lessons until I graduated high school. I still enjoy sitting down and playing the piano. It's a good stress reliever. I also play violin. I started lessons 4 years ago. It was something I had always wanted to do. The same person that teaches me violin teaches the girls piano. She kind of lives at our house on Mondays since she comes here to do lessons. She starts mine at 2pm and leaves sometimes at 7pm when she is done with all the lessons.

Usually my weekends are not as productive as they are this weekend. We are pretty boring usually. With the end of the school year coming up things get busier.

DH is still crabby. Idk if it's still from our arguement on Thursday night of if he's just really tired. He went to bed at 2am this morning and was up again at 6am and has had a fairly busy day in the ER. So it's probably better that me and the girls are on the go most of this weekend.

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Meg - welcome to our club haha. Sorry I have been missing in action! I have no internet at home so only get on during the week! DBF and I were fine when I got home on Friday, he was just being a typical man. I go to work fretting over it and he acts like nothing happened grrrr.
I'm sorry to hear of your infertility, how did you handle that? Kudos to you for taking on DHs daughters! That must have been so hard on them losing their Mum, how did they take to you? Sorry to be so nosy but it genuinely interests me.

Maddie - I have an 8 month old kitty - I love her too bits but DBF can't stand her so it looks like I will need to find her a new home. DD will be devastated!

MIL is over at the moment so we've been entertaining her - it is so difficult, she moans about everything. Must be where DBF gets it from! haha.

xx

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DH's mood is much better. I think he was just burnt out with work. The infertility really stunk! It was the worst thing I've ever gone through. I let it consume me so much that I wasn't being a good wife or mom and it was very selfish of me. I think I would've had a much harder time accepting that I'd never have bio children if I did not have the girls. So I was very fortunate that way. I can't imagine if I didn't have any children. It's hard to believe that it's been 3 years since my last IVF cycle. Even thought I've come to acceptance I still have times where I feel sorry for myself that I will never experience being pregnant, giving birth and raising a child from a newborn. I missed out on all those times with the girls. When I was coming to the decision of being done I really weighed the pros and cons. It sounds horrible that I did that but it was a way for me to come to acceptance. Now I'm at the point that I don't want to have more children since the girls are getting older. I'll be 37 years old and have all of my children out of the house and in college. DH and I never got time when we were first married to do things newlyweds do so we'll spend time doing that later in life. The girls have always been receptive of me. They were at such a young age when their mom died that I'm the only person they remember in their life as a mom. They call me by my first name, not my mom, but that is because I call myself by my first name to them. DD3 always says she happy I married her dad so she had a mom to raise her.

Kristi...sorry you are going to have to get rid of your cat. How long has MIL been visiting?

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